Justifying a Cheat

[Niksik]

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There is far more worse than all this. You just arent aware of it all

Thank God Adra.

I am happy to live a simple life with my hubby and 2 kids, striving on some values, so when I'm dying I can look back and hope that it will be easy for Allah to forgive me...:(

[Niksik]

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There is far more worse than all this. You just arent aware of it all

Thank God Adra.

I am happy to live a simple life with my hubby and 2 kids, striving on some values, so when I'm dying I can look back and hope that it will be easy for Allah to forgive me...:(

[Sara516]

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i dont see any reason why u shud be pickin at mirage the way u did by making this topic.

Mirage posted this story about someone else, not herself. So she is not being picked on.

[_Iraj]

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I think cheating wid a bf is equally bad

[Monk]

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If a person wants to look after a widow and her kids then it could be done by giving charity, not for exchange for sex.

And what a widow have to do to get some sex??? Not every thing is for the pleasure of a MAN.

[yourfriend]

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why widow would just need the charity but Not the man in her life again?

[mirage]

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Well im unhappy by what i see in ur pics yet i think that to each his own. to me, a woman who cheats on her hubby to sleep around or w/e she does is no different than a muslim woman who displays her cleavage and pics in revealing outfits to the entire gupshup. a woman like u shudnt be forgiven either n im sure alot of ppl here feel that way too. do u see us makin a topic abt ur dressing sense. n pls dont try to justify it by sayin that ur independent or modern or somethin lame like that.** i dont see any reason why u shud be pickin at mirage the way u did by making this topic**.

xoxo, no one has this God given right to criticise anyone for what they do. What adre does is solely her way of living, her style. She is mature enough for that, right.
I have no complaints either about her picking at me. There is a liberty of speech and expression, and everyone must avail that. As far as making of this topic is concerned, Im rather sorry for the offense it brought to adre that she felt a need to make a topic on this here. Whatever i wrote was in my private blog. And i didnt invite anyone to come and comment. I had posted it all in the forum if i had to share a "disgusted story." I equally wonder at the sotry being called as "disgusted". Why? there was no erotic sensation in it. It was a simple comment on life just as it is. And why are you poeple taking this all as an abuse in the society? As if its just a fake story, or all such people should be stoned to death, than let God decide and put them to death. He is the best Judge.

Stoned to death. This is the verdict you all pass here. Thanks GUpshup folks, for revealing your mentality. I came over very very much incidently. I liked the place so picked to stay. But i do not see if i have really insulted or picked at anyone here. I only offered a few words of advice, or wishes, here and there, just as i found appropriate. I am a "Desi Khatoon" with whatever morals. If you people think, that the writings in my blogs are to rot you people, and are a blot to this forum, im sorry for joining the place, and i will just quit along.

[X2]

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@knockout_artist

@X2 its not a lophole, its having a GF on predefined terms.
Making every thing clear up front .

I know mon ami.

@adrasteia

I donot agree with Muttah either, Its like saying, ‘He God guess what I have figured out a way of finding a way around your rules’

well I did not figure it out but it was a practice that was condoned way way way before my time.

@Jaan Leva

Muttah is cheating on your wife if you look at it from moral and family values perspective.

Does the man tell his wife? No.

and if he does?

@Niksik

All this is terrible! Just plain bad.

@Jaan Leva

Yeah, it is bad. But those who preach it, would love to disagree with you only until you ask them if they would allow women in their family to perform muttah or contractual marriages for few hours or weeks. Then, they jump up and say no, that wouldn’t be so nice.

as long as theya re not married, cuz I dunn think married women can do that.

[Monk]

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why widow would just need the charity but Not the man in her life again?

no one is stopping widow to get married.

[Adrasteia]

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@mirage

xoxo, no one has this God given right to criticise anyone for what they do. What adre does is solely her way of living, her style. She is mature enough for that, right.
I have no complaints either about her picking at me. There is a liberty of speech and expression, and everyone must avail that. As far as making of this topic is concerned, Im rather sorry for the offense it brought to adre that she felt a need to make a topic on this here. Whatever i wrote was in my private blog. And i didnt invite anyone to come and comment. I had posted it all in the forum if i had to share a “disgusted story.” I equally wonder at the sotry being called as “disgusted”. Why? there was no erotic sensation in it. It was a simple comment on life just as it is. And why are you poeple taking this all as an abuse in the society? As if its just a fake story, or all such people should be stoned to death, than let God decide and put them to death. He is the best Judge.

Stoned to death. This is the verdict you all pass here. Thanks GUpshup folks, for revealing your mentality. I came over very very much incidently. I liked the place so picked to stay. But i do not see if i have really insulted or picked at anyone here. I only offered a few words of advice, or wishes, here and there, just as i found appropriate. I am a “Desi Khatoon” with whatever morals. If you people think, that the writings in my blogs are to rot you people, and are a blot to this forum, im sorry for joining the place, and i will just quit along.

Mirage your blog isnt private is it??

If it is I wasnt aware of it, and If i dragged the topic out of it being private than Im sorry.

You havent insulted or picked on anyone, you gave us a topic to discuss, thats what we all are here for, discussions, pouring our opinions out.

In the end this could be anyones story and believe me there are plenty of people around who would fit the role perfectly and like you said, they’ll realize after a while its not happening for them and go back to their partners.

Does it make us superior or inferior. No. In the end when you close your IE, and turn your computer off, it doesnt matter how much of a heated discussion we’ve had or how much anger and resentment you’ve felt towards the participants, you come back the next day and there are more topics to discuss and ponder on.

Now shutup and quit this quitting BS.
I love your quite calm personality

[yourfriend]

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no one is stopping widow to get married.

exactly...
my question was adressed to adrasteia.. y charity but not the man?

[Adrasteia]

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exactly... my question was adressed to adrasteia.. y charity but not the man?

that is not what was being discussed, we arent talking bout the widows needs.

The point brought out was justification of a muttah.

[Monk]

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yourfraind good you can think outside the box.
good stuff

[Ask99]

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xoxo, no one has this God given right to criticise anyone for what they do. What adre does is solely her way of living, her style. She is mature enough for that, right. I have no complaints either about her picking at me. There is a liberty of speech and expression, and everyone must avail that. As far as making of this topic is concerned, Im rather sorry for the offense it brought to adre that she felt a need to make a topic on this here. Whatever i wrote was in my private blog. And i didnt invite anyone to come and comment. I had posted it all in the forum if i had to share a "disgusted story." I equally wonder at the sotry being called as "disgusted". Why? there was no erotic sensation in it. It was a simple comment on life just as it is. And why are you poeple taking this all as an abuse in the society? As if its just a fake story, or all such people should be stoned to death, than let God decide and put them to death. He is the best Judge.

Stoned to death. This is the verdict you all pass here. Thanks GUpshup folks, for revealing your mentality. I came over very very much incidently. I liked the place so picked to stay. But i do not see if i have really insulted or picked at anyone here. I only offered a few words of advice, or wishes, here and there, just as i found appropriate. I am a "Desi Khatoon" with whatever morals. If you people think, that the writings in my blogs are to rot you people, and are a blot to this forum, im sorry for joining the place, and i will just quit along.

I understand what you have said and the judgements that are being thrown around here.What I dont understand is why all of a sudden people are compelled to act like The Judge. Yes you can voice your opinion, and that is personal and should be kept that way...but why act like a Moral Judge of all, isnt that the job of the CREATOR, the ultimate Judge. We all go to our own Kabars and noone else's, that should always remembered. And only He knows what lies in hearts.
Do remember that there will always be people like that, trying to prove to Themselves..I say "themselves" whatever that it is that they need to justify.
As for the topic , I hold my opinion personal, because if you had opened a thread yourself and asked for comments then it would have been appropriate:)

[Man_with_a_Plan]

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I don't think mirage is the only person who has a "friend or friend of a friend" that cheats on his/her spouse.

[Monk]

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^like chris rock. "i know some ppl, who know some ppl who rob some ppl" lol

[Cheegum]

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Breaking up with someone without even telling that person that its over and then immediately finding another lover, is that cheating?

[Monk]

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^that more like torture.

[Ask99]

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Breaking up with someone without even telling that person that its over and then going and finding another lover, is that cheating?

I would think so.How can they break up if the other partner doesnt know about it

[mirage]

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Thanks to everyone. And Adre, please dont take it personal. Even im feeling disgusted with whatever happened. Good or bad, i cant bear myself seen and portrayed as a Mantu or Asmat Chughtayi in a making. Yes, my blog is viewable, but then what are blogs for, if you have no freedom to write whatever you feel like and you become a victim to a spectacle like this. How people take that story is their perspective. To me, it was just a wonder if your first love keeps on bugging you, this much more that one has to go back to their lover even after 12 years of marriage. Well. Staying was my pick and quitting is all the same. No one should feel bad about it.
Take cares you all. Im leaving my blogs open. For you all to view, and re view, and tell others, to read it. To learn a lesson that such things shouldnt be written. They are false. This is not happening. This was only an erotic story to vent my frustrations. And that writing such things is as bad as to be doomed this way. Cheers.