Mr. Mood Swing-why this sudden behaviour

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Ok please dont judge me on this…if you can help please respond but no lectures on having a bf etc etc thanks :slight_smile:

Hi everyone im in a bit of a pickle and i hope you guys can give me some advice.

Me and a guy friend have been flirting with eachother for some time now, we are very close text alot talk online all the time and have quite alot of attraction.

He is the kind of guy who is very guarded has a front but with me now that front isnt there. He is also very emotionally detached he doesnt really hug much or show much affection. Im sure he is also pretty insecure.

OK so about a week ago his interest in me suddenly went up a notch, he went out with his guys on a friday night but we texted while he was out then after he came back he called me and talked to until 5 am, we texted the whole weekend non stop, on sunday night i had lost my timetable so went to his room ( we live in dorms) to look at his and ended up staying in his room talking and it was good fun we talked for 4 hours straight and there was attractionfrom both sides, on monday night we were in the common room watching tv together and for the first time ever some ‘finger kissing’ as in a bit of hand play took place.

Then tuesday comes and bam everything changes, we got some exam results i failed my exams but he passed but he seemed really grumpy and moody and angry and he didnt even acknowledge my failing exams like other people and my ex bf did.

Wednesday hes in an even more worse mood hes not talking when he does he is rude, i was very very upset about failing exams and he was completelt shut off from me so my ex bf asked if i was ok and i broke down into tears and stared crying he took me into his room and we talked and when i left my ex bf room this guy i like saw me coming out, i said hi and spoke to him but he was still being rude i asked him if i could get a ride home as we all live away from home the next day as i knew he was driving back and he said no i thought he was joking so i was like haha come on and he still said said no, he walked back to his bedroom and i was like im gonna come in and not leave until you stop being mean in a jokey way…but he physically pushed me…slammed the door in my face and then locked the door! i was very very very upset. Later on my ex bf asked me if i was ok and i said no and he called me over to his room again and guess what surprise surprise my guy crush sees me coming out his room again!

LAter on i go and find the guy i like i know i should have just left him alone but i couldnt…i found him and asked him whats up etc he said nothing and was being very rude we went round in circles for a bit…i told him i wish he was nicer to me about failing exams and he wasnt and that i would have come to talk to him but he was completely shut off and shut down i felt i couldnt approach him and after i got that off my chest i felt better…

next day he does give me a ride home but the journey is full of negative tension…later on in the evning he texts me asking where i am what im upto…i text him back but im not that friendly as hes been so horrible to me…but later on i feel bad so i text him some warmer text messages i get some ok responses back.

Ok so friday i see him at a lecture and he completely ignores me so i ignore him, hes absolutely fine with other people just not me.

we havnt spoken since he has been online for ages and was online for ages last night but nothing.

Im really hurt im really upset i miss him and what him back. Im also very confused!

i dont understand whats going on and i dont know what to do next. Thanks for reading and pleaassse help!

xxx

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Re: Mr. Mood Swing-why this sudden behaviour

Concentrate on your studies. I stopped reading after 'I failed my exams'.

Men can wait...education cannot.

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Re: Mr. Mood Swing-why this sudden behaviour

hmmm Guys are weird creatures....If you truly like the guy my answer would be to just go over to him and ask him what is wrong with him? Tell him you like him but him giving mixed signals is not helping...There is no point hiding behind bushes!!!Maybe he was just having a bad day and him seeing you come out of your ex's room probably didnt help the situation...he probably thinks you were tagging him along....Try and tell him you and your ex are just MATES? I mean if I was in his situation I would be worried if the girl I liked keeps running back to her ex he may think you will probably do same thing when you guys are together!!!I can sense from your post that you and ex are just mates now but new guy is probably not seeing it that way...So yeah talk to him and tell him that you were annoyed by him that is if you think it is worth talking to him. If not just let him be and move on.

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Re: Mr. Mood Swing-why this sudden behaviour

hmm..werent u the 1 whos parents were looking for rishte sometime back??

anywayx...just ignore the guy for 2-3 days..give him sometime...if this doesnt help than just go and talk to him and tell him about your feelings..even than if its same thn pls concentrate on ur studies..

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Re: Mr. Mood Swing-why this sudden behaviour

Thankyou guys :)

Yes my parents were/are looking for rishtas for me, but they havent said put ure life on hold im allowed to find my own guy if i want to :)

Guys my biggest issue...im really sensitive and emotional and even though i know i should study for my re sit and if i fail this resit i wont be able to become a doctor...this situation is hurting me and i cant get it out of my head! :(

i wish i really wish i could think yes education education education but i am not convinced.

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Re: Mr. Mood Swing-why this sudden behaviour

You are studying to become a doctor...not doing a GNVQ in Travel and Tourism.

I don't understand where you need your motivation from.

Some aspects of life are pretty naff, some people just get on with it and some people sit and dwell. You need to pull your socks up and get over it.

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I need motivation because its tough because its depressing because its a massive responsibilty and sometimes its not always a happy ending.

When i think about my future...i see my family and my relationships giving me more happiness than my career, so far i feel like medicine hasnt given me the rewarding feeling i was hoping for.

dont get me wrong im not ungreatful i thank god that i have this oppertunity but.....i question myself...am i good enough, can i do it, is it worth it.....

and if this stupid man wasnt being such i could concentrate way way more

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Re: Mr. Mood Swing-why this sudden behaviour

and Alvena, Milly is right. Regradless of how rewarding etc Med seems to you right now.. it wont even be an option if you dont pass this exam. Prioritise.

Whilst you are doing that - ignore the moron. Or rather be cold. You dont have the mental space for him.

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Re: Mr. Mood Swing-why this sudden behaviour

You have broken up with one, i am sure you can get out of it:(

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lol.

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Everything can be tough and depressing. Responibility lies within most adult achievements, you need to accept that.

Rewards are achived not given, you need to work harder, invest what you have in your family and friends into your education.

Everybody has to work hard and make sacrafices for the what they want. You made a decision to study medicine, follow it through.

You can't change how people are, you can only change how you are and how you react towards them.

Ok, enough maturity from me...next time you see him tell him to naff off.

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Re: Mr. Mood Swing-why this sudden behaviour

I can't believe i'm going to say this......BUT....

I concur with Miss Milleh.

ulti

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in the adult world stone-age. . People date more than once, with some people it works - with others it doesn't.

Very few of us have single-guy issues in our life.

But I love Millys advice. I just hope hope she doesnt ulti at me

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I would never ulti at you Hitchki! You listen to me and I loves you (not just because you listen to me).

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I was going to say concentrate on your studies, you'll have time for this later or during summer break.

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I second this!

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u didnt do* it* right (the kissing hugging shagging part) for mr moody....
... i would say concentrate on your 'skills' for now....parhaaiii baad main dekhii jayay gii..

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I agree.

People talk to more then one person looking for suitable partner.
People do become established dentist and buy flat with their own money
and then go back to dorm to be other kind of doctor.

And best part is they still get to be 21, what we are watching matrix here?
oh wait its life1.. even better.

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Re: Mr. Mood Swing-why this sudden behaviour

thanks for the advice peoples especially milly and hitchki :)

im a bit confused about what stoneage is saying but yeah...

anyways the other issue is...im on placement atm only for of us are there....listen to how great this is....me, my ex, this guy and another guy. NONE of my friends are there...there are some other people around but people who i dont know very well to be honest.

The place is a bloody depressing to be honest.

Mr Mood swing being there was supposed to be a good thing not a bad thing!

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Re: Mr. Mood Swing-why this sudden behaviour

I dont think you're going to get what you're looking for from the guy you like. Not now at least.

Here is what you need to do:

Isolate yourself and your books for the next few days...avoid him at all costs and STOP running after him. Give him some time to cool off and you do the same. In the meantime, focus on your studies.

Everyone has said it but I will say it again...your studies are WAYYYYYY more important right now. THis man and many of his clones will be readily available at your doorstep once you're a doctor. There is nothing special about him you cant find anywhere else, trust me.

NEVER EVER screw up your professional life for a man...