We talked about this topic many times in Life 1 and I have a question.
Dont ladies feel the need of intimacy when they are denying bedroom time to their hubbies? Is not punishing him, also punishing yourself? we all are humans and have similar biological needs. How can one gender be so much in control while the other feels that he has been punished.
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I could never do that. That's a horrible horrible punishment not just for men but for women as well. This is beyond torture, lol!
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I could never do that. That's a horrible horrible punishment not just for men but for women as well. This is beyond torture, lol!
But it does happen, right? In fact I dont even know if it really happens or is it one of those myths that got popularity through Hollywood culture. I mean I never heard of real life example. Its one of those things that no one will discuss amongst his/her social circle, so if it is never discussed, how do we know it it really happens.
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only way to know is...if some brave soul comes here on GS and discloses such a case..
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Islamically, it is considered bad unless wife's physical/mental situation is different than normal.
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^ I don't think it is as rampant as everybody makes it out to be. I think this happens more outside of our desi community but then again we desis don't really openly talk about stuff like that either. I have read similar complaints from men on relationship websites though.
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o rly?
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well I am not expert of religion. but it is my understanding. i would suggest you to ask it from reliable scholar to whom you trust.
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only way to know is...if some brave soul comes here on GS and discloses such a case..
Yes, that would do. :D ... but I am not discussing the punishment, but the fact that if its punishment, its punishment for both parties, not one.
Islamically, it is considered bad unless wife's physical/mental situation is different than normal.
Yes that is true, but its popularized by scholars only from one perspective. It a similar sin if hubby denies intimacy to his wife.
^ I don't think it is as rampant as everybody makes it out to be..
I believe so too.
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Yup, second case is Zulm on wife.
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are u guys serious??
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wat good the sex would be if the wife agreed only reluctantly?? wouldn’t it just defeat the purpose?? 
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Maybe its not as good but better than not having. Eating not so good tasting meal is better than staying hungry (at least in long term)
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^arghj. puke. seriously tlkkk.
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^ I dont know. I am just saying. I mean its a need just like food and water. Is not it?
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Maybe its not as good but better than not having. Eating not so good tasting meal is better than staying hungry (at least in long term)
he could just go serve himself......
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Both genders view/respond to sex differently.
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^ exactly..........
having sex with reluctant wife........wouldn't be marital rape??
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he could just go serve himself......
a short term solution of a long term problem!
When you're pissed off with someone........you don't even feel like talking to them/hanging out with them....let alone having sex with them.
That I understand. I am not talking about when you have a fight and you dont even feel like seeing other person's face. I am talking about punishment, like till you do this for me, or correct that .. you are sleeping on the couch.
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Exactly, Redvelvet. The only way I could see myself/most women withholding sex is if we had argued/fought and we weren't on the same emotional wavelength. I don't see why that is so shocking to men and of course it happens in non-Hollywood settings also. I mean, think about it. You fight and you don't exactly like each other at the moment, of course you're not going to go off and have sex. I find that kind of barbaric, to be honest.