these days arrange marrige still exist......but yea now the girl and boy meet at least once before marrige ..
my best friend got arrange marrige recently and she saw the guy for the first time on her suhaag raat........she was in hong kong and her hubby was in pak thats y they didnt met before but yes she did saw his pic.........before marrige i always use to tell her that you should at least went to pak and met him once before getting engaged but she was like oh my mom likes him so he must be perfect........she got married 2 months before and she is happy....
well for me i dont beleive in arrange marrige but yes i agree that these days it still exist
harsh. i was merely quoting from a movie i watched in which this was the case. although i myself am having a love marriage (thus am clearly not stuck in the 1960's), arranged marriages (though varying from the one that I mentioned above) are still hugely relevant, and there are still many societies ''trapped in the 1960s'' as you would put it, although i'm sure they wouldn't appreciate being slighted for their traditions.
back to my original question anyone?
Accept an apology for finding t harsh which surely I didn't meant though!
but I assure you that you can't find any couple nowadays who see themselves first time at the wedding night... , this is one technology era where people have computer , internet and cell / mobile phones, for newest generation this burqa / dopatta / parda etc is something historical, that can be seen only in musium soon ... so this is why I try to shake you / wake you up ... :-)
lets share ur ideas abt wats better in ur idea...love or arranged marriage & also tell reason behind it...
also share ur ideas abt how to come to know abt May To be ur husband??? i mean wats best procces to know abt him like be4 engagment in proposal time or relation in engagment to come to know abt him or only relation should be after wedding???
I cant really understand what you said on the second bit.
But my view is, wether its arranged or love marriage. Theres no difference, as long as you both have love, respect and care for each other, you can learn to understand each other over time. And get to know each other. As long as its not a forced marriage it doesnt matter which ever it is. And none is 'better' i guess love is more 'ideal' because you got to know that person over many years. Whilst arranged you only get a limited amount of time, before you can say yes or no.
i have a similar question - my parents are trying to set me up with this guy but we can't actually meet for a few weeks so we've exchanged a few emails but now not really sure where to take it...any advice from anyone who went through this "arranged"/getting set up process?
love and arranged...
da guy luved me.. i dint no he existed :P( even though we r cousins) lol hehe he asked for my hand in marriage.. my parents said yes..lol
so from his side...love
from my side..arrange..loll
love or arranged marriage...both have their own risks..i think one should marry someone who u really love...never come under pressure of parents coz u will regret it forever...but their is no surity if love marriage will be successful or not..same goes for arrange..so marriage overall is a risk
love or arranged marriage...both have their own risks..i think one should marry someone who u really love...never come under pressure of parents coz u will regret it forever...but their is no surity if love marriage will be successful or not..same goes for arrange..so marriage overall is a risk
I totally agree..whether or nt u love the person before shaadi is no guarantee that ure marriage will last longer or b strnger than an arranged one..luk at goray..all they knw is love marriage n then u see how many affairs either person has etc etc idnt mean to say that arranged ones r better.They bare the same risks..iguess it all cums dwn to hw much effrt u put into it cz as we all knw being married isnt jst a walk in the park..n love wont help all the tym..bt tats jst my opinion :D
Mine = Love
We have known each other for two good years and are getting married in July InshAllah. but I do strongly believe that the parents-in law have to fully agree in order for the couple to stay happy. Free advice ladies, regardless of if its love or arrange Remember the way you start your relationship is the way its always going to be, always appreciate your partner for every little thing he does. it's just as important as respect, understanding & trust among the two. It motivates them to remain the same through out the relationship. ALSO, try to marry someone 4-5 years older. Always respect & love your in-laws & hopefully they will treat you like their own.