your initial reaction when you come across a Divorced desi lady?

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Re: your initial reaction when you come across a Divorced desi lady?

I dont think you can call it ruining the second one, as most of the time during a halala the parties involved have agreed upon it from the beginning .. I'm purely speaking about halala which is done only to get married again to husband no. 1.. Not a situation which arose with the time.

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Re: your initial reaction when you come across a Divorced desi lady?

^ that's what I meant by "halala" not what they show on Pakistani TV these days. I am going to open another thread so I don't up derailing this one.

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what is the latest on me disgusting u ?

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^ Pardon me? Am I missing anything here?

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Yes, u said I disgust you.... Coz i compared a porn star with lady who wants to do halala... But that was you judging me, i was comparing responses they will get not personalities.

You went on making a thread(atleast thats how u started the thread), after reading my post which cleared up that Lady doing halal isnt being compared to porn star, Its the response both will get from guppies which is being compared.

Now u clearly dont realize u r being ignorant here, so i wanted to make sure u r being ignorant after understanding my response.

If on the other hand if u were unable to understand my response becoz of some technical problems 11 cm behind ur forhead then i cud totally pardon u.

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Maybe my English is not as fluent as yours, but I honestly don't get what you mean to say there.

I have to admit I simply love how you edit your posts again & again. Makes me wonder what goes in that brain of yours while you reread your posts & change errors you think you make while replying to me in a haste.

The reason I opened the thread was because after reading reactions over hear I wanted to know what people think of a woman who has done a "Halala" When I asked the same question I realized I might end up derailing this thread.

Me being ignorant or not if you wanted to say that "others" will compare her to a porn star. You could have said that in simple words, rather than posting something that had double meanings.

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Well lets start with edit... i said 20 cm earlier than i realized that too far back so i made it 11 cm. then i saw "response" spelled "reponse" so i edited again.

rest lets, hmmm nevermind

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Re: your initial reaction when you come across a Divorced desi lady?

rather than editing that too far back = thats too far back

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Pakilarka initially you hadn't even bothered to mention anything about this organ that lies behind our foreheads. You went back & added that sentence. Just like how you edited your post in the morning.

But hey if that makes you feel better about yourself, then by all means go for it. Who am I to say anything. Yeah if you are posting on public forums & not talking to someone face to face then be wise & chose your words carefully because you might be meaning to say something else & the reader might make a different meaning out of it.

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ohhh so thats what its all about... U read the orginal response... i deleted it coz i thought i was being personal.

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Also, i've lived with my tongue for 26 years now... I know the difference between a forum and real life. :) thanks for advice.

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please don't fight and derail the thread.
it has nothing to do with your views on divorced women

I don't really care if they are divorced, married or single. Its taboo here to talk about divorced couples parents while we're quite open about it in Australia. I guess once it becomes common people relax on the idea of talking about it.

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Re: your initial reaction when you come across a Divorced desi lady?

A mere feeling isn't enough to be constituted for the seat of belief. Unless you expect it to fail miserably. Cant do.

Divorce on the other hand. A concept that was programmed within our minds soon after logic chose to own and enlighten us. The terminology behind the "one foot in the grave" comment I couldn't grasp on to, but speaking about just the hiding bit. People who've spared a thought to read what Islam has to say about a divorced woman and truly understand the message. Wouldn't judge or react differently.

The most I could personally do is vouch to the grave the fact that divorced ladies do end up getting married and lead a normal healthy life, exactly the same way the other crop of the same field does.

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Re: your initial reaction when you come across a Divorced desi lady?

Run far away from them. They dont’ know how to manage their own home, so they will try every means to ruin yours.

:rolleyes:

(that was sarcasm..in case that was lost on any one :hoonh: )

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Yes, I’m surprised no-one has said ‘hide my husband’ :rolleyes: After all it’s only a ‘certain’ type of woman who gets divorced..

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lol, to be fair I don’t think these presumptions are misfounded, my ex is divorced for a reason - she’s bat**** insane, unfortunately all divorcees get tarred with the same brush. Technically if everyone avoids her like the plague, they won’t get hitched with someone bat**** instane now.

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Re: your initial reaction when you come across a Divorced desi lady?

so you're saying you did nothing wrong?
that she magically turned insane after the wedding?

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My initial reaction: OMG, she is hot!

that opinion did not change even when I came to know she is divorced except I thought that guy is a loser.

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i have seen ppl who are quite educated react exactly like desi stupids wen it comes to divorce,specially in gals case....like the life is ended for her,its ok to be divorce rather then living wid the person ur not happy wid..(for ani other reason)....the parents of the gal are treated diffrently,so the whole family gets affected by the strange behaviour of the ppl who r not directly affected by the divorce or even associated with it....
here where i live the situation is far better then Pakistan..

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Yep, she hid her craziness before and literally on the walima night it all her crazy surfaced. (pretended that she thought the hotel room was caving in on her head)