Re: punishing hubby by denying sex
What if it works? lol
here we go ..
khul ke bataa'o. :p
Re: punishing hubby by denying sex
I see what TLK is referring to. He is talking about women that hold back sex when they feel like for No apparent reason. It would be considered punishment from a man's poi t of view because they have no clue what led to to this. However, 90% of the women will have a reason to hold back sex and you may not know what it is. And it is probably not what you think! Lol
Re: punishing hubby by denying sex
he could just go serve himself......
Exactly and she could do the same.
a short term solution of a long term problem! .
I was thinking that you were talking about short term punishment too, the only way it would be long term punishment if they are separated/estranged .
Re: punishing hubby by denying sex
stop quoting stuff from 'teen aurtain teen kahaniyan'.
fuzool main.
no TLK bhai it's actually a family story so I don't want to go in detail. it happens but people refuse to believe it hence it becomes a story. My point was simply that women aren't always the wrong ones!
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IF somebody is witholding sex as a "punishment" then obviously something is wrong in the relationship. There is some sort of dissatisfaction...unahppiness....that prevents you from being intimate with the other person. And it is well known that women tend to have a greater need to have an emotional connection for sex. I don't see it as a one in a million case. I see it as basic common sense.
If she feels that she's not cared about.....and he doesn't see ia problem or maybe he thinks that everything is fine or it's no big deal, etc....and wants to have sex....there's a mental/emotional hurdle there that she has to overcome in order to be intimate. I'm not saying that he wants to jump her bones right after having an arugment. It can sometimes take time for a person to cool down/move on. And it's easy to say that guys are the victims here...........what about the wife? Could she not feel like a victim as well? It can't be pleasant situation for her if she feels unhappy or feels that her needs/concerns are not being addressed. Why make it one sided? Can it not be go both ways?
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People really do that? I don’t know. 
Whenever there’s an argument between me and my husband we end up making out.
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yeah but that’s not necessarily punishment…
she’s saying it cuz she’s hurt that he forgot the day they were both married… to her its not just the wedding date he forgot, but its also the day she entered his life as his wife and him forgetting that makes her feel like she is insignificant to him… if he wants to touch her after forgetting about their anniversary and making her feel insignificant then its like so im just good for sex but not special enough for you to remember when u brought me into your life as your wife 
its still related to the emotional connection…men just take it as dammit its just a number on a calendar i forgot and now she’s punishing me…she’s not … its just that when she feels otherwise insignificant (i.e. bruised emotionally) you asking for sex makes her feel worse because then its like so thats all i am to you
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Exactly and she could do the same.
I was thinking that you were talking about short term punishment too, the only way it would be long term punishment if they are separated/estranged .
short term/long term are subjective terms. For someone, denying intimacy for a week is too much, for others, they can go by for months.
no TLK bhai it's actually a family story so I don't want to go in detail. it happens but people refuse to believe it hence it becomes a story. My point was simply that women aren't always the wrong ones!
I was joking CG :D
IF somebody is witholding sex as a "punishment" then obviously something is wrong in the relationship.
Not necessarily. It could be part of laad (urdu word) and naaz/nakhraa.
Dekhain main aap ko apne qareeb nahi aanay doon gee jab tuk aap mera yeah kaam nahi karian ge.
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TMI …
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In my marriage we have both slept on the couch. I was kicked out from our room once and he has been kicked out 2 times. It wasn't so much that we wanted to kill each other but rather felt differently about the issue and didn't feel like talking about it any further.
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how do you differentiate 'punishment' from 'not feeling like doing it' ???
Re: punishing hubby by denying sex
I see what TLK is referring to. He is talking about women that hold back sex when they feel like for No apparent reason. It would be considered punishment from a man's poi t of view because they have no clue what led to to this. However, 90% of the women will have a reason to hold back sex and you may not know what it is. And it is probably not what you think! Lol
aint that the truth :p
there is a communication problem...she's withholding it cuz she doesnt feel the emotional connection as in her mind you showed her in some way shape or form like 7 days ago that she's not important/special for you and she didnt say anything to you but now she doesnt wanna be intimate....
and u think dammit wth did I do to deserve this...and ur racking ur brain for what you argued about today and you cant figure it out...you woudlnt be able to cuz it happened a week ago and she's still not over it or it happened in the morning and its night time now and u cant figure it out but she;s still not over what happened in the morning
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Not necessarily. It could be part of laad (urdu word) and naaz/nakhraa.
Dekhain main aap ko apne qareeb nahi aanay doon gee jab tuk aap mera yeah kaam nahi karian ge.
that oculd be it too but in that case ...usually the nakhra doesnt last for long
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here we go ..
khul ke bataa'o. :p
Hahaha...well I am in no position to comment on such matters, but I guess some women might like being chased.
Please don't ask anymore, or I'll write the entire relevant chapter I read in some novel. lol
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is there any breaking point where woman might say ..do heck with the emotional connection, I want my sex tonight, I dont care if I am angry at him but my body needs a man ...
What I am reading from this thread is that men do think like that. How long a woman can survive without thinking like that?
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^lol that's true.. It's not gonna go away on it's own
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How long can a woman survive? I don't think you're going to get a definite/exact answer to this question, TLK. Sure, there may be times that women want to have sex.......purely to meet her physical needs. It differs for every woman. BUT....in general.....an emotional connection is more important for women when it comes to sex.
Maybe grate some female Viagra pills into a fine powder and mix it into her saalan....and the "breaking point" might come sooner.
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a short term solution of a long term problem! That I understand. I am not talking about when you have a fight and you dont even feel like seeing other person's face. I am talking about punishment, like till you do this for me, or correct that .. you are sleeping on the couch.
is there any breaking point where woman might say ..do heck with the emotional connection, I want my sex tonight, I dont care if I am angry at him but my body needs a man ..What I am reading from this thread is that men do think like that. How long a woman can survive without thinking like that?
Sure there is! The more she is comfortable with her sexuality the sooner she will be all over you and will forget
about everything else. Some women are more sexual than others.
Re: punishing hubby by denying sex
is there any breaking point where woman might say ..do heck with the emotional connection, I want my sex tonight, I dont care if I am angry at him but my body needs a man ...
What I am reading from this thread is that men do think like that. How long a woman can survive without thinking like that?
probably only when she feels like she's making a big deal out of something that he doesnt understand and she comes to terms with it on her own or discusses it with him or decides to have make up sex and talk to him about his stupidity while being intimate
Re: punishing hubby by denying sex
How long can a woman survive? I don't think you're going to get a definite/exact answer to this question, TLK. Sure, there may be times that women want to have sex.......purely to meet her physical needs. It differs for every woman. BUT....in general.....an emotional connection is more important for women when it comes to sex.
Maybe grate some female Viagra pills into a fine powder and mix it into her saalan....and the "breaking point" might come sooner.
Of course there cannot be a definite answer. It depends upon the age, hormone level, feelings (both current and long term) for the partner. But the same is true for the guys also. The sexual-beast persona that has been created about men in general is far from the truth.