Arrange Marriage

[strangeworld]

Re: Arrange Marriage

@MustafaQuraishi

There is one thing which has always bothered me that if someone is meeting “someone” for potential rishta, don’t you guys thing that the next person will always try to show the “best” of their personality just to impress ? It doesn’t matter if its a guy or a girl.

For example, lets say i meet a girl and we upfront say that we are seeing each other for “possibility of rishta”. Lets say I am desperate to get hooked and I might try to be nice, be humble, show off all those things which possibly a decent girl want just to impress her so that we can get married.

For that reason, I am always very skeptical when someone tells me that they met someone for rishta perspective and the next person seemed quiet nice. Well, of course they will be nice because they are meeting you to get married. For that one reason, I have always avoided such meeting.

What do you guys say ?

p.s:
the reason i gave my example is that i don’t want to put some words and lets this forum an excuse to fight over the example rather than actual question.

That’s 100% correct. Specially when it comes to girls they’re pretty good and hiding $hit, guys on the other hand are relatively less.

But when it comes to long casual conversations, getting married to the girl is not the concern of the guys some of the times but in case of girls if they’re talking to a guy most of the time their goal is to get married.

I think the best way to go for is to go for an arranged setup, because you can’t read anything by the cover but family background/lifestyle is the only thing that can tell you a lot about that person.

It’s very easy to tell about a girl by looking at her mother and same applies to the father and son. But if you go for one on one conversation style which is a norm now a days you’ll not be able to see the real person until you marry them.