ok…first…im already dead for posting this thread coz of embarassment..…but i need help and inside info from my girrl friends…who r married…recently married etc…
my mum asked me this question 3 days after my wedding…‘walima halal kiya keh nuhi?’…now she was shy in asking this but thumbs up for her courage…
and i was like……mom i got no idea wot u just sed…and after she finished explaining…i was like……eeaaawwww…nooo waaaayyy mum we’d never do that…its disgusting…and she gave me an ear full of wots ryt and wrong and wot u shud have done etc…
and i was left wondering y din she tell me all this a week before the wedding…
but anyway…do any of u ladies was asked this question sometime in ur life after marriage?..by ur mum sister anties?..friends?..also how many days shud it take normally?..if u havnt proceeded yet is there sumthing wrong?..shud u be worried?..would ur parents be worried?..wot if ur too scared?..no…actually petrified?..as its ur first time for u and ur hubby and he doesnt want to do anything to hurt u and respects ur feeling too much…?
i know its embarassing and im not looking for details just a guide line to whats normal…
only serious replies please…ive had a looong thought before posting anything like this…
and to those guppies who are my friends…try to understand…
but u didnt tell us [who r not married] that wat is it??
If it is what I think it is then don’t we all knwo we were suppose to do it n whats soo ewwaaooo about it?? As far as I know its sunnat n one suppose to do it .. how can u miss it
Aashi sweety, Evilz is a gal you know..... She is one sharp cookie. Mostly sounds like being one of the guys of GS. I was mistaken too...lol
Our customs:
The bride wears a "kiimkhaab" white suit after the wedding night, IF the marriage has been consumated. So nobody needs to ask anything....just observe....lol Kinda more polite, right?
I know exactly what you're talking abt and no nobody asked me the valima halal karna crap.. I don't understand why its anybody's business what happened that night, if the marriage wasn't consummated for any reason, that's between the couple and Allah, not the mother, mother in law or any other annoying and nosy aunty.
Aashi sweety, Evilz is a gal you know..... She is one sharp cookie. Mostly sounds like being one of the guys of GS. I was mistaken too...lol
Our customs:
The bride wears a "kiimkhaab" white suit after the wedding night, IF the marriage has been consumated. So nobody needs to ask anything....just observe....lol Kinda more polite, right?
oh im soooo sorry evil lady...din know u were a girl...i bear that mind next time.....
and Pathani obviously i know that......but im talkin about these days.....we dont exatly wear white and show it to everybody u know....its embarassing...
im not sayin my mum asked so she can spread the word…noo waayy…she was concerned dats all…and it is only between me and my husband but wen im confused i sumtimes ask my mum…no harm dun…
no body’s answering my other questions… just penalising me on telling issues…
no actually it is not asked for gossip purposes it is what it means " walima halal karna" u dont have to do it i guess because it will take time for some and not for some. bt i dont think ur walima is not halal if u dont do it.
oh and ashi baji , if your asking what they mean by walima halal karna and what is normal is when the husband and wife engage in intercourse and the girl no longer remains a virgin , which in some cases is like that anyway coz not all gurls and boys are virgin or their weddin nite. but in ur case it would mean that. i dont know how else to explain without sounding crude.
…but i need help and inside info from my girrl friends…who r married…recently married etc…
…mom i got no idea wot u just sed…and after she finished explaining…i was like…
…eeaaawwww…nooo waaaayyy mum we’d never do that…its disgusting…and she gave me an ear full of wots ryt and wrong and wot u shud have done etc…
…leave it i think ladies wud understand me better…
