Does your partner have a right to know everything about your life and what you do?Or is it okay to keep some things as secret?
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Right to know ... No ... Courtesy to tell ... Yes
I think its better to keep few things secret than hurting someone bad.
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wht kinda secretsss … u mean scndals or affirsss:D
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yes,secrets mean any kind of secrets at all!
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i think they have a right to know everything.. where there are some pro's to it there are some cons..
u'd never want ur partner to find something out abt u thru someone else.. it becomes a huge trust issue.. and trusting someone is the easiest but once that trust is broken.. fixing it is the hardest part!
however, if and when u do confront them abt something its probably even harder.. but atleast ur being truthful and honest! and im sure once ur partner see's tht they'll deff. come around and respect the fact that u trusted them enuff!
there were things i needed to tell my husband but it wasnt til we were 6-7 mnths into our marriage when I knew how he would handle things that i mentioned anything and Alhumdulillah ever since our relationship has been stronger than ever and he appreciates the fact tht i was brave enuff to tell him!
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No secrets from spouses. The sanctity of marriage is based on trust. If there's a secret from before marriage that you think he/she wont like, tell him/her about it truthfully before entering this sacred pact.
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u dont need to tell … n its beter u shd tel rather thn som1 frm outside tell these kinda storiesss … tht wil wil b more offensive n hurt him more thn anythg ..
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I think Sara can use this line for life1.
You should share evrything with your spouse, for things you can't there if life1.
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anything you say may (and knowing women, will) be used against you at some point in time. especially when you forget her birthday/anniversary/etc. it will cost you plenty of money in the long run.
honesty is for those in love and other n00b fools. i say invest in your relationship positively - write a diary full of fairytale stories on how you worship him/her, and "hide" in a place for your partner to find.
From experience:
you have a right to keep your past a secret, especially the past that includes relationships with an opposite sex. (actually it’s strongly recommended).
Once you are married, their shouldn’t be any secrets at all…
Yes the spouse has a right to know everything that may ultimately affect the family life…
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I believe that there are some things that should be kept secret because revealing them could potentially do more damage than good. Past relationships are one of those **"IFFY" **topics and it's best to stay away from it.
Some people are okay with their spouse having had past relationships.....and other people "APPEAR" as if they're okay with it, BUT then they get so consumed with jealousy that it does more harm to the marriage. Your past is your own and you are not obligated to share it with your spouse **UNLESS **the past could have an impact on your spouse or the marriage itself.
If a member of your family says bad things about your spouse to you....then you don't need to share that with your spouse. Because that could destroy relationships.
I feel the same way with passwords to email accounts as well. I don't think that you are obligated to provide your password to your partner. This is not necessarily an indication that you are up to no good. Use your judgment and weigh the consequences of revealing or concealing a particular piece of info.
you dont have to tell everything waterfall but DK has a point here. Having a private life is different than hiding things from your sposue. There are many things that my wife not know about me, and I may want to keep it that way, but our marriage will not suffer a bit if she learned about them, as they are not dark secrets in anyway.
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look at how TLK has left a warm fuzzy nugget for his wifey to stumble upon and discover how he has no dark secrets. :p
reality is optional.
look at how TLK has left a warm fuzzy nugget for his wifey to stumble upon and discover how he has no dark secrets. :p l.
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But yeah, no your spouse doesn’t have to know each and every thing long as you maintain the integrity and sanctity of your commitment towards each other. For example, if I am going to a bar everyday at 3 pm but I tell my hubby that I am getting a skin whitening treatment at the salon, that would be immoral but the very fact that I eat a Godiva chocolate bar everyday for lunch isn’t something he should know 
, or that I spend some serious $$ just the other day buying stuff i didn’t need…I’ll leave that to him to discover :hinna:
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A *right *to share doesn't sound so right. Having some personal space is encouraged between couples. If a spouse feels there is something that might bring in some negativity to the relationship then he/she is better off discussing it out then keeping it hidden.
Right to know ... No ... Courtesy to tell ... Yes
I think its better to keep few things secret than hurting someone bad.
Yours is good.
I would add:
Right to know everything ... No
Obligation to tell everything ... No
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mix it up. Every-time they catch a lie be like SURPRISE...and if they hear a horrible truth ask them if they prefer you to lie.
Sure to keep the spice.
- write a diary full of fairytale stories on how you worship him/her, and "hide" in a place for your partner to find.
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