Mr. Mood Swing-why this sudden behaviour

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i love you magic 8 ball.

he is online now and still ignoring me. But you are right. Forget him because yes i cant deal with this behaviour anymore.

I do respect myself and i need to show him that i respect myself and until he is ready to apologise he can go and F himself.

Im a bit worried about myself though...why do i always go after these men????

BUT.....im still scared of losing him....why WHYYY am i sooo stupid!!!

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Na Khooda Mila , na Wisalay sanam
Na Idher ka rahay , na udher ka rahay

At least let her enjoy her youth . She’ll be like 28-29 when she’ll finish off her studies/residency . Whats the use of youth then ? I believe one can be devil and saint at the same time . One shouldn’t totally sacrifice her present happiness for future unknown pleasure . Too much planning is not good either . Just chill and enjoy . Don’t care too much about tomorrow .

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^ Arrrgghh NaMaan :smack:

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^ Trust me if you can't enjoy your youth , you can't enjoy your elder age either .

If you wana have crush , lets have it . If you wana fall in love , go do that . If you wana get married , go do that . Cauz this is the time when you can enjoy it the most . Once this age is long gone , you won't feel a thing .

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pooo.. all the sucking up for nothing :crying:

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^ For all you know, he could be ignoring you online because he expects YOU to message him first. Because that's what you've been doing so far and he's getting used to it. So DON'T DO IT. Don't give in. Don't type up any messages. Don't even think about him. Life is too short for unnecessary stress such as this. Some people are too obtuse to realize how their actions affect others and that's selfish.

Why do you miss him? Because it's a crush. A crush gives you a high....kind of like a drug. You think about the fantasies you have of being with him.....and you miss them. Sometimes the fantasy that you build in your head about some guy is MUCH better than what the guy is like in real life. It's like your mind creates a better version of him, lol. It's sad, but common. A few hours of flirting is no indication of what the guy is like on a regular basis or what it would be like to live with him. Sure, he was fun for a while, but he could be a challenge to live with or to even have a long-term relationship with. It's difficult to even have a friendship let alone a romantic relationship with someone who can't respect you during tough times. You know you'd be upset if a female friend treated you like this frequently........so why make excuses for a male friend? You're afraid of losing something you didn't have in the first place. A crush is not a relationship. The only thing you lost is self-respect. By "losing" him, you might gain peace of mind and some freedom. Keep yourself busy with school, go work out, hang out with friends, watch a movie (maybe not a romantic one), read a book, visit your family, pursue a hobby, do some volunteer work, pray regularly.

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Okay fine .. even if you fund your own education, do you realize you have to pay them back? I bet you haven't told your folks about you being flunked because you know you are guilty for doing something you shouldn't be doing to begin with.. And what serious suggestion people can give you here, focus on your studies? Well that's the purpose of your stay at the dorm to begin with so that's not a suggestion... that's a reminder for you and a wake up call.

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actually i called my parents up right away came home and got full 100% support from them.

and the reason i stay at a dorm is that my uni is 3 hours away from my house.

Dont talk about what u dont know about.

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I don't buy that.. but okay let's say you did tell them but did you also tell them that it was over a guy?

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i actually didnt fail because of him i failed because i was in hospital with a kidney infection and missed alot of uni.

i dont have to justify myself to you or anyone and i am really appreciative of all the help i have got so far so please leave this thread if you have nothing constructive to say.

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i lol’ed at finger kissing

you’re expecting a great sweeping reaction from him and he isn’t even your bf. sheesh :rolleyes: did you even bother to stop and ask him what was the real reason he was upset? seems like you’re really in your own world and want the rest of them to be rotating around you.

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yeah i did try and sit down with him on the day he was in a very bad mood and i made it clear i was open to listen to him and asked him what was wrong and pushed a little...i was laughy and jokey but also very open...but nothing....he just was rude and aggressive and denied there anything being wrong despite the fact he was biting his nails off and he looked like he was about to kill someone and he threw the remote control across the room and threatened the throw me out the window....then told me to piss off...so yeah i did ask him.

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And after all this, you STILL persisted in asking him what's wrong and waiting for him? Just stop. Easier said than done, but don't entertain romantic thoughts about him. He reminds me of your EX, only more aggressive. The last thing you need is to be in a friendship or relationship for that matter with someone who makes threats and has physically abusive tendencies (don't forget that he DID push you). Try to move on, Alvena. It'll be tough at first, but it's not impossible because you don't know him long enough to be so hung up over him. And needless to say, this guy and his drama can really affect your studies. It may not be of your parents' funding, but it is YOUR money and you want to get the most out of it. That's all that can be said. If there were any hope/light in this situation, more people would mentioned it in their posts. But it seems clear (from your story) that he's not worth befriending even......move on sweetheart.

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[mod]If its so sickening, then there are many other threads yall can browse through. There's nothing "sick" or horrific about what the original poster is asking about. If some of you cannot stomach the thought of someone having a boyfriend, there are other threads youre mroe than welcome to go through. [/mod]

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thanks magic 8 ball.

One thing i would say about our relationship is...him threatening to throw me out the window is something i would laugh at because i always say things to him like if your mean to me ill push you under a bus and im sure i have threatened to kill him and many different ways and bite his nose off and pluck his eye balls out etc etc....so sometimes i get confused about when is aggression is real or not.....

this is really bad but....i find his aggression really attractive....ITS BAD I KNOW, i hate myself for finding it attractuive...but all the men im attracted too are the same...tall, bulky, egotistical and full of testosterone....argh

p.s. thanks sara

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:k: Much needed.

The couple of people here who find the thread sickening or think it’s a waste of time and are making condescending comments toward others who are taking it “seriously” can do the more mature thing of visiting other threads.

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Hun maybe you shud just give him space, Stop being 'clingy' by texting him and going to his room and what not. And please stay away from your ex! How would you feel if he came out another girls room? Your not really doing any justice for yourself are you?
I say just give him space, Let him text you,If hes being rude to you... erm why are you even bothering? He pushed you and slammed the door in your face? Unless hes just playing hard to get i dont see why your still talking to him. He can see he can jus click his fingers and you'll be there. I mean c'mon hun let him do some chasing!!

p.s stayy away from the ex!!!!!!

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Pleasure Sara :k:

slams door in face, pushes, threaten to kill, throw out the window, tells to piss off… no not sickening at all…

Have fun.

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And btw can i add no matter how hot this guy maybe, Nothing and i mean nothing excuses a guy for even touching a girl in that way. I remember my ex bf punched my arm in a aggressive way. Hence hes a ex.
Be careful hun xxx

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Oh my, I jus read some more of what you said! This guy seems like his has anger issues! Nah get him some anger management!!!