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trust me it's very serious...u can satisfi ur MIL..or even u dont care about her...but all paki man are very "shaki" they would never forget this and will blame u ( that u were not virgin ) for rest of your life..
very untrue. all paki men dont check for blood the morning of. thats just so disturbing.
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all paki man are very "shaki" they would never forget this
All paki mans are should be the shots in the four-had.
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i just love how this thread is a big JOKE.
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trust me it's very serious...u can satisfi ur MIL..or even u dont care about her...but all paki man are very "shaki" they would never forget this and will blame u ( that u were not virgin ) for rest of your life..
wait so is this sarcastic?
everyone is being sarcastic man.. o my friggin god.
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^ oh no..dont take me wrong :(...i didnt mean that...
sorry if it make u to think that was a sarcastic,,:(
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what i meant to say is...if some one not bleed that doesnt mean she is not virgin..i was talking about Husband's reaction...that he wouldn;t beleive that u (girl) were virigin..
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i think this topic should be something of great awareness to all those Pakistani women and families who follow such customs. So many women get killed, and divorced because of this. ( trust me i did my research ) . im surprised im the only one that is taking this seriously…well i think the best way to tell people how this is actually culturally based and not religiously is through Nadia Khan Show. Im gonna send her an email to discuss this topic. :halo:
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You know what, i'd be pretty peeved, if i had just decked out my sons room for his wedding, got a bed spread worth £200, silk with dabay ka kaam, and my daughter in law, so inconsiderately...just bled over it? why is no one raising this issue? what about the bed spread? how will it ever recover? does the mean mils have to buy 2 bed spreads now? on top of all the rest of the shaadi bills...THIS TOO?! oh god.
anyway on a more serious note...ahem ahem...if you dont bleed, why not just sit with the hubby and talk about it? i mean not that hes really gonna be bothered...hes just had the night of his lifeeee...
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You know what, i'd be pretty peeved, if i had just decked out my sons room for his wedding, got a bed spread worth £200, silk with dabay ka kaam, and my daughter in law, so inconsiderately...just bled over it? why is no one raising this issue? what about the bed spread? how will it ever recover? does the mean mils have to buy 2 bed spreads now? on top of all the rest of the shaadi bills...THIS TOO?! oh god.
anyway on a more serious note...ahem ahem...if you dont bleed, why not just sit with the hubby and talk about it? i mean not that hes really gonna be bothered...hes just had the night of his lifeeee...
haha, actually MANY people put white sheets on the bed for the couples wedding night. I heard people even show the sheets to their neighbors the next morning .
( in Pakistan ofcourse, cuz everything and anything happens there )
but noww that is truly disgusting.
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heres the deal, you bleed then congrats. you dont bleed and its because of sports or whatever you explain this to the hubby, you dont believe and its because youre not a virgin? well youve only got yourself to blame.
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^ that was i was trying to say..he wont beleive...may be some of "very nice" husabnd's wud beleive..but not all..
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I heard people even show the sheets to their neighbors the next morning .
Not only to their neighbours, the sheets are also paraded in the market for five days and at the end of the week there is an auction held at the town hall where the highest bidder takes the sheet. Luckily according to Pakistani law that money raised from that auction (less the dry-cleaning expenses) is put towards the girl's younger sister's marriage, unless the girl herself is the youngest sister in which case the money is given to a feudal lord in either Sindh or Punjab depending on the time of year.
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Pakilove reason i think noone is taking this seriously is b/c...well....we all live in the real world..some of us are (hold on) MARRIED and (hold on again) have never faced this!!!!!! I know this may come as a big shock to you....but not everything u read in teh textbook and websites about big evil Pakistanis is true.
And no this sheet thing is not a custom in Pakistan. We have a whole bunch of other stupid things going on but this isn't one of em. give us some credit.
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its another one of those hindu traditions that carried on with the conversion of Hindus to Muslims in the sub-continent. Non-existent in in some parts of Pakistan (where Indian culture was never a part of the lives of people such as Nwfp), whilst still practised in other parts.
It actually goes against Islamic teachings, as the privacy of the bedroom is meant to be guarded, even from parents.
and seriously wtf, showing sheets to the neighbours??? wtf??? no one in their right mind does that...
Advice : watch less indian dramas/movies...
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LOL.............................well it happened to my cousin,,her mil and her mate came in the next day to check...and there was no blood but thats cos they didnt do it.........and she got into all sorts of trouble for that..
but then again HER MIL is a complete cow...
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You know what, i'd be pretty peeved, if i had just decked out my sons room for his wedding, got a bed spread worth £200, silk with dabay ka kaam, and my daughter in law, so inconsiderately...just bled over it? why is no one raising this issue? what about the bed spread? how will it ever recover? does the mean mils have to buy 2 bed spreads now? on top of all the rest of the shaadi bills...THIS TOO?! oh god.
anyway on a more serious note...ahem ahem...if you dont bleed, why not just sit with the hubby and talk about it? i mean not that hes really gonna be bothered...hes just had the night of his lifeeee...
lolol. i dont think this topic deserves any attention at all. its just plain ridiculous 'jahilness' (Ive copyrighted this word please dont use it :)). if a husband ever asks his wife why she didnt bleed after doing the deed in all seriousness i would suggest u find ways to leave him instead of trying to find an explanation for it. cuz im sorry, but u have just married into a jahil family (even if that family is educated) and this will not be the last of ur worries.
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Pakilove reason i think noone is taking this seriously is b/c...well....we all live in the real world..some of us are (hold on) MARRIED and (hold on again) have never faced this!!!!!! I know this may come as a big shock to you....but not everything u read in teh textbook and websites about big evil Pakistanis is true.
And no this sheet thing is not a custom in Pakistan. We have a whole bunch of other stupid things going on but this isn't one of em. give us some credit.
yeh i agree. this is definitely not a paki custom. i dont deny that it may be practiced by some people there but its more of an egyptian and iranian custom as far as i know.
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i dotn know why this thread is dragging on. why even marry into such a family? u dont have to outright ask them if they practice this to know they are jahil. its the weird things they do/say thru out the rishta/wedding process that should let u know.
for example, one time we went to a girls house in ny with my uncles rishta and the girls father asked my uncle if he knows the ayatul kursi. and we were all just bewildered. thats not the type of question we would ask or want to be asked when going to a girls (or boys) house with a rishta the first time... maybe after the first few times if u really are so religious. needless to say her dad turned out to be a crazy/disturbed/abusive man who claimed to be so religious and the rishta didnt take place.
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my freinds afghan.. and her mother in laww told us that this is a custom particed in their culture... i was like WT_ _ _ _..LOL
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