Hx of Mental Illness

[Paheli00]

Re: Hx of Mental Illness

@Pisiform

Would you date someone with a history of mental illness - specifically depression? Someone with ADHD, depression and has OD’d on meds in the past but now had their shiz together? I am not talking about falling in love etc. Thats different. But if you knew this about the person before even talking to them, would you still do it?

In the specific scenario you gave, no, I would not choose to fall in love with someone like this. If a person just had ADHD and it was under control, then yes. If the person had depression but has a stable history of keeping it under control through therapy/meds, and the depression has not effected their school/career, then yes.

But someone who has ADHD and depression and has a history of suicide? No. Marriage is stressful. Life gets hectic/stressful even more once you have kids. I would not choose to have a partner who has a much higher chance of falling apart (to the point of potentially committing suicide) when life gets rough.

Of course, things like this can develop after marriage. The future is uncertain. All we can do is make decisions based on the information currently in front of us. While I would not leave my husband if he developed issues after marriage, I certainly would not knowingly choose someone who has such serious problems.

Look at it this way, how many men would knowingly marry a woman knowing she can’t have kids? Compare that to men who find out after marriage that biological kids are not possible due to wife, and yet stay in the marriage and consider adoption/surrogacy etc.