Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
Better than a psychiatric is just offering salah and extra nafaals to Allah Ta'lah swt.
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
I agree with CM...for once.
You say you are educated. You say you have Masters.
Having a college degree etc does not make you smarter.
If you were truly educated then you would have had the sence not to pay him back that 'black-mail' money.
You have so much money that you don't know what to do with it and if you were truly educated then you would give that money to charity instead of your ex. How selfish are you? You say you don't want to do 'haraam!' Don't you see the proverty in Karachi? Don't you see the beggers out on the street begging in the hot weather? Yet you're paying your ex back for the meals you had in the past!! Feed someone else who needs food woman!
You must be one of the richest women to be earning that amount in Karachi! Seriously, what job do you do and who do you work for?
Cos' I am sick of paying the crazy taxes and morgage rates and I'm leaving the UK, quitting my job and moving to Karachi to do your work! :) :) :)
people do lot of things to keep their self respect and dignity intact ..... :)
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
people do lot of things to keep their self respect and dignity intact ..... :)
Read it all Sarmad before just commenting and quoting parts of what I said!
She even paid him back for the dinners and lunches they had together - because he asked her too...then he asked her to pay back the money he gave to her sister on her wedding as a gift!!!! For crying out loud do you seriously agree with that? He's just a bully to make her do that but she did have the control as well.
Keep your self-respect and dignity by ignoring blackmails like that I say!
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I mean leave her story aside - but why on God's earth , this educated GS crowd think that any body with bad linguistic skills has no right to speak his/her mind out on this forum ?
pity indeed !
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
Peace Ani85
Whoah! … If you are for real then don’t listen to the people saying ignore him … bla bla bla … You have perfect grounds to file a law suit against him for harrassment and using emotional blackmail for you to pay him money …
Take the horrible man to court !!!
Trust me that is the Islamic thing to do … If you are one person who he has done this to … imagine others … you would be helping them out … isn’t it?
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
Dear All Friends,
i know the subject might seems to you very fimiliar , he proposed me 6 years ago .... i accepted it... he then moved to UAE for job, although his family were not financially strong but i kept motivating him that you can do it ... i respected his parents by my heart ... i loved him by my heart... it was with the consent of both families ... he was very nice to me through out the period... although there were fights .... he broke up thrice with me ... but came back....
within a month i recieved a mail ..... an excel sheet ..... where are certain calculations in that sheet ... for example laptop giften total cost 100,000 , gold gifted on your sister marriage 200,000 ... total dinners and lunches with you 50,000... etc ect... total amount 600,000 to be deposited in my account ...
i was abacked ... i called him .. i said its gift ... i cant ask my married sister that what ever my fiances family has given you plz return back,,,, I Cant
i started putting 50K since 2 months in his account ... yesterday i deposited then he called me that why 50K only i need the whole amount in altogether ... i got angry and said ... main yeh bhi nahi de rahi ..... to he said " TUM LOG HE HARAM KHANE WALE HOOO .. JAON KAHIN JA KE MAR JAOON"
I am in pain .... i am the only person who is earning in my family..... i cant concentrate on my work.....
i just got to know that he was committed to another girl since a year too and they got engaged yesterday...
can anyone of you elt me know that ALLAH do the justice ???? will he do the justice with me ? if i ill wish them is it bad.... will he and her and his family ever realize that doing such thing is not good .... let Allah help me ????///
Will Allah Help me ??????will he ??????
You should make an excel sheet, if you want help i will help you.
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Put all the hours you spent with him
Hours you spent talking to him
Hours you were thinkin about him
Hours you spent in hospital with your dad
Hours You spent driving to his home and talking to his dad and mom.
and Hours you spent trying to fix this problem.
If you or your family gifted him or his family anything put that on.
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Rougly lets say 2 hrs per day for six years it becomes 2 x 365 x 6 = 4380 hours and thats being generous. You usually spend more than 2 hrs per day.
Now tell him to pay these hours of ur life back. If he cant than charge him 200 rps/hour and thats roughly 860,000.
You should be happy you didnt end up spending your life with such a cheap person who is asking to give you the gifts back.
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
thank you psyah... believe me ... when i wrote it up all i thoguht people would help me to regain the strength ... but i am such an idiot ... its better we keep our sorrows to ourself... we human are not good enough to listen and help others!
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
awww Ani85, hope you get through this well. 
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
You should make an excel sheet, if you want help i will help you.
Rougly lets say 2 hrs per day for six years it becomes 2 x 365 x 6 = 4380 hours and thats being generous. You usually spend more than 2 hrs per day.
Now tell him to pay these hours of ur life back. If he cant than charge him 200 rps/hour and thats roughly 860,000.
You should be happy you didnt end up spending your life with such a cheap person who is asking to give you the gifts back.
Exactly and add a further Rs 200,000 for emotional blackmail and deliberately misleading her.
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
thank you psyah... believe me ... when i wrote it up all i thoguht people would help me to regain the strength ... but i am such an idiot ... its better we keep our sorrows to ourself... we human are not good enough to listen and help others!
Ani85
I am being serious ... it was good that you said something to someone ... and in most cases people will stay quiet ... because it is embarassing and people don't want to disclose any intimate affairs they have had and certainly not take it to court but you see people like him might be making a "business" out of this activity.
He needs to be stopped and if I were you on this occasion, I would convert all your sorrow in to determination to retaliate.
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
Read it all Sarmad before just commenting and quoting parts of what I said!
She even paid him back for the dinners and lunches they had together - because he asked her too...then he asked her to pay back the money he gave to her sister on her wedding as a gift!!!! For crying out loud do you seriously agree with that? He's just a bully to make her do that but she did have the control as well.
Keep your self-respect and dignity by ignoring blackmails like that I say!
Infact I did read it all before posting.
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
dear Pakilarka .... Thanks it really helped me ... it helped to stop crying ... i am sooo thankful to all you seriously it made my day .... i know i can stand up and live a life with happiness and harmony .... so what he is not there ... my Allah knows how faithful i was.... i cant rewind the time .....
but thank you all for understanding me
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
thank you psyah... believe me ... when i wrote it up all i thoguht people would help me to regain the strength ... but i am such an idiot ... its better we keep our sorrows to ourself... we human are not good enough to listen and help others!
People here **are **trying to help you...
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
Thanks psyah! thanks alot yaar.. May Allah bless you!
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
dear Pakilarka .... Thanks it really helped me ... it helped to stop crying ... i am sooo thankful to all you seriously it made my day .... i know i can stand up and live a life with happiness and harmony .... so what he is not there ... my Allah knows how faithful i was.... i cant rewind the time .....
but thank you all for understanding me
Peace Ani85
You said that you were religious and to be married to such a man will be a nightmare for you ... his actions will be like that with everyone ... you were saved from marrying him. You'll find better than him ... inshaAllah.
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Inshallah .....
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
dear Pakilarka .... Thanks it really helped me ... it helped to stop crying ... i am sooo thankful to all you seriously it made my day .... i know i can stand up and live a life with happiness and harmony .... so what he is not there ... my Allah knows how faithful i was.... i cant rewind the time .....
but thank you all for understanding me
Its rough specially for girls in such circumstances, but ALLAH only tests those who are good enough to be tested. One of my friends once told me something i really liked, he said:
When ALLAH likes you he gives you happiness and when he likes you even more he takes your happiness away just to see how would you react to that.
So hold the rope tight, its a test and you have chance to prove you are among Sabireen and Shakireen
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
Infact I did read it all before posting.
Certainly didn't seem like it.
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
indeed ...He might be testing me .... with the hardships... you are right .. i have to keep faith in Him! and i will .... and will come out of this tunnel with dignity, self respect because He is with me and he will remain with me!
Re: My Fiance Left me and i am in terrible conditions
Certainly didn't seem like it.
you are entitled for your opinion/judgement ... :)