Mr. Mood Swing-why this sudden behaviour

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Sad how parents spend money on their kids education through their noses and this is the result we see at the end..

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Mc12IT i fund my own education so you can take your comment and eat it.

Reha your advice sounds good and i will try and follow it thankyou :)

i need to try and focus on my work rather than him, everyt time i think about him or want to text him im going to come on here.

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how??
at 21 how?

I distinctly remember you telling us "I have been independent for a long time, I bought my own flat after year or practice."

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im 22 and my parents give me 0 money.

and i am really not a dentist im a medical student.

also i havnt been on here for months and months and months

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You do own a flat?

and what happens when people go sore?
what causes it?

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wow =O

my question is- how do you have time to be in relationships and all while you're still trying to be a med student?! and which country is this? gosh, I need to move somewhere!

I remember when I was trying to get into med school, I didn't have the time to even look around- my first crush was in med school only because that's when I was like- oh wait a sec, i'm a girl :O and it was over about 2 hours later because i remembered i had to take a test next week :(

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LOLsssss so wat happend did u get in med school ?? dats what TS would lik to know ;) i mean is it worth forgeting ur crush/bf for school .....watif she doesnt get int to med school :O

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haha im in the ukkkkk!

alot of the students here are in relationships or married or dating its not unusual!

i didnt get ure comment about being a girl though?

ahh im also really emotional and relationships of any kind are really important to me almost equal to my education!

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also i REALLY WANT TO TEXT HIM. i have a message written out all ready.....but i know i shouldnt but i really want to booo.

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got it, nevermind- it wasn't directed at you.

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Education can wait but youth will never come back and neither this time . Better enjoy it now when you can . If he is stubborn then go for next . You can't stop your life for him . Enjoy .

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I wouldn’t touch this guy with a barge pole if I was you. When a person behaves like an ar*e with people and people STILL come and ask for ‘advice’ then its clear whatever we say won’t have an affect. on you.

If the guy is showing his colous now he simply ISNT worth it. I don’t neccasrily believe in the thing that you can’t love during your studies but if your ‘love’ starts to interfere in your studies then there IS a problem. Till your education finishes it SHOULD be your priorty. Because having an education is about your LIFE.

However if an unstable person, which he is clearly, is a turn-on for you, and you’d like to bury your head in the sand and you don’t mind your education sufferiung as a result then go for him. :k:

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I wish all docs can be nice, decent, chilled and pretty like you :)

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^arey wah, this is nice. thank you!

just to let you know, you're not getting free healthcare just because you shower compliments on docs. :)

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Er, stone age is it possible you’ve mistaken alvena for someone else? :halo:

I second what Milly and Reha said. Dont screw up your professional life/education for a dude. he aint worth it

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thankyou for your post shak09.

hmmm that got me thinking. Do i really want to chase a guy like this who treats me this way...and then why do i ALWAYS go for men like this...and also why do i still have feelings for him....

but ure right my education really should not suffer because of him....now the question is how to eliminate him from my mind!

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Whenever he comes in your mind just think of what you wrote above. :)

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alvena man ... the thing is u like this guy ... the guys knows it ... and he knows that ur not going anywhere ... thats why hes treating u like this ... now the thing is do u really want this guy whoz kinda pathetic like this ... or ur ready to move on and continue on with ur life cuz both things require something a lil different ... if you wanna move on then just relax and end all communications with him and pretend like he doesn't exist ... frst 5 days are gonna be hard and then u'll start feeling better ... if you still wanna kno the guy then u do the push and pull ... be nice to him and ask him how hes doing and stuff whn its just the two of u ... as soon as someone else is there ignore him completely and give all your attention to the other person

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There is your issue. Unless a man is paying my bills and committed to me for life, I will not allow him to ruin my peace of mind. You need to do the same. YOu let him get to you and put yourself in a position to get hurt. Take some responsibility for what is happening…makes it much easier to figure out a solution because now you dont feel so helpless.

BAD idea. Is he taking your exams for you? Will he be there if you flunk? Will he be supportive of you? So far, the answer seems like a NO.

Nomi, she is a girl. :smack:

Education cannot wait. Youth will not wait either…but I will say this. The decisions you make in your youth will impact your life forever. If you let anything happen to your grades because of this dude…5 years from now you will be hitting yourself on the head and regretting. But what good is regret? Not much because you wont be able to fix anything by then. It will be too late.

YOu will still be able to pick up where you left off with this guy 2 years or even 4 years from now. But not your schooling.

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I've highlighted some bits from your post, Alvena. Take a look at them, READ them.

The first and foremost thing that you need to work on (before deciding to ignore him) is to develop some SELF-RESPECT for yourself as a woman, because I think it's lacking and it shouldn't be. A woman who respects herself WILL NEVER bother going after some guy who PHYSICALLY PUSHES her and treats her like crap.

Look, we ALL have our bad days. And you need to understand that people will deal with their problems differently. Some of us feel a lot better after we talk about our frustrations. And other people prefer to handle their issues by themselves and don't feel the need or desire to pour their heart out. Perhaps this guy belongs to the latter category. Maybe he prefers to resolve issues on his own. Just because you and him were flirting for hours does not mean that he is obligated to share his issues with you. Sometimes we need to step back and let people sort out their lives in their own way. If he's clearly shown you that he wants to be left alone...........THEN LEAVE HIM ALONE.

^^^^^ Now, there's only so much consideration that can be shown to others. He was in a pissy mood and you did the polite thing of asking him if he was okay. You even showed him that he can come talk to you if necessary. You've done your part. Regardless of how bad our day is or how difficult our life may seem..........that does not give us the right to physically PUSH others. Rather than pushing you and slamming the door in your face and giving you a bad attitude.....he could have also chosen to communicate with you in a more decent and mature manner. He could have calmly told you that he's not in the mood to talk about things and wants some space. That's what a mature guy does. But he's not mature. We learn a lot about a person's character when they are stressed.

You said that later on he texted you and asked you where you were. Before asking where you were, he should have apologized first for his behavior. He should have understood that YOUR RUDENESS is a result of him being rude to you first. But he doesn't seem to realize or even acknowledge his mistakes. And rater than apologize, he continues to ignore you on Friday.

^ Why do you feel the need to apologize for your pissed off attitude by sending him some "warmer" text messages? U have every right to be pissed and you don't need to compensate here. Being nice and courteous is one thing......but lacking self-respect is another.

*******You're falling into the SAME TRAP you put yourself in before. Your EX displayed similar jerk-like/wishy-washy/hot-cold behavior. And this guy is doing the SAME thing. You managed to move on from your EX.......only to fall for a guy that behaving the same as him. Like the others, I would also suggest ignoring him and focusing on school. But I wanted you to think about what you've written in your post so you can think about what's going on in YOUR MIND before you worry about someone else. There could be many possibilities as to why he's ignoring you. It's not your headache to figure it out especially when he doesn't respect you.

^Don't compromise your education. If a guy is sincerely, genuinely interested in you......he won't play mind games and will come after you. You shouldn't be chasing him. If he wants you, he'll know where to find you. And if the jerk does decide to come after you, he better start with an apology first.......or you can kindly SLAM the door in his face, because you don't need any more hot-cold drama in your life. Your EX already put you through that. And as LibranRulz mentioned earlier, the only reason this guy has the AUDACITY to text you n ask where you are AFTER treating you like chit is because he KNOWS that you'll always be waiting for him now matter how rudely he behaves. So, think about the messages you're sending him through your body language and actions. Y