we should all be really careful when we make statements about the Propet SAW's life. He didn't "fall in love with Khadijah r.a before marriage and then marry her" (I have never come across any such material, if you have, could you plz forward it to me). Hazrat Khadijah was impressed by his character, his good name, his honesty, and that is why she sent her trusted friend Nafisa with the proposal. The Prophet SAW accepted and sent his Uncles to Hazrat Khadijah's house to talk through details. A bit different to what we refer to as "love marriages" these days ain't it?
well thats what I would consider true 'paak' love....untainted and full of respect.
you cannot love someone without respecting them...that is a given.......so I do think 'love marriage'...is a confusing term for some...maybe we have a different concept of love marriage....when you like someone and have respect for them...AND want to spend your life with them..based on the qualities of the person..its the love and respect that drives you to commit to them...(i am not talking about the mangnis...they dont fall into the proper commitment catagory)...
on the other hand....the dating and dumping solution of today's test drive tradition.....that involves hurting/heart-breaking...drama...has left a sour taste to the meaning of the term 'love-marriage'...where parents have become hesitant...and dont take their children seriously...based on the sporadic dating scene of today's generation......mere observations for some who want to prevent such trouble in families...and a hard learned lesson for others...
so love marriage is not an issue here...its how we deal with each other BEFORE & AFTER getting married to the one we love..or whoever.....no matter who picked our mates.
Started chatting on Monday, spoke on the fone on wednesday told our famillies on Friday our baat was pakka'ed on Saturday adn our engagement was Sunday. :@:
well thats what I would consider true 'paak' love....untainted and full of respect.
you cannot love someone without respecting them...that is a given.......so I do think 'love marriage'...is a confusing term for some...maybe we have a different concept of love marriage....when you like someone and have respect for them...AND want to spend your life with them..based on the qualities of the person..its the love and respect that drives you to commit to them...(i am not talking about the mangnis...they dont fall into the proper commitment catagory)...
on the other hand....the dating and dumping solution of today's test drive tradition.....that involves hurting/heart-breaking...drama...has left a sour taste to the meaning of the term 'love-marriage'...where parents have become hesitant...and dont take their children seriously...based on the sporadic dating scene of today's generation......mere observations for some who want to prevent such trouble in families...and a hard learned lesson for others...
so love marriage is not an issue here...its how we deal with each other BEFORE & AFTER getting married to the one we love..or whoever.....no matter who picked our mates.
I agree. my comment was based in the context of what a previous poster claimed, that the "Prophet SAW and Hazrat Khadijah fell "in love" and THEN got married". It didn't happen that way and hence the response.
Of course there is no love without respect, but there can be respect without love right? I can only admire the sort of relationship our Mother and the Prophet had, but it was only respect first, and i guess love resulted through marriage, not before.
I guess it can be termed as a "passand ki shaadi" (and there is NOTHING wrong with that Islamically speaking), but why do we only see that much and not how the two parties behaved while they were still na-mahrams to one another?
I've known my husband since I was 15 and he was 17. We met at a trip to Pk. His mom n my mom are cousins...in the beginning he was so shy....never interacted with me, allthough all the other cousins hanged around me alll the time...I thought he was arrongant....but then i got to know that he was shy....hehe... We knew that we liked eachother but as we were too young we didnt see the relationship going anywhere.
I left pk for home...we kept in touch...and finally when I was 19 his mom sent a rishta and we got engaged...We got married in Nov 99....so we're gonna celebrate our 9th anniversary this year....mashallah...we have a son whos almost 4 and another baby on the way... :)
I've known my husband since I was 15 and he was 17. We met at a trip to Pk. His mom n my mom are cousins...in the beginning he was so shy....never interacted with me, allthough all the other cousins hanged around me alll the time...I thought he was arrongant....but then i got to know that he was shy....hehe... We knew that we liked eachother but as we were too young we didnt see the relationship going anywhere.
I left pk for home...we kept in touch...and finally when I was 19 his mom sent a rishta and we got engaged...We got married in Nov 99....so we're gonna celebrate our 9th anniversary this year....mashallah...we have a son whos almost 4 and another baby on the way... :)
I've known my husband since I was 15 and he was 17. We met at a trip to Pk. His mom n my mom are cousins...in the beginning he was so shy....never interacted with me, allthough all the other cousins hanged around me alll the time...I thought he was arrongant....but then i got to know that he was shy....hehe... We knew that we liked eachother but as we were too young we didnt see the relationship going anywhere.
I left pk for home...we kept in touch...and finally when I was 19 his mom sent a rishta and we got engaged...We got married in Nov 99....so we're gonna celebrate our 9th anniversary this year....mashallah...we have a son whos almost 4 and another baby on the way... :)
Aww.. thats very sweet. I am all for love marriages!
