Re: Married people, was your first love, really a love?
I know who you are talking about.
It’s Shakuntala, isn’t it ? She moved to Pakistani Kashmir and you stayed behind in the Hindustani part.
Haar Gaye Hum Dono Saajan, Jag Ki Rasmein Jeet Gayein
Basse Tu Uss Paar Aur Mein Iss Paar, Haaye, Bain Kare Mera Pyaar Pyaar
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nice song but no, she wasn’t a Kashmiran…she was a Loharan [oops!] i mean Lahoran thii! 
Married people, was your first love, really a love?
:hinna: wrote evrythn..deleted it..sigh..very sensitive topic for me sorry
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It was love in the beginning but everything going downhill due to otha things. I.e, her parents didn't agree. And then it was status issue along with sudden change in personality. Which eventually made me and her quiet dis-interested. So i finished it off..
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aaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwww…TRUE! sidq-e-dil se agar taubaa kii jaaye to inshaa Allah use Allah zaroor qubool farmaate haiN…
…lekin, taubaa kii qubooliyat kii sharaa’it meN yeh hai k agar Huqooq ul 'ibaad talaafii huii ho to phir usse mu’aafii maangnii aur agar maal shaamil ho to uskaa izaala bhii laazmii hai.
Allah sab ke gunaahoN aur laGhzishoN kii mo’aafii kare…aameen 
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chupkay chupkay raat din aansoo bahana yaad hay..hum ko ab tak aashiqi ka wo zamana yaad hay! :p
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He was 23 years old and I was 17 years old. I think it was true love but we didn't end up marrying eachother. I still feel the heartache but I have learned to stay happy in life due to this horrible experience. There is not a single day when I don't miss em but I know Allah has selected someone better for me than him.
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My hubby IS my first love, I met him when i was 16 
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That’s case with most pakistani guys, as i’ve heard, though haven’t experienced yet. That’s why once i find out a guy is looking for a girl to marry, the first question i ask him is that, don’t you have cousins back home who would be suitable for you , because in most cases, they are already actually engaged with some cousins or relatives to get married to & just try to look for other girls to fool around.
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Surprising!!
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Naw! I live in Pakistan and some of my cousins are just off limits, because my mom says so. And that gives me the excuse to refuse the other half, hey if I’m not allowed to marry the X’s, I ain’t going for the Z’s either.
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I don't know. I would call them crushes for that matter or infatuation but not love definitely. Especially the ones during my teenage. There was this one person though that in my head I had seen myself getting married to lol. We were very good friends the total platonic friendship thing going on. But within a few months realised it wasn't meant to be. Now when I look back, the only regret I have is that I lost a very good friend not because of what I felt but rather because of a whole lot of circumstances that made it happen.
And the real love happened after I got married AH and boy, how I learnt that my earlier definition of love was nothing but immaturity and just a plain ol' crush..nothing else :D
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uff btw slightly off topic, despite the fact that my written and spoken Urdu is pretty good, all these posts in Roman urdu are so hard to get and kind of an eyesore trying to read them 
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My first love was in high school. It was a football player and man was I head over heals. I thought he was too or he told me he was. I was a naive doe eyed girl dreaming up all type of nonsense until he told me that he had a girlfriend and that she told him that she doesn't like us hanging out together. I actually felt my heart break. I cried for days to my BFF.
But no regrets - there was so much of a life lesson there because I learned that people could look you in face an lie. Something that I wasn't exposed to in the sheltered life that my parents had given me.
Now that I look back, I laugh so much because it was more about being 15 and drama and having no clue what love, life and relationships are all about.
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I still weep for all of my loves, sometimes I weep over which one to weep for at that moment. Tsk.
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I feel really sick and full of remorse when not so nice things happen between us, I can have cool times too when things go well -I seek things but they are not entirely reached ... marriage seems so heavy compared to life before marriage ... but I only want my wife and no one else to be with me in heaven, hoping she feels the same way ... if she does - she does not let on ...
I know that I don't excite her ... I know I can be mean to her ... but I only want her companionship here and in heaven ...
I know that if we are together in heaven - our desires that we have had in this world - will be met 10 times over in each other ... And on this level there is no fantasy and no prior "love" that can compare to how I feel about my wife ... I want to be the one who has the honour who sees her eclipse the beauty of 70 hoors.
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I feel really sick and full of remorse when not so nice things happen between us, I can have cool times too when things go well -I seek things but they are not entirely reached ... marriage seems so heavy compared to life before marriage ... but I only want my wife and no one else to be with me in heaven, hoping she feels the same way ... if she does - she does not let on ...
I know that I don't excite her ... I know I can be mean to her ... but I only want her companionship here and in heaven ...
I know that if we are together in heaven - our desires that we have had in this world - will be met 10 times over in each other ... And on this level there is no fantasy and no prior "love" that can compare to how I feel about my wife ... I want to be the one who has the honour who sees her eclipse the beauty of 70 hoors.
wow that's deep psyah bhai :D MashaAllah
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Are you criticizing KKF’s saqeel Urdu and difficult to read use of caps in the middle of words ?
Yes, we all suffer through that.
No offense to you KKF. We all still love you. :k:
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Are you making fun of Psyah’s genuine emotions ? :nono:
“… but I only want my wife and no one else to be with me in heaven”
Yahan bhi aur wahan bhi ? 
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and Payah made sure he gets Biryani after Jumma Namaz :)
I feel really sick and full of remorse when not so nice things happen between us, I can have cool times too when things go well -I seek things but they are not entirely reached ... marriage seems so heavy compared to life before marriage ... but I only want my wife and no one else to be with me in heaven, hoping she feels the same way ... if she does - she does not let on ...
I know that I don't excite her ... I know I can be mean to her ... but I only want her companionship here and in heaven ...
I know that if we are together in heaven - our desires that we have had in this world - will be met 10 times over in each other ... And on this level there is no fantasy and no prior "love" that can compare to how I feel about my wife ... I want to be the one who has the honour who sees her eclipse the beauty of 70 hoors.