Ok girls… I want to hear some stories of how your Rukhasti went… were you crying and extremely emotional??? Were you a calm and cool collected bride??? Or were you smiling with joy and doing a little dance on the way out??? 
For those of us not yet married…how do you think it will be???
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I'm going to have a luv marriage and I am going to be SO excited to start my life with my fiance inshAllah. And even though I have lived away from my own family and house for 8 years..... I still think I am going to end up being a traditional bride and get emotional and teary eyed atleast (if not crying). I'll be the first one getting married in my entire khandaan so I know others are going to be emotional and Im the type of person who gets upset automatically when I see luved ones upset.
My parents told me already that they are going to be upset... not because I am leaving the house (b/c i'v been gone for 8 years already) but because the way they look at it - my happiness is not in their hands anymore and it is in my hubbies. It's sad and scary thought for them (Even tho they luv him). Knowing this reasoning I will be sad too ..... they have been mA AMAZING parents ...always so supporting and have made ALL of my dreams come true. No one can ask for better parents.
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Did not cry, was actually smiling… my husband still makes fun of me 
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I think my family is pretty emotional. The day before my shadi, my mamoo came over to visit. we were sitting talking about the wedding and other stuff, and all of a sudden he whips out a 20 dollar bill and a 5 (i think it was all the change in his pocket..lol) and gives it to me and his eyes start to water..which then made me teary eyed. :(
On my rukhsati, i remember sitting on the stage with my hubby, and my whole family just comes and stands in front of the stage and looks at me. well i knew what was going to happen next (ie rukhsati time)..so i start crying..lol (yes, im a sap)....and i coudlnt even stop...right up until i sat in the car i cried...(havent seen the video , and frankly i dnot even want too..lol..)....of course being the ruskhsati, no one gives a second glance at the groom..my poor husband was trying to hold my hand to make sure i was okay (he looked soo worried..he he)..but he kept getting bombarded with my family and pple coming to hug me. lol
but funny though, as soon as i sat in the car with my hubby next to me, i was perfectly fine and happy go lucky again. lol.
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i got no time to cry
we just finished the last ceremony of the day.. everyoen gathered around.. since i was looking down i didnt knwo what was going on... then suddenly everyone stands up.. i do too.. and before u know it.. my brother is holding onto my hand.. and pretty much racing me out of the hall.. my dear husband was trying to keep up.. as were the photographers.. i dont think we stopped until we were standing next to the car... just when i thought i would hug my mom.. a couple of hijray came and startefd to dance and harass us for money.. so my bro shoves me in teh car.. my husband following me.. and tells the driver to go park a bit away from teh hall.. so we wait for 5 mins in the car.. my fil joins us and off we go...
it honestly did not hit me that i was ruksatified until we were wlel on our way to the hotel :o
later on we were discussing how no one cried on my ruskati and my bro goes duh.. thats what i was aiming for.. i was NEARLY successful...
truns out, once the baratis were back in the hall to clear up final things and pieces after the ruksati.... dad did shed tears as well as my mom and mamus... :D
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i think i will be bawling my eyes out!!! Just thinking about it makes me sad....
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me too :(
although i love my fiance but moving away from ur family is dreadful :(
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all the rukhsati's i've been to have been teary events, i don't actually think i've ever seen a happy smiley bride during a rukhsati. i know for sure that i'll cry at mine because i'll feel so sad leaving my family behind esp my parents. to me they are mA the best parents in the world and im quite a daddy's girl and seeing him upset will just set me off :(
i didndt cry, i was gonna be going home after 5 weeks and would eventually apply for my hubby's visa, so in general i was happy at getting married, but very anxious at the idea of staying at my in-laws,altohugh they were relatives,i hadnt met them for 11 years,and im a pretty shy person,so that was more nerve wracking than anything else for me.
in fact,i dont think a single person cried! is that a bad thing...hmmm lol
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Afshi - your rukhsati story is probably going to be mine!! Very sweet to read... especially the mamoo part. :D
I enjoyed reading yours as well Khawateen.... lol. I can't believe your bro had thought about this issue beforehand!! haha.
malika, sara, lipstick: I totally can relate.
MIA: My husband is probably going to make of me foreverrrr FOR crying. lol
Sazzie: awe I dont think it is bad at all since you got married in the family. I am sure everyone felt very comfortable about the whole situation which can be a good thing!!
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i went from canada to pak for my wedding...i thought i was never going to cry ...i was like why should i be sad b/c im going to come back to canada...if anyone should cry it should be my huuby since he was going to leave his family...soo when it was the wedding day i got soo nervous..i was sooo quiet....then came rukhsati time...we got up and we were still on the stage and i started to cry like a baby....i cried sooo much hubby was gtting worried...my inlaws lived about a 3 hour drive from lahore and i cried for a good 40mins of the ride.. MIL was really nice she was hugging me and giving me taasali... when we got home everyone was really nice and made me feeel very welcomed so i didnt feel too sad anymore...
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^ aweee. .... mA u r blessed to have such a wonderful MIL :)
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did anybody follow any rasams during the rukhsati like the rice throwing thing? i've seen it done before, even in my own family but i've got no idea why it's done.
For those of us not yet married...how do you think it will be???
I'm sure im gonna be miserable :( im super emotional n sensitive. 90% chances that i wl faint or something n i m nt kidding here :( :( :(.
When my sister got engaged, i cried so much..lol. my sister was ok n all bt i have this fear for commitement n i dnt know where it stems from. Then on my bhabi's ruksati i was literally howling like a baby. Everyone was like omg what happened to u, what r u crying for. Imagine bhabhi's sister was crying too but she started laughing when she saw me crying. So yah, i have this tendency to cry at the drop of a hat and its nt only for things that affects but i cry for other people too. But thank god on my 2nd bhabhi's ruksati (dec 09) i was ok, i did get bit emotional but it was ok.
^ Im exactly like this!!!
I always pictured myself crying a lot because I am an emotional person, but things ended up in such a way that I was sad but didn't shed one tear. Everything towards the end happened so fast that I didn't even get a chance to say goodbye to my parents. My mom was in the back crying and my uncle and aunt took me to my husbands car and once I got in his car with him i was fine. Honestly, I didn't feel like I was leaving my parents because I live a minute away from them and my husband is my phupo's son so they family is very close with each other.. It's such a emotional moment that when you experience it you can't explain it in words I think.
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I will cry no doubt about it! :( rukhsati's are always emotional!
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awww cute stories! My uncles wedding was a love marriage and his wife was jus laughing with a teeeeny bit of tears, but everyone was jus smiling. So it was all good. I prefer the laughing bride to the hysterical crying bride, Sometimes it jus too much.
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ahahahahahah … i think i had the funniest rukhsati … because my in-laws were living in my house for the 2 weeks that they were there for the wedding (OMG!! … i know 
) … my husband and i were supposed to go to the hotel afterwards …
the funny thing was … what rukhsati, what susraal? lol … we were all sitting very relaxed k haan haan thik hai, chalay jatay hein … the driver had gone to drop off some guests, and were waiting for him to come back … the vdo/photo wala alag jaan kha raha tha k usko jana hai, jaldi rukhsati ka scene record karwain … 
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so we ended up recording a fake star-plus like rukhsati scene in which everyone is in fits, i cant stop laughing, my uncle, who is carrying me from one side … is constantly like k tum dulhan ho, hanso matt! hahahahahha … my brother and sister were singing sad milli ganay from the 50s i guess and making sad faces …
while my brother had the Quran on my head, he was calling out to my mother in a crying-like sound k mama tussi ajao, saadi bhen ja rahi hai … and mother was shouting from the other corner of the tent .. haan haan jao tussi mein aani aan … gal tey karan deyo …
and then we had a fake sit-down in the car, and my other uncle pretended to drive the car away, which in fact drove not more than 1 metre … for the “recording” … 
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lol...that has to be the most hilarious rukhsati story ever!