Scenario:
Guy wishes to marry girl X. X is from a wealthy family and is used to a certain lifestyle. The guy, on the other hand is from a lower middle class family. He has not finished his studies yet.
Point: It’s wrong to even dream of marriage if you are not financially stable. How will he support a girl who is used to having everything? We could sit here and write reams and reams of pages on marriage is all about commitment etc etc etc. If they get married everything will go down the gutter.
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does x like him back?
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Girls never cope with having to drop their standards - whatever they say.....
Look closer to home buddy!
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Blackforest:
No. She finds the whole idea wrong for several reasons:
1) She is not willing to struggle
2) She is not willing to give up her luxuries
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wait it out till he finishes his studies and able to provide for her
I do not think people are getting the essence of this thread. I want people to comment on whether or not it is wrong for the guy to be thinking of marriage. It is not fair to expect X to change her ways. She does not want to marry him
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Girl needs to be compromising, she needs to acknowledge the fact that she is marrying someone from a much lower financial class than her and there will be difficulties. Some manage to go through with it and manage to do alright but those who are ladlies of their parents and probably for example the only daughter of their parents and are not used to being frugal, it is very hard for them. Money is not everything, agreed but in this time and age and oh the economic crisis whose after effects still loom over us like a dark cloud we should be more vigilant and understanding. Either she get ready to work her ass off and support her low class hubby or she tries to find a husband who at least is from a middle to upper class family.
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Aarzoo , its as simple as this : you do not know swimming but you are about to jump into the pool, to save someone from drowning, will you survive or drown?
Marriage is the same really. Life is not all rosy, even if she says she is willing to compromise, you cannot run your home based on your love for her. Financial crisis can bring huge nerve wrecking issues in a marriage. you havnt completed your education yet, you wont get a proper job. when you marry you will have kids. The responsibilities never end. they only increase.
you are not ready yet to jump into the pool. Learn to swim first and then jump into the pool is my honest advise to you.
A simple answer to your question : The girl is not wrong, she is only being practical. you on the other hand are on the wrong track. your priority should be to settle yourself first and then think about marriage and responsibility.
I do not think people are getting the essence of this thread. I want people to comment on whether or not it is wrong for the guy to be thinking of marriage. It is not fair to expect X to change her ways. *She does not want to marry him *
Isn't that the end of story? The scenario would be different if the girl was deeply in love and wanted to marry.
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If that's why she is rejecting the guy, then he needs to rethink why he is marrying her in the first place? Is it her cup size? The booty? Her way of talking? Her hair? Yeah well. Maybe you need to find better reasons for marriage.
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Thank you so much CB ji. This is exactly what I was trying to say in my initial post.
I do not think people are getting the essence of this thread. I want people to comment on whether or not it is wrong for the guy to be thinking of marriage. It is not fair to expect X to change her ways. She does not want to marry him
Guy can think or dream about marrying Chalize Theron....but will Ms Theron be willing to down-scale for the guy.
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^ is she even singlee
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if she is so concerened about her life style then she should find a wealthy person. if NOT, then both of them work whatever job they can find and then improve on their education/skill/experience and move up the ladder....tahst what most immigrants do...start at the bottom anmd work ur way up. it requires time, patience and resolve. sometimes, the second generation reaps the reward.
I do not think people are getting the essence of this thread. I want people to comment on whether or not it is wrong for the guy to be thinking of marriage. It is not fair to expect X to change her ways. She does not want to marry him
If she does not want to marry him right now because he isnt done with his studies, I get it. He isnt stable enough to support a family.
If she is expecting him to match her father in being able to provide for all of her luxuries for the rest of her life, she is wrong.
There will be financial adjustments, no matter where you go or who you marry. Before marriage, you are only responsible for the clothes on your back. After marriage, you are also responsible for one other person.
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the thing is if he's a real nice guy losing him over luxurious life is a mistake. time doesn't stay same. he might succeed in life with time. when we got married we were nothing but now MA my hubby is at a point where ppl just envy him. same for many of his class fellows who started life as a pizza guy or cab driver n now earning in 6 figures. so if the guy is good, getting good education and hardworking give it some time. otherwise move on.
i truly believe k Allah ne jitna nasseb main likha ho mil ker rehta hai. if money is in ur naseeb u'll hav it if not even a prince might turn into a beggar.
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does princess expect to be living off somebody elses hard work forever?
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She is clearly not worth the effort/hassle. The guy deserves better. The 'doll' will find her way from her daddy's pocket to her sugar daddy's pocket.
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Why would a girl marry a kangla?............... *unless she's stupid.*
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^ she said he hasn't finished his education yet. Once he does that and starts working, then he should marry a sensible lady who understands the worth of a dollar earned, and not some stupid brat.