Pros and Cons of marrying a lady doctor.

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She'll be expert in playing doctor. I guess that if that gets boring after a while, then she can play a nurse or a surgeon ;)

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i am a domestic slave now plz make my wife a doctor :/

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You people are forgetting the primary benefit of marrying a lady doctor: that she is in fact a lady and not a man. That's worth at least 10 brownie points in my book.

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I guess the major con of husband or wife working as a Dr would be the very long hours they would have to put in and the time spent away from each other.

I guess it works for some and doesn't for others. Simple.

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Eating Apple once a day won't help . . . jeez

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I work long hours, my work doesn't end when I get home, cuz I have to pop open the books, answer emails from home, and even working on "days off".

I do all my housework, cooking/cleaning.

PLUS I'm going through a really crappy time in my life and spend at least 1 hr a day immobile on my bed staring at the ceiling or at a computer screen or a TV being nonproductive during the day.

I still get my crap done, and still feel like I have all this time and energy to feed a man.

shrugs

Maybe some of us just have enough stamina to handle everything, and more. ;)

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You are a doctor? :eek:

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PCG, you are a doc? Can I be a gold digger? Will you be my 4th wife?

Just say yes or no, so I factor that in as I find #2 and #3.

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I changed my field of work from medicine to designing/online-business because my husband was always in favour of post-graduation rather than a regular 'nokree' which is meant only for earning money and no addition to your certificates/educational records.** I** felt I cannot look after my home, kids , job AND studies so I chose to quit my career as an Anesthetist for few years until my kids are responsible enough ,not requiring my supervision 24/7 and meanwhile I took up an online-business and am doing good in it PLUS I am satisfied I am taking care of home and family the way I wanted. If my husband was not a surgeon and had a 9-5 job, things would have been totally different for me though. So, OP, it varies person to person and their capacity to do multiple jobs at a time. Please dont generalise things.

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My mom and dad are both docs. We as kids never faced any sort of neglect. They figured it out.

I think half the problems are in peoples heads.

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Don’t scare the guys here. You may receive a proposal :smack:

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LOL, totally agree.

It's funny how some men are still stuck in those days where women JUST did this and men JUST did that. We've moved on. Both spouses need to pitch in. Children need fathers too for godsake. No wonder our society is so screwed up because there aren't enough fathers who spend enough time with their children and expect that their wives will bring home an income, do all the chores and do everything with the kids as well. And all they do is work their jobs, come home, sit on their couches, watch some crappy TV and let out a few burps.

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I agree with proto. Being a doctor does not automatically mean they are able to balancw everything correcrly and are some sort of God. they have their shortcomings. I recently had to balance my studies with looking after the house and four sibs.. i dont think i would be able to manage without something giving way so i know that perhaps in the future id have to consider what is important and what isnt. or refien my timne management skills.

Excuse typos.. hands are numb in cold :(

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:k:

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Your tantrums in the tech forum say otherwise.. :p

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The majority of ppl who think that way have never seen women in their close families working in these sorts of jobs.. When they do their opinions usually completely change..

Both my parents also did (but my mum took a break when we were v.v.young).. As kids we never felt neglected either..

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So, how do you feel about nudging some other kid out of a medical seat, while you do your online clothing business?

[note] I understand that you feel anger/frustration at the choices Proto made. However, it's not a reason to attack her. Please be respectful [/note]

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Re: Pros and Cons of marrying a lady doctor.

Marrying a doc and respecting her career, and being ok with her working is not for everyone. Likewise, being a doctor is not for every girl.

Rule of thumb: Do what you like, and study for what you think you'll be doing for the rest of your life. Sure things change, and we all need a break, so if girls like Prototype are willing to sit at home for some time with the kids that's great.

Be aware of one thing: doc training in different countries varies.

In Pakistan, you pay for med school or you don't go.

In America, we take loans, and so graduating med school means YOU PRACTICE. Or you do something related to the field which generates an income to help you pay off loans. Ex. research, administrative jobs.

Sitting at home, is NOT a choice for docs trained in the US, as most of them take on loans that they will spend the rest of their lives paying back. Esp if they going into a more woman friendly career like primary care, peds, path, internal med specialties - for the most part, psychiatry, etc. They don't pay THAT much compared to your debt loan and so you HAVE TO work for a while after training ot pay off loans.

So if you want her to sit at home after busting her butt to get a degree and/or do residency, then you better be footing her bills, otherwise find someone who is already sitting at home - there is no shortage of such girls who have no interest in going to work.

I just wrote a medical excuse for some punk kid who bruised her knee, and used it as an excuse to not go to class. That's your typical Pakistani girl. They have NO DESIRE to actually work. If you're looking for a wife, worry not, I have plenty of such contacts who would rather stab themselves than working/schooling, so you can take your pick. :)

Meanwhile, I'm gonna go work on my hair, wash my face and put on 20 treatments on my aging face, lotions on my feet which are now callused from the shoes I wear to work, and then try to read something for my edumucation, and then sleep, so I can wake up and YET AGAIN, bust my arse to support myself, because clearly no guy is interested in paying my bills.

:)

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Yeah, don’t worry, no danger of that happening any time soon.

Law of diminishing returns at this point.

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Oh and just another point. Every time one of you takes it upon herself to bless us all with her presence in med school and training and then subsequently ends up sitting at home, thank you, because now that's another handful of patients for me to see and fill my day with, with minimal extra benefits.

Do us all a favor. If you girls can't handle it, then DON'T DO IT.

The world, and especially Pakistan, NEEDS MORE DOCTORS. So don't waste seats, thanks much.