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- its PARATHA not PARONTHAY…
oh and i see you said PERFECTLY ROUND parathay… I just dont fit in anyone’s criteria 
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^ its punjabi, not urdu sweetheart.
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Indians say Paronthay… 
or may be punjabis too. dont know. I dont know anything. this world is too complex for this simple FT
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LMAO! This is bloody rich. When women have high standards and post that the men are to not up to standard, nobody says the poster is arrogant or demanding too much.
But when a guy asks for some what many would describe as basic necessities, its like he is asking for everything under the sun and more.
Ethnicity, education social background and ability to adjust to his living environment is exactly what you women who complain demand in return.
Pot meet kettle.
I do not think there is anything narrow minded about wishing to marry someone from your own cultural background or ethnicity.
**Education does not equate denying one's cultural norms or practices. Marriage in itself is a huge step and an arranged marriage where one has to make a whole lot of compromises and adjustments to begin with is already difficult , having an added ethnic disparity just makes it even more difficult . **
I am in no way against inter-ethnic marriages , to each their own but at the end of the day you want to have things that both of you identify with and can relate to. Every ethnicity has its own norms and practices that an outsider cannot relate to or even appreciate .
I COMPLETELY AGREE
im from a gujurati spking family in pakistan i wld want to go to a housethts frm kathiyawari back ground too!
I have read some of the responses. I think most don't understand what you are trying to say.
Its ok to set a certain requirment for your spouse to be. I did. I didn't want to marry just anyone. I was picky too. I wanted a professional guy with good family and religious values. For a start, its the best to look for someone who matches that criteria. Allah has allowed us to choose our life partner. Your are not being shallow at all. You refuse to date to see which one will suit you best. I think that's a very good thing on your part.
You are raised in the US but you are okay with finding someone from Pakistan too as long as she has what you want in a girl. That's another good thing.
I think differently maybe from the most of the people here but to me what you've asked for is pretty reasonable. You didn't ask for miss world or someone who is just extremely pretty which I think makes a person shallow not asking for a career oriented or religious wife.
Good luck!
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Wow ... Shaadi.com with a twist of 'who wants to be a millionaire'.
Brother you need a better marketing adviser. :)
LMAO! This is bloody rich. When women have high standards and post that the men are to not up to standard, nobody says the poster is arrogant or demanding too much.
But when a guy asks for some what many would describe as basic necessities, its like he is asking for everything under the sun and more.
Ethnicity, education social background and ability to adjust to his living environment is exactly what you women who complain demand in return.
Pot meet kettle.
Exactly !!
When a girl wants a nice, caring, educated engineer/doc with a stable job etc etc .... the responses are like "Hai Allah kitni achi baat hai... Awwwwww...."
But God forbid if a guy wants to marry a doc/eng girl he's supposed to be the biggest jerk and materialistic. I doubt if PushtoonWarrior ever said that he didn't want a caring girl.
So go for it Pushtoonwarrior you are entitled to your choice regardless of how some gals on these forums are trying to give the impression that great guys are in abundance while great gals are rare.
Bull’s eye 
I totally understand your position mate. Being a punjabi warrior, and since punjabis are generally sexy people, I am quite sexy myself. I am looking for a good rishta, preferably a punjabi astronaut kuri who is fully familiar with world history, esp the era when catapults were invented, and can cook perfectly round paronthay.
Jaanwar your inbox will be flooded with pm's very soon! ;)
Va va ve va!
I totally understand your position mate. Being a punjabi warrior, and since punjabis are generally sexy people, I am quite sexy myself. I am looking for a good rishta, preferably a punjabi astronaut kuri who is fully familiar with world history, esp the era when catapults were invented, and can cook perfectly round paronthay.
haha sooo funny!
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This thread only brings one person to mind, shes a pathan girl, shes a Doctor, shes got a fab personality and shes right here on GS! :p and she writes in pink :P
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OMG can I just say that women do not have such high standards as this one here.
Anyway, I think you should go back to Pakistan and marry there because you're looking for something that you'll have a better chance at finding in Pakistan. Also, I don't think an American girl will be able to put up with your mentality to be honest. There would be way too many clashes.
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Uffo!
This guy is looking for a girl to add to his family wealth...nothing more then that.
PW, I dont know what to say to you...to get married or not. You're obviously not thinking of marriage realistically but then again I feel you need a reality check.
Go to Pakistan and get married to a rich family's pathan doctorni...thats the solution. I dont know any girl in the US who wont be turned off by your posts so a girl from here may not be a good option for you.
Go to Pakistan, the girls there seem to have more patience.
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hey guys i think we shud go easy on this guy...i mean its his wife? surely he has the choice to be a lil picky...the woman he will marry accept into his family? have children with...some people arent bothered and some ppl are bothered...everyones different...some ppls lists of requirements are long some ppls are short....
PashtunWarrior::: You are taking this the wrong way.
I am not trying to make anyone sell themselves to me.
*My point is, since the breed you're looking for is so rare in the US...you will have to do better then what Ive seen to make a professional girl marry you. You will have to sell yourself to her. *
I will marry the person who wants to marry me just as much as I her.
My family is well off even without my financial support.
*Your family's finances are not your future wife's concern or problem. *
I am not sure if all females would agree with you that a husband's check does not matter if the wife is making a check.
*You misunderstood. If the wife is working a good paying job, is a doctor, comes from a good family and has all the resources she needs...what does she need you for? She has no need for your money and wont need you to support her. In what other way would you impact her life? *
Financially we would be wealthier together, there is a difference.
*PW, I am not trying to rip on you...but you sound greedy. If you werent greedy, then this statement wouldnt even be here. *
I will tell you my other qualities, I am religious, loving, caring, hard working, compassionate, forgiving and a respectful person.
*I really hope so for your sake. *
Pashtuns are generally very good looking people and I am also.
*I know plenty of girls who are married to men that look like they come for a dime a dozen but the girls find them handsome as hell. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and Ive found that to be true generally speaking. *
I also have this quality of being able to solve problems and come to compromises.
*Then, I hope you can call on this quality of yours when you're wife hunting or dollar hunting. *
Religiously the wife keeps all her money while the wife has a share in her husband's money. Even if my wife was to not give me a penny I would still want the best for her and would still spend on her.
*This is your responsibility...not a favor. *
I have four sisters of my own who I love more than life and I would treat my wife better than I would want them to be treated or at least try my level best to.
*PW, a life partner is a love partner. If you set conditions on her she will also set conditions on you. People and love come in all shapes and sizes. If you make it so difficult for the right kind of girl to get close to you then you might pass her by even when she is right in front of you. *
*No, you're not supposed to look at her money or how much she makes because you will never have any right to it. *
*No, you're not supposed to limit yourself to doctors, lawyers or engineers because that is the most backward, pendu and narrow-minded thing about Pakistanis...we dont have a mind of our own...we come classically conditioned. *
*Culture, physical attraction and some sort of mental compatibility is understandable. *
*What part of the US did you grow up in? Why is it that despite having a law degree and at least 7 years of education...you're still stuck on the same criteria I saw on the biodata of a short, skinny little guy that lives in some gaon in Punjab...two years ago? *
*Broaden your horizons a bit...you might be surprised as to what you find out there. *
*I know a beautiful, religious and positively amazing gal...she is a friend of mine and her parents are looking for her to get married soon. But she doesnt fit your criteria because she is an architect so you're going to miss out on her. *
*I know another girl...beautiful, social, educated, great family, etc. But again...no can do because she is an interior designer. *
*There is yet another one...religious, educated, smart, good looking, another great family but she is teacher...what was she thinking right? Teaching? Who on earth would want to be a teacher when you can make so much money being a doctor, lawyer or engineer and then marry someone like you?! *
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According to the principle of equality, if girls can look for a doc/eng or someone with a stable job, then why can't a guy look for the same things ??
Or are you guys saying that a nice girl will marry anyone as long as the guy is nice, understanding, compatible but has zero salary ???
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The rule applies to both parties.
