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And I think the suhaag raat can wait until after he's done with the family reunion as well.
Lady, that's the PLAN! ;)
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No??? ... so you've never seen newly weds in public hanging on to each other, kissing ... holding hands ... giggling????
time spent (even quality time) with extended family hardly sets the stage/mood for romance! .... after all brain is the biggest sexual organ ....
if extended family (or their presence) takes away the mood then no sex would ever happen inside the bedroom on the very first night cause there is whole family in the same house.
Definition of honeymoon: a vacation or trip taken by a newly married couple.
did definition say that it should be just them? :D
in that case he should be even more considerate about her and spend whatever time he can have with her rather than with his parents.... did he not spend his all life with his parents...? maa baap ko saari mohabat aakhir inn hi 5days main kiyon dikhani hai?
so now he should not spend anymore? WHy is that we are taking away from maa baap to give to new bride. Why cant we find a balance?
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*really…? i thought u live in USA…
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this is a typical line of MILs … and u learned it from???
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In that case they should spend time together as a family, and not call it honeymoon. They can always go for their honeymoon once they're back in the US.
LucyMay, I like you. Do you have a sister?
Errm, I am looking for a suitable match for my cousin brother.
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really....? i thought u live in USA...... * **this is a typical line of MILs ... and u learned it from???*
I m not in USA, tell me more about what happen in USA pleeeeejjjj
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really....? i thought u live in USA...... * **this is a typical line of MILs ... and u learned it from???*
really ..
and I thought ...
well nvmnd
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Good point.
Islamically (I think) its better to stay close to your family then to go away on a trip **that does not add any value in your life in the long term.
**I mean, its not that the couples who did not go on honeymoon cant have a happy marriage, similarly its not that the couples who went on honeymoons did not experience divorce.
I disagree with the bold part. Your honeymoon can give you beautiful memories that will last you a life time. It helps bring the couple together after the stressful weeks leading to the wedding, the memories you share will only make your bond stronger.
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in laws should think twice no thrice before tagging along on the honeymoon...after all they were newly wed too if rewinding a few decades !
other than that...the couples should definitely spend time together with the family as well but a couple of days of their own ..esp if it's an arranged marriage is necessary IMO
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did definition say that it should be just them? :D
LoLS.
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Isnt it funny how honeymoon ke waqt pooray khandaan ko ubal ubal ke pyaar araha hota hai? 
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LucyMay, I like you. Do you have a sister?
Errm, I am looking for a suitable match for my cousin brother.
Lol, yes, but she definitely wouldn't let inlaws accompany her on her honeymoon :p
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In this case, I think it makes more sense to go on aHoneymoon later. I don't see why any sensible woman would disagree. I know a lot of cases where honeymoon was postponed due to family issues. Not aBig deal, I would have been ok with it!
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I disagree with the bold part. Your honeymoon can give you beautiful memories that will last you a life time. It helps bring the couple together after the stressful weeks leading to the wedding, the memories you share will only make your bond stronger.
so the couple who went on honeymoon would never get divorced, right? But they do. That means that the added value was either fake or temporary.
after all they were newly wed too if rewinding a few decades !
and they never got a time alone ....so its their way of getting back at the society
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jab sasso maa paanch paanch laakh ka zevar mounh dikhai main de rahi hoti hain, tab yeah pyar bura nahi lugta
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*if extended family (or their presence) takes away the mood then no sex would ever happen inside the bedroom on the very first night cause there is whole family in the same house. *
I never said their presence ... I said time spent ... its the actual interaction for extended period of time that kills the libido :D
wedding day/night ... bride/groom are up on stage with minimal (superficial at best) interaction with family n friends ....
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and they never got a time alone ....so its their way of getting back at the society
i wouldnt do something to get back on my future generation just because i was deprived of it - whatever the constraints maybe .. i wouldnt want to be on the wrong side of my damad/bahu ..right from the start .. knowing that we get ample opportunities to get on the warpath :D
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its better to stay close to your family then to go away on a trip that does not add any value in your life in the long term.
By that logic, people shouldn't ever go on any vacations or trips because they add no value in their lives. Why go sightseeing? Why eat out at a restaurant? Why ever leave the house agar koi kaam na ho? Save money and sit at home. Spend time with the family there.
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There's a saying, begin as you mean to go on. Neglecting your new wife in the first few days after marriage (and I'm not talking about taking her away on a honeymoon), in favour of spending time with your family would result in bad feelings for any woman. It sets a pattern for the rest of the married life.
No one is saying ignore ailing mom amma baba, BUT the husband needs to make an effort with the new wife that demonstates that she's important to him and that he wants to spend time with her, outside of the bedroom as well.
I know the question in the thread is a narrowly defined question, but not going on the honeymoon is one thing TAKING the parents on the honeymoon is something else. Better to not go at all, then to go with the whole family or at least then, don't pretend it's a honeymoon for the couple. It isn't - it's a family vacation.
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Honestly, I've never heard of in-laws wanting to tag along.
The discussion is quite pointless. I love how people are attacking in-laws without even thinking about how realistic the scenario really is.
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so the couple who went on honeymoon would never get divorced, right? But they do. That means that the added value was either fake or temporary.
TLK jee, nothing can guarantee that a couple won't get divorced! I just said it will make their bond stronger, a nice way to begin their new relationship, no?