Re: walima halal kurna…
^ tell me what it is 
sachi i dont know what u r talking about 
2 yrs??? 
how can they live together for 2 yrs without doing it??? there must be something wrong .. i mean …err.. nevermind 
Yes Aashi - plz carry on with ladies over the pm :k:
or discuss with ur hubby 
Re: walima halal kurna…
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but i dont know any ladies who are married on GS…and if i do how do i know they’ll be ok to talk to me about this…coz u cant help until uv gone thru this xperience ryt?..
…i feel like wrenching my hair out…
Re: walima halal kurna…
and no…meri shaadi ko dou saal ni howe…jus 4 months…:halo:…
Re: walima halal kurna…
Because they are.
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really?...
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After 4 month it better be not only halaal but also cooked eaten and digested!
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really?...
Yes and don't get so sarcastic.
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I think not doing the deed the night of wedding is fine, sometimes ppl need to take their time, a few days, a week a couple of weeks, but 4 months does sound strange.
Re: walima halal kurna…
hey aashi plz don;t feel like ure a joke. U have asked a genuine question/query which many girls ask and are confused about. So if ppl wanna joke laff that their problem.
Walima halal karna… wel this issue is really up 2 ure husband and u. u can only go ahead with intercourse if u are ok with it and comfortble. Diff. couples in particular girls are differenr whn it cums to this, sum will have intercourse on the 1st nyt of tehir wedding others much later.
Being asian girls we’ve been taught to be modest and not to half a intimate relationship with guys b4 marriage, so once u get married its all just a bit weird. since we jus arent ready 4 that kinda stuff.
u mentioned an example of 2 years well that is a long time, and wil inevitably cos problems in teh marriage, however uve only been married 4 months, so its ok. Im sure ure husband understands, and make sure whtever happens ure ok and comfortable about it.
Hope that helps 
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thanx tweety....it really helps.....i dont wana say much.......my every word is being read and judged...but thanx a LOT..:)
Re: walima halal kurna...
Aashi why are u askign for only girls perspective on what is right. You are not married to a girl, so u probably need guys perspectives too.
4 months is not right as others are telling you. It is way too long and hints at discomfort, lack of knowledge, excessive awkwardness among other things.
Re: walima halal kurna...
Aashi sweety, Evilz is a gal you know..... She is one sharp cookie. Mostly sounds like being one of the guys of GS. I was mistaken too...lol
Our customs: The bride wears a "kiimkhaab" white suit after the wedding night, IF the marriage has been consumated. So nobody needs to ask anything....just observe....lol Kinda more polite, right?
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I don't think thats a good idea in west.
Even after consummation their may be nothing to observe u know girls these days.
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Re: walima halal kurna…
Guys go easy on her. Its awkward enough to be asking such a question and then to be at the mercy of some of you
Aashi I can’t help you out much in regards to giving u the norms but I do think there shouldn’t be norms in such things. Its a highly personal matter and strictly between the two of you. if you and ur hubby are okay with it then what gives!
I don’t know how anyone can ask others such personal questions though! I would never ask someone such stuff and if anyone asked me they wouldn’t be too happy with the response!
Re: walima halal kurna...
Mai Apna waleema shaadi say pehlay hi HALAAL karwa loonga. Fikar not.
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Oye I am being nice, but if its unusual lets tell her its unusual and she needs to do something about it rather than being all warm and fuzzy but giving her bad advise.
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I really don't know the stats fraudz :P It could be unusual but is it wrong? maybe its a platonic relationship :D
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LOL.. buri baat :nono:
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The purpose of Walima is not to indicate that "everything went alright" (as some might think). Yes it is the husband and wife's right but it has nothing to do with Walima. The husband and wife can choose to you know -* skip it* - as long as they are not doing it out of fear for poverty or any other reasons which contradict Islam. And I don't get one thing: Why do we have to tell others of such things and it shud not be their business (be it mother/father or anyone else).
So in a nutshell, Walima has nothing to do with that and your Walima will still be regarded as Halal (regardless of whether you engaged in it or not)!
Re: walima halal kurna...
Rite a platonic relationship . I say at this point one should be looking for some medical checkUp
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4 months is not right as others are telling you. It is way too long and hints at discomfort, lack of knowledge, excessive awkwardness among other things.
Fraudia, as always, has lots of wisdom and experience behind his statements