Well this question for desi girls living in Europe,USA, Canada and Aus etc.I was reading the comments of girls on this forum on the difficulties of finding a decent guy.Well there is third category of guys “International students and Work Permit” Holders.There are thousand of pakistani guys who are on this status in europe and north america and dont wana go back because of the political situation back home.These guys study here,work ,get to know the culture,mostly open minded (better than the guys back home),not only willing but eager to integrate.But they do want their permenant resident card or green card.They can be a good catch.what do the girls think?
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Why not go back to Pakistan and marry a girl who was raised the same way you were?
We American girls are too wild.
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i personally wouldnt because at the back of my mind i would always be thinking that he's marrying me for citizenship... something similar to this happend recently to a close family friend's daughter. she got married to a guy here on a work permit, they have 2 sons together one who was only born a few months ago. the guy recently acquired citizenship and now he acts as if he's not even married. he doesn't talk to his wife at all and its as if he is living a seperate life. the saddest part is that he doesn't even acknowledge is own sons. he just pushes them away and doesn't want to get involved in anything. he acts as if they are not even his children.
i know not EVERY guy is like this and this is most likely an extreme example but still its something that would worry me enough to want to marry someone who is british born.
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Well most of these guys dont mind wild american desi girls.because they dont have that luxury of the desi girls who have permenant resident or citizenship.So they either wana hook up with a girl who has that or get their moms to find a girl in these countries because after living in the west for 4 or 5 yrs its difficult to adjust back home!
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Internaional students get westernized pretty fast.They are also more responsible and do house hold stuff themselves like cleaning, doing dishes as they are on their own.After spending so much money no on e really wana go back!
Well most of these guys dont mind wild american desi girls.because they dont have that luxury of the desi girls who have permenant resident or citizenship.So they either wana hook up with a girl who has that or get their moms to find a girl in these countries because after living in the west for 4 or 5 yrs its difficult to adjust back home!
So, you're saying such a male student is just looking for an opportunity for citizenship/green card?
I never thought it was possible.
Internaional students get westernized pretty fast.They are also more responsible and do house hold stuff themselves like cleaning, doing dishes as they are on their own.After spending so much money no on e really wana go back!
It is funny, someone want to find a wife not for love but for visa. Moreover OP is marketing himself is perfect ghar damaad or servant doing household job.
One retarded chap made some inquires regarding my daughter, the first question they asked if she has citizenship, it really pissed me off.
I know it is happening but it is too blatantly difficult to stomach.
For OP do not make yourself so cheap, even if you want to marry for visa try to find win win solution by socializing in the right circle and find the right match so at least.
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No I am not saying that they just looking for that but that is a "major concern".They dont have the option of getting the girl from back homr because now the guys would be more westernized and further more the "legal lekuna" would continue.they are already integrated into the society and doind jobs and further sutides.In this case they have to find a girl or engage a desi rista karane walee aunties by paying her some fee who would look a girl for him.......
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farhan has a point, many international students especially those who go overseas for undergrad are pretty young, 17-18 years old, so just as they are becoming their own person they are in a different culture. Its not always about money either, its just where they feel more comfortable.
obviously who they are and what they are like depends on many factors such as family background, personal growth, how adaptable they are etc etc.
Reverse culture shock is a real thing even for ppl who have spent considerable amount of time in a country but go to another place and then come back.
The assertion that going for someone like that would create doubts whether the marriage was for immigration is a consideration, but is it really more than some chica going for wealthy doc or businessman, and the doubt that she went for the money..or would having those doubts be a diff ballgame?
Well most of these guys dont mind wild american desi girls.because they dont have that luxury of the desi girls who have permenant resident or citizenship.So they either wana hook up with a girl who has that or get their moms to find a girl in these countries because after living in the west for 4 or 5 yrs its difficult to adjust back home!
So you are basically admitting this is the reason behind why these guys want to get married to a girl here. Well dude, that is exactly the reason why girls here are hesitant on marrying a guy from over there. Amreekan girls deserve to be wanted for reasons other than greencard and citizenship reasons. Thanks.
It is funny, someone want to find a wife not for love but for visa. Moreover OP is marketing himself is perfect ghar damaad or servant doing household job.
One retarded chap made some inquires regarding my daughter, the first question they asked if she has citizenship, it really pissed me off.
I know it is happening but it is too blatantly difficult to stomach.
For OP do not make yourself so cheap, even if you want to marry for visa try to find win win solution by socializing in the right circle and find the right match so at least.
No I am not marketing my self.Yes I am international student and I have found some one and I was open about the issue.I dont get it why it is difficult to stomach?
No I am not marketing my self.Yes I am international student and I have found some one and I was open about the issue.I dont get it why it is difficult to stomach?
Our girls are not so cheap or desperate to marry someone just to give him visa.
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two things:
don't tar everyone with the same brush. for every 100 guys, 99 might be just after staying in this country but 1 might be genuine. it can be worth trying to find out.
secondly, everyone should be realistic in expectations, couples usually end up fairly well matched in what they have to offer each other. an average looking guy with a menial job can't expect a supermodel wife and the opposite.
Our girls are not so cheap or desperate to marry someone just to give him visa.
Thank GOd not every one is like U.Well their is cheapness or desperation involved with it.Either u accept it or u dont.These guys dont need "visa".They are already in the country legal status.The question is do the desi community accept it as a whole?
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There are no set rules of who should get married to whom. People from vastly different backgrounds get married all the time. Gupshup is not a cross section of Pakistani and ABCD mentality.
farhan has a point, many international students especially those who go overseas for undergrad are pretty young, 17-18 years old, so just as they are becoming their own person they are in a different culture. Its not always about money either, its just where they feel more comfortable.
This is just my experience from undergrad. I am not generalizing the entire population. But those young 17-18 year olds that came over for their studies for the most part were super wild. Suddenly they had all this freedom, the amenities, the resources to "become their own person". The guys at my university (and I went to a HUGE school...over 30 thousand undergrad students... a huge chunk were overseas students) were especially all about Indian girls. Overseas Indian girls though. There were not that many paki girls that were studying abroad. But there were a lot of Indian girls. With those girls, they were able to feel comfortable with them due to their similar backgrounds and similar circumstances in their new environment. Indian girls are generally more wild than Paki girls as well (once again...only from my experience at my school). Us paki girls got turned off by this. Beyond the usual concerns about "he's only interested in me for citizenship reasons", there were the usual different upbringings and mentalities, and then the turn off about how wild some of these guys got and how close they became with their Indian overseas chicas.
True story: An overseas paki guy at my school married a gori. For citizenship reasons. But he paid her. He did not have that much money obvi being a student and only having a part time job. So all of his buddies helped him out by pitching in. It was just another turn off....like ok..cant believe that guy did that..and can't believe his buddies are supporting him.
I heard the guy's divorced now.
Stories like these just make girls here skeptical.
No, you’re not. You’re fobs. :pcg:
Yes they fobs and might have an accent.But they do deserve some credit for studying and working alone.Some in very difficult financial situation unlike desis who were born here and have got the support of their parents.Well if desi dont pay any heed to them they will go for Gories who dont carry any bias for their accent or fob!
Thank GOd not every one is like U.Well their is cheapness or desperation involved with it.Either u accept it or u dont.These guys dont need "visa".They are already in the country legal status.The question is do the desi community accept it as a whole?
Thanks for accepting this.
Whether desi community accept it or not, generally not but you always can get lucky somewhere.
You might have a visa that would end as soon as you complete your education, as you mention that in order to get this lacuna you seeking easy way out.
Anyway good luck for your immigration search.