so everybody, tell me whats the positives and negatives from a dude’s perspective.
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Kion koi pasand a gai kya ;)
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I guess the pros and cons are the same as with every other working girl, eh?
But, my two cents would be, dont marry her because she is a doctor. Her being doctor doesnt make her a diff or for lack of better word, a better person compared to the rest of the girls. She is just a human, with the same insecurities as any other girls and the same hormonal PMS your way. :)
Cons: Depends on the situation. The schedule becomes less of an issue as the career is established. Earlier on when she has just finished med school and has to go for her residency/ residencies /fellowship etc, she may have to go wherever. Is the dude's career of a type where he can move or be remote, or put it on hold, or find a new role, or be a couple living in two different cities for a bit.
To me that seems like the logistical issue. Rest of the stuff is mostly in people's heads.
Pros: career stability for her, and in later years ability to get a role pretty much anywhere if you need to move for career. Pros associated with an educated and intellectually engaged spouse. Etc etc
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well, i heard they usually don't give proper time to the kids and the house because of the career n stuff.
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pros = will bring in a handsome salary, will have a social status, a doctor at home, good benefits
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cons** = will work longer and odd hours so hubby will be lonely, hubby will end up working as domestic slave, she will be bossy!
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^ wow.
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^ wow.
what 'wow'? don't you agree? i KNOW a couple of COUPLES who are in this situation and i am a good observer! :D
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I think your post was riddled with stereotypes (the cons specifically), and I'm sure you KNOW couple who are like that but I could also show you the same, if not more examples of married couples where the wife is a doctor, husband is not and they most certainly DO NOT fit your mold...like X2 said, it's all about what is in people's heads
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I think your post was riddled with stereotypes (the cons specifically), and I'm sure you KNOW couple who are like that but I could also show you the same, if not more examples of married couples where the wife is a doctor, husband is not and they most certainly DO NOT fit your mold...like X2 said, it's all about what is in people's heads
if you could quote a couple of examples.. like objectively i mean..not just to counter mr. kkf assertions.
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I think your post was riddled with stereotypes (the cons specifically), and I'm sure you KNOW couple who are like that but I could also show you the same, if not more examples of married couples where the wife is a doctor, husband is not and they most certainly DO NOT fit your mold...like X2 said, it's all about what is in people's heads
looks like you are defending women folks! right? :D
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Cons: Depends on the situation. The schedule becomes less of an issue as the career is established. Earlier on when she has just finished med school and has to go for her residency/ residencies /fellowship etc, she may have to go wherever. Is the dude's career of a type where he can move or be remote, or put it on hold, or find a new role, or be a couple living in two different cities for a bit.
To me that seems like the logistical issue. Rest of the stuff is mostly in people's heads.
Pros: career stability for her, and in later years ability to get a role pretty much anywhere if you need to move for career. Pros associated with an educated and intellectually engaged spouse. Etc etc
This. Her 20's and early 30's are going to be hectic. Residency hours are crazy. After she's established though, she can work regular hours, with a fair amount of flexibility. In this regard, a career in medicine is better than other careers such as a banker, lawyer, or consultant, because those careers stay relatively intense even as you progress up the ladder.
As for not devoting time, it depends on the person. You should speak openly to her about what kind of lifestyle she expects with regards to her kids and husband.
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^ Lets keep it close to home...There is a Guppan, a very active poster might I add who is an ER physician with a baby...her husband is not. He works a regular 9-5 shift, she works the night shift..their daughter is never neglected, she still manages to cook for her husband, keep the house clean, all needs met etc...
This scenario might not work for all, but it certainly works for them, without the stereotypes normally associated with marrying a doctor.
And the other couples I know personally don't have hang ups either...they also have similar arrangements or rely on help from parents when it comes to the kids.
Again, it's not a lifestyle for everybody. I just hate to see the assumption being made that a husband will be less of a man or his wife's slave if he marries a doctor
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^ Lets keep it close to home...There is a Guppan, a very active poster might I add who is an ER physician with a baby...her husband is not. He works a regular 9-5 shift, she works the night shift..their daughter is never neglected, she still manages to cook for her husband, keep the house clean, all needs met etc...
This scenario might not work for all, but it certainly works for them, without the stereotypes normally associated with marrying a doctor.
And the other couples I know personally don't have hang ups either...they also have similar arrangements or rely on help from parents when it comes to the kids.
Again, it's not a lifestyle for everybody. I just hate to see the assumption being made that a husband will be less of a man or his wife's slave if he marries a doctor
you don't know the person, you just know what they post and image they project. thats why i asked real life examples that you observed. Moreover, it seems you quoted the example just to counter KKF's 'stereotypes'. While, i appreciate your response, i would like to hear more.
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you don't know the person, you just know what they post and image they project. thats why i asked real life examples that you observed. Moreover, it seems you quoted the example just to counter KKF's 'stereotypes'. While, i appreciate your response, i would like to hear more.
Ok, I have a close family friend, someone I have grown up with, she is a pediatrician..her husband is in IT. They got married while she was doing her undergrad, an arranged marriage. The girls parents were honest and upfront about their daughter wanting to continue on to med school. The guys family did not object. They got married and she differed med school for 1 year. She got accepted to a school out of town and they lived apart, with him traveling to be with her on weekends. When it came time for residency, she "matched" in the same city he was, and they were together, even with her odd hours, she got pregnant with their first child. Both sets of grandparents pitched in to help out. They have now been married 14 years, have 2 kids and she is established in private practice. She earns more than he does, but from what she tells me, they are equal decision makers and partners.
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pros = will bring in a handsome salary, will have a social status, a doctor at home, good benefits ** cons** = will work longer and odd hours so hubby will be lonely, hubby will end up working as domestic slave, she will be bossy!
generalization much?
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so essentially it was grandparents who brought up the kids 
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Omg, I give up.
Many docs in the family and among friends. I don't see anything in their kids where they are not getting enough attention. Applies to men and women both.
The hours become much more manageable as careers get established and I don't think any of them work significantly more than people in other professions.
Quantity..and quality of time spent by both parents is important for the child. So if the quantity of time is an issue due to profession for the mother, same applies for the father. I know a number of men, myself included who have made changes to adjust for family life Witt young kids and taking a role which requires less travel.
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Omg, I give up.
give up what? you can tell me yes or no...whats there to give up?