Reasons for polygamy

Lifestyle Relationships
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Question is between these following two options:

  1. Are they necessarily that “My first wife didn’t fulfill all my needs”?

  2. Can’t they simply be “I like this other girl (for whatever reason - beauty, personality etc) and I want to marry her too”?

Men are wired to “spread their seed” no?

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Both are valid as far as I know. Reason# 2 would make reason#1 redundant as per your examples.

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I guess The list can be longer than this .
What is your context of asking this question ?

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the real reason can be understood on a case by case basis demesne

the philosophical reason is a different discussion altogether

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kaun si gamy?

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sure. so are other animals ...
but then ... humans are also supposed to be "Ashraf-Ul-Makhlooq" ......

oo my oo my which to be ... which to be .... dilemma galore!

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The context Mirch is an answer in this thread http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/533510-perspectives-and-blessings-taken-for-granted.html

Where upon I said that in a sense, it is a blessing a girls takes for granted if her husband doesn’t take on more than one wife. Someone spoke of fulfillment of needs and another spoke of reasons for marriage being lack of satisfaction. I was wondering if fulfillment of needs or lack thereof are the reasons.

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Ehle, we are, but I'm speaking of Islamic allowances of four wives versus one. Men are wired to spread their seed as such, and they have an allowance to "spread" amongst four women legitimately by taking them as a wife.

It doesn't bring them to an animal level if they exercise the right to marry four times does it?

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Demesne - whts rong in polygamy … its quite common in arab world so y not here … :chai:

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This is a hypothetical discussion SK. Just listing down what possible reasons there could be. Can there be no reason whatsoever other than, "I liked this other woman for her xyz and so I'm marrying her. It has nothing to do with my first wife"

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Not saying it is wrong fusion. How can I claim something is wrong if Islam allowed for it?

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so wil u allow ur husb if som day he requests ... ?

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no, theoretically not :hinna:
I guess I was thinking more from practical life POV … most men don’t follow or exercise their Islamic rights according to Islamic guidelines … as such it does bring them down to the level of other animals that practice indiscriminate insemination.
I’m very very very far from being an islamic scholar … heck I don’t even consider my self knowledgeable in that regard … but marrying 2nd/3rd/4th time require very specific reasons … no?
I mean it cant just be … ooooo aaaaa pretty women … me like … me marry
I may be wrong … in which case please educate me.

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in the arab world its a culture
in the desi world - its endless reasons/excuses

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yes you are WRONG, and let me educate you - there is no specfic reasoning required what you are talking about

a man can just say i like this xyz girl and has nothing to do with my first or wife - i can provide equally to all etc etc hence i qualify therefore i will marry and continue until the 4th

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Let’s not make this something it is not.

As I mentioned in my previous thread http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/533510-perspectives-and-blessings-taken-for-granted.html I consider it a blessing and I intend to be thankful for it.

I also mentioned no woman likes sharing.

I just wanted to shed light on the fact that if our husbands DON’T take on more wives, it is a blessing for us from Allah and we don’t usually think this way. Rather women in Pakistan take for granted that their husband will not marry again.

That, my friend , was my opinion.

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Thanks but no thanks! I'll take my lessons from a more reliable source then you! ...
please take no offense ... my comment is not meant as such. i know not you or your Islamic qualifications .... hence .....
also note ... i had asked demsne to educate me.

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Bilkul my point SK, that a man can say that and doesnt need reasons as long as he provides equally to all etc and because a man doesnt need reasons to, I think we as women should count this as a blessing if our men don't .

I feel it is something many women, myself included before I thought about this, take for granted. And I wanted to shed light on it.

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Ehle, I am not a scholar by ANY means, but since you asked for education, according to what I understand of Islam, a man is allowed to do so without any reasons (such as first wife doesn't fulfill me) and without any preconditions other than being able to support them equally in all terms.

But as for the precondition of support, all I am saying is, people can choose to forgo that.

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I agree,

it is a blessing like a husband who doesnt do drugs or drinks etc. - one should not take it for granted. same goes for good loving obedient wives, they are a blessing to husbands as well