I’m a hopeless romantic and my fiance is the total opposite. I wanted us to have a first dance (slow dance) at the valima before we open up the dance floor for everyone else.
He loves the idea of having a dance floor where we can all just dance with friends to bhangra and other upbeat music etc. but he doesn’t care to share a slow dance with me BUT he said he will totally agree to have a slow dance as he wants to please me because he knows that I really want this.
I’m actually turned off at the idea of having a slow dance with him now because I know that deep down inside he doesnt even want to share this romantic moment with me.
Just wanted to know how many of you shared a slow dance at your valima (or shaddi) in front of everyone? Is this common practice? I’ve been to quite a few weddings where the couple had a first dance…and it was so cute!
we had a first dance, but we chose to do a fox trot to a sinatra tune instead of a slow dance. i kind of find them a bit awkward at desi weddings- most desi couples don’t take lessons or do slow dances generally speaking (or maybe just the ones i know), so they just kind of sway and rotate, and the 3 minute song becomes awkward. i’ve seen people get kind of bored during that time because slow songs tend to go on forever, and depending on how conservative the crowd is, they sometimes even get embarassed at the closeness of the bride and groom.
but it doesn’t have to be that way. perhaps a good compromise for you guys is to start off with a slow dance that the dj can halfway through mix with a rousing bhangra song that your friends and family can jump into as well. it was like that for a friend of mine and it was a lot of fun! everyone was very happy to join the couple for that.
and if you can, take lessons! it was a lot of fun for us to learn the fox trot, and the crowd at our wedding enjoyed watching us do it and cheered for us afterwards. so maybe you guys can learn a slow dance too- something choreographed that you will have fun doing and your guests will enjoy watching.
another friend danced to michael buble’s everything and they had this really cute dance with spins and dips- it was adorable!
also, i think your fiance loves you very much for wanting to do a slow dance despite it not being his first choice! i think you should go ahead with it and don’t be disappointed- he might just be shy of sharing such a close moment with you knowing everyone will be watching- maybe the lessons will boost his confidence!
Here is an amazing first dance, not at a desi wedding but I would have loved to see it in person. Just wondering how it would look like if the bride was wearing a lehenga or a sharara. LOL!
Thanks for the suggestions girls. I liked the 4th video posted best because the couple looked natural.
I like the idea of learning a dance but I've seen a lot of cases where it looks like they are trying hard to remember the next step or even uncomfortable.
I just want it to look "natural" so I think I'd rather just do the typical slow dance but I like SGC's suggestion about cutting the song short and half-way through remixing it into a bhangra song for others to join us on the dance floor.
another friend danced to michael buble's everything and they had this really cute dance with spins and dips- it was adorable!
also, i think your fiance loves you very much for wanting to do a slow dance despite it not being his first choice! i think you should go ahead with it and don't be disappointed- he might just be shy of sharing such a close moment with you knowing everyone will be watching- maybe the lessons will boost his confidence! :)
aww that was gonna be my slow dance song! I imagined all sorts of twirls and gazing-into-the-eyes with that one, awww
Did anyone here dance on their own wedding day (not mehndi)? I'm asking the girls and guys. My family is pretty conservative but my would-be in-laws aren't. My fiance wants a dance floor and he says he's definitely going to dance at the wedding.. I don't mean bhangra or bollywood style dance.. but like a slow dance or a salsa-type couple's dance. No one in my family has ever had a dance floor at the wedding.. so this is all new to me. What's you guys' experience??
i personally dont like the idea :P its the same story for me.. my fiance's family has always had the bride and groom have a slow dance at the wedding or valima and no one in my family has ever done that... maybe thats why i dont like the idea but i just think it looks soo awkward and it makes it look like the couple is trying too hard to become westernized...
it looks funny to me, again this is just MY opinion, when a bride in her heavy desi outfit is dancing to a slow american song... and then its awkward if you pick a slow desi song too cuz thats just not our culture, to be dancing arm in arm to slow songs... not sure though, ive heard many people think its cute though..
my fiance literally begged for days and then he tried making me feel bad by saying he's always imagined that moment where he'd dance with his wife on his wedding...but im not having that.. to me, its more embarassing to be dancing up there in front of hundreds of family, especially since my family's not used to seeing that....
oh hehe well id dint realize you girls were talking abt slow dancing.... well umm not gonna do that we are both gonna dance to a fast desi song on our mehndi like everyone else except when we get on dance floor its just gonna be us....and m also planning a special surprise which m not gonna share until I do it hehe
^^awwww thats really cute sara
i really want to dance but i knw thats not going to happen since my fiance's family is very conservative :( and well he is a bad dancer anyways :D
