Only a fraction of old people require old homes, most of them are quite capable of living independently. By the way, western model is much better than the dysfunctional desi joint family system.
Says who? Husbands can get very annoyed by their inlaws too. And the reason why there is less son-in-law fights is because the mothers usually don't interfere with what their son in law does but constantly interfere with their DIL.
Exactly. Most parents don't want to live with their daughter because they think it will burden their son in law. Men can be so selfish, they can make their wives live with his parents forever but feel burdened if her parents come to stay.
You are making a comment where you have no idea about desi families.
While not every parent lives with the couple even in desi families, the parent of the husband give a lot to their sons and so do parents of the daughters.
However the difference is that husband is responsible majority of time to be the bread winner even in non-desi families and in desi families the girls move to husband's place.
Not every man is able to have his place and if he does, he is free to live separate. Many times parents of husband own the house and the girl and her husband are graciouly welcome to live in that house.
You call this dusfunctional? Not at all.
Your second paragraph again has no meaning since majority of the time girls moves to her husband's house.
When I gave example of girl's parents more often tolerated/accepted and even welcome by husband, is beacause husbands do spend time outside most often and they feel secure at least someone is giving support to wife and children.
Let us agree on one thing here:
Men are more tolerant in general, have less time to get involved in family politics than women. Women are more hateful to other women including their mother in-laws than men would be to their mother in-laws.
Your last paragraph is just plain untrue.