how much does this damaad position pay?
^ 3 circus peanuts :aliyish:
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I think you're daughter just meant she doesn't want to be the main financial supporter in the house, it doesn't necessarily mean she will stop work straight after marriage...but take a break as and when she feels like.
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Her expectations are very reasonable. I know guys that are 21 and are married and have a successful business and family. No problems..
When i get married i expect my future husband to be 22-23. I dont see why not.
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IMO *girls *passed the age of 25 tend to get left on the shelf.. so i dont know how long you want to wait tbh..
I honestly am surprised why you find these conditions unreasonable. I am also shocked that she wants to live in an extended family setting. Most girls are opposed to it, although they don't realize the benefits... I work for government in a executive position, and am under 30.... so I'm sure there is lot's of gents who are also established in this age range.... all the other conditions, are absolutely reasonable....
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She is not unreasonable in her expectations.
But you will be quite a task to find a perfect match for her.
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I don't think she is being unreasonable....that's actually quite respectable...at least she's not going around saying she wants to marry a Imran Khan look alike, thats loaded and has green eyes and light brown hair with a british accent....
I don't think she is being unreasonable....that's actually quite respectable...at least she's not going around saying she wants to marry a Imran Khan look alike, thats loaded and has green eyes and light brown hair with a british accent....
Imran khan the ex cricket player? ..ew
Imran Khan the fit singer?.. Oh yes! :D
As we are going through process of finding a match for my daughter, there is a bit tension in the house, and today she told me her expectations:-
- Must be below 30 (she is going to be** 24 **soon).
- She would not require to work, her career would be solely her prerogative.
- Educated and established enough in life to maintain her lifestyle (not very lavish but, we have upper middle class lifestyle).
- Do not want to live alone, so must have extended family to live with.
- Not overtly religious (moulvi) but still religious enough to respect and practice in moderate ways.
- Of must be of good character. no drinking, smoking and not past baggage of relationship (she herself doesn’t carry such baggage).
On my side I feel that:-
- It is too early for guy under 30 to maintain wife on his own.
- She seems to be on the fast track for wonderful career (marketing at a top US IT giant) in such an early stage of her professional life she should not give it up.
- Wish to live with extended family is most welcome, but it is not practical as young peoples move around according to career and one could not guarantee the relationship with in laws (better to go separate way in good times then after souring relationships)
Is she reasonable in her expectation or this just her to telling me do not bother me right now?
That seems reasonable to me. I can think of a number of people like that that I know (though they're no longer available). Though I'm not sure what you mean exactly by overtly religious and upper middle class.
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lol That's the first name that popped into my head..but I was referring to the actor :P
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^ Oh yes i totally forgot about him, hehe :p
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I think her expectations are quite reasonable. I sincerely hope and pray you will find a good match for her, insha Allah.
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Tipu uncle your daughter seems to be serious because she seems like an older version of me 
Everyone has their criteria and she seems to be adamant on that. Some of us only marry once. Hence, there’s no harm in being careful whilst choosing.
On my side I feel that:-
- It is too early for guy under 30 to maintain wife on his own.
- She seems to be on the fast track for wonderful career (marketing at a top US IT giant) in such an early stage of her professional life she should not give it up.
- Wish to live with extended family is most welcome, but it is not practical as young peoples move around according to career and one could not guarantee the relationship with in laws (better to go separate way in good times then after souring relationships)
Is she reasonable in her expectation or this just her to telling me do not bother me right now?
My fiance is 28 and is earning alot. It's not really the age, it's what skills and degrees they have. What does this guy do?
she's more reasonable than ur being :)
and if she's doing so well at a young age, why would u not think that the guy would be just as well either? who says 30+ defines successfulness?
most guys by 26-27 have good jobs, have started their careers
in terms of wanting to live with inlaws... maybe she fears being on her own. I know a lot of girls like to have people around. My bhabhi is like that and doesnt want it any other way.. i myself had my inlaws around and it was soo nice.
You've got a very decent girl there... Mashallah se
I AGREE!!!!
My sister has the same requirment n i would too if i was single...take a breath daddy!
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all of it's fine...but i don't see living with in-laws or living only with your husband as a deal breaker.
throw in medical/dental and it’s a done deal.
have your ppl call my ppl pls.
IMO *girls *passed the age of 25 tend to get left on the shelf.. so i dont know how long you want to wait tbh..
Hey!
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