That’s a beautiful picture! 10 yrs? wow! congratulations!
Why was his family against it?
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Thanks Desigirl and Your President...his family was against it because we are different races. He's Pakistani and I am Mexican.
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^ ugh.. Sheer ignorance.
Anyway, I’m glad you’re happy and celebrating 10 wonderful years! 
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^ great pic! congratulations! :)
Was if for L.O.V.E?
NO!!! Definitely not, i found myself very reluctantly getting married to a boy i had never even seen b4 in my life, while on a holiday in pakistan. My parents thought this is how marriages r arranged. Prepared to runaway after seeing him, but circumstances were such that i saw him after being nikahified and rukhsatied to his house in one night.
So thats how i married him, then met him, and the first thing i said to him is i want a divorce cos i dont c this as marriage. He said fair enough, but don't u think we should at least take a few days to get to know eachother after your parents have gone to all this trouble? So i said fair enough, cos he seemed like a decent fellow.
And he turned out to be a jolly good chap and i do not think i could ever have found a better person to marry than him, Mashallah!
So u c, sometimes arranged marriages have a silver lining, but i would never condone the way it happened with me.
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^ are you serious, RH???
your parents would do that???
i'm so happy it worked out for you but man, the risk!
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^ Crazy risk..!
But Yes, it's wonderful they worked out. RH, do you have wedding pictures? We'd all love to see! How long have you been married?
Yes, its true, i didn't mean to take the risk, i thought i'd check him out and do a runner if necessary, but fate conspired against me (or for me!).
My parents very soon after that decided that it was the WRONG way to go about arranging a marriage and have completely changed their ways with my siblings. i.e. they r now normal when it comes to choosing spouses / allowing the kids to choose for themselves.
I have pix, but i don't want to share them on GS cos i wouldnt want to embarrass myself in front of the whole world! LOL. Besides, it was a poorly organised shambles of a wedding (in my view) and i was just carried along like a lamb to the slaughter so really, i wouldnt want anyone to see them. Sorry girls!
Been married for over 7 years now and I don't regret it at all, just the way it came about. Sometimes i used to tell hubby that if we had met b4 we could have had a happier wedding, but he says we can't change the past and the wedding is just one day, its the rest of the married life that really matters. Sometimes ppl have a really great wonderful wedding, but their married life is not so good, we r grateful that Allah has blessed us with eachother (Alhamdulillah).
So now i don't worry about that day or dwell on regrets bcos i'm living life today, not in yesterday.
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ours was love which was then arranged.. or should i say it was arranged, we fell in love and then it was arranged again?
DesiMunda of Gs introduced me to his cousin who lives in denmark. we were meant to meet up in england where i had gone for summer vacations but it just didnt happen and things were about to never happen, except for the little voice in my head going give him another chance... so we stayed in touch online and after 6 months of chatting, we agreed to an engagement... my parents were totally against it but went along cuz ive always made responsible decisions ... so i met my husband to be for the first time 2 days before our engagement and even then, i only met his dad and him. (his mom and sis couldnt come)... my folks liked him well enuff and we got engaged... 4 months later, we got married and its been a yr this march :) things are going great... no marriage is perfect and there have been A LOT OF WORK and ongoing work to better the marriage... but thats the best part.. the fact that we are both willing to change ourselves to work better with the other. couldnt have asked for a better spouse :)
Yes, its true, i didn't mean to take the risk, i thought i'd check him out and do a runner if necessary, but fate conspired against me (or for me!).
My parents very soon after that decided that it was the WRONG way to go about arranging a marriage and have completely changed their ways with my siblings. i.e. they r now normal when it comes to choosing spouses / allowing the kids to choose for themselves.
I have pix, but i don't want to share them on GS cos i wouldnt want to embarrass myself in front of the whole world! LOL. Besides, it was a poorly organised shambles of a wedding (in my view) and i was just carried along like a lamb to the slaughter so really, i wouldnt want anyone to see them. Sorry girls!
Been married for over 7 years now and I don't regret it at all, just the way it came about. Sometimes i used to tell hubby that if we had met b4 we could have had a happier wedding, but he says we can't change the past and the wedding is just one day, its the rest of the married life that really matters. Sometimes ppl have a really great wonderful wedding, but their married life is not so good, we r grateful that Allah has blessed us with eachother (Alhamdulillah).
So now i don't worry about that day or dwell on regrets bcos i'm living life today, not in yesterday.
That's a great attitude... :)
ours was love which was then arranged.. or should i say it was arranged, we fell in love and then it was arranged again?
DesiMunda of Gs introduced me to his cousin who lives in denmark. we were meant to meet up in england where i had gone for summer vacations but it just didnt happen and things were about to never happen, except for the little voice in my head going give him another chance... so we stayed in touch online and after 6 months of chatting, we agreed to an engagement... my parents were totally against it but went along cuz ive always made responsible decisions ... so i met my husband to be for the first time 2 days before our engagement and even then, i only met his dad and him. (his mom and sis couldnt come)... my folks liked him well enuff and we got engaged... 4 months later, we got married and its been a yr this march :) things are going great... no marriage is perfect and there have been A LOT OF WORK and ongoing work to better the marriage... but thats the best part.. the fact that we are both willing to change ourselves to work better with the other. couldnt have asked for a better spouse :)
I love the fact that your courtship was 4 months. I do think if nothing major is stopping you, you should marry soon after an engagement.
Congratulations of your 1st anniversary :)
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still looking :(
still looking :(
Look harder.
arranged or love marriage??
i was watching Joda Akbar today (bollywood film) and i started thinking about those who only see their spouses for the first time on their wedding night.... but their love story was still so romantic!
So I thought id get some nice stories on here, would love to hear how everyone met their husbands / hubby -to-be's.
if love marriage, how did it happen, and did things change after marriage ? if arranged, did u fall in love after marriage?im so excited to hear responses.... im such a girl lol!!
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i was watching Joda Akbar today (bollywood film) and i** started thinking about those who only see their spouses for the first time on their wedding night...**
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You are still trapped in 1960s ... wake up!
Regarding marriage: no matter arranged or not, in both the cases you gotta believe in love and respect...
So I thought id get some nice stories on here, would love to hear how everyone met their husbands / hubby -to-be's.
I have not met my husband yet.
and when I do, it may be a little odd anyways.
not sure how I will introduce him to my wife and kids
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harsh. i was merely quoting from a movie i watched in which this was the case. although i myself am having a love marriage (thus am clearly not stuck in the 1960's), arranged marriages (though varying from the one that I mentioned above) are still hugely relevant, and there are still many societies ''trapped in the 1960s'' as you would put it, although i'm sure they wouldn't appreciate being slighted for their traditions.
back to my original question anyone?
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Even for most arranged marriages today the bride and groom at least see one another. Most even talk...and its not like they're forced to marry in most cases...they always have a choice.
And I had a mix between arranged/love marriage :)
I have not met my husband yet. and when I do, it may be a little odd anyways. not sure how I will introduce him to my wife and kids
lol