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such statements are the reality now days.. you are falling into their games, today they ask you to stop wearing hijab or else you are dislodge, next day they will ask you to wear a uniform which is nothing but a pieca a face cloth.
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If he wanna shake hand. Refuse the job by saying this k i don’t wanna work where shake hand is necessary
All the best for interview. Remember it’s just interview not marriage proposal. U’ll do gr8 :k:
Stoppit - there is always one who takes it too far, I guess you're right it's beyond discussion with such a character.
Each to their own - Ishi88 if you feel so strongly about it, just explain to him why you won't shake his hand (if he offers his hand to you that is). If you feel so strongly about it, it won't be difficult to explain why when you are in that situation.
Good luck with the interview.
lol.. it's coming from a person who is suggsting this
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just shake his hand, where is the harm? I hear cooties are treatable anyway
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I rest my case!
here's what you should do... shake hands with him but make it very obvious to him that you're extremely uncomfortable while you do that. half during during the handshake, start shaking visibly, eventually start crying which should turn into loud, violent sobbing shortly... finally, just start saying all the arabic that you know out loudly. if you don't know any arabic, just start singing some sad Urdu song... but sing it like you're angry.
that will preserve your emaan, Allah will also be happy knowing that even though you shook hands with a man, you were really unhappy about it. that will make Allah happy and the pervert who shook your hand will also get the message... and of course, he will burn in hell for forcing you to shake hands with him... Inshallah...
don't worry, sister... all of us will pray for you at the upcoming MSA halaqa.
btw, so, you don't feel comfortable shaking a man's hand... but you don't have any problems "falling in love" with a 23-year old guy in Pakistan over MSN... okie dokie... well, you didn't shake hands with him at least... so I guess I see your point.
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Mc12IT - I believe in your troubled state you are unable to understand humour. Trust me there was no case to answer. You are dealing with a 1st class lawyer here mate. You wouldn't want to get me started on cases. Please shut the door on your way out. Thanks.
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here's what you should do... shake hands with him but make it very obvious to him that you're extremely uncomfortable while you do that. half during during the handshake, start shaking visibly, eventually start crying which should turn into loud, violent sobbing shortly... finally, just start saying all the arabic that you know out loudly. if you don't know any arabic, just start singing some sad Urdu song... but sing it like you're angry. that will preserve your emaan, Allah will also be happy knowing that even though you shook hands with a man, you were really unhappy about it. that will make Allah happy and the pervert who shook your hand will also get the message... and of course, he will burn in hell for forcing you to shake hands with him... Inshallah...don't worry, sister... all of us will pray for you at the upcoming MSA halaqa. btw, so, you don't feel comfortable shaking a man's hand... but you don't have any problems "falling in love" with a 23-year old guy in Pakistan over MSN... okie dokie... well, you didn't shake hands with him at least... so I guess I see your point.
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trying to be funny puttar? Not happening!
Mc12IT - I believe in your troubled state you are unable to understand humour. Trust me there was no case to answer. You are dealing with a 1st class lawyer here mate. You wouldn't want to get me started on cases. Please shut the door on your way out. Thanks.
The girl is serious and asking for your help and you are giving her silly answers to get the humour?how about shutting the door on your face... BANG done!
where do you live, Mc12IT? I sure hope it's not in the kaafir west...
btw, Dilbert is haraam too... just in case you didn't know.
Listen, when you eventually go on to work, if its in a commercial environment/ in a private company you will regularly be faced with this situation. What will you do? embarass a client or a senior manager by refusing to shake their hand? get with it sister, this is just not on in the western world. you will make a prat out of yourself and humiliate the other person. Concentrate on more important matters of religion, like regular namaaz etc. don't get caught up in this petty nonsence. If your heart is pure when you shake hands I'm sure Allah will understand your predicament and forgive your 'sin'.
No he may not offer a handshake but it may ruin your interview 
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Ajuba point taken, but it's bewildering for Muslims to think that they will get into trouble if they wont do what they were told to do. I have known girls doing PHD or becoming a top Engineer in their fields without ever shaking hands or fitting into some fantasy world made by those who don't respect anyone's religion. I'm not being extreme about it, but if she is uncomfortable doing that then why are we telling her to do it as long as she is a good Muslim in heart... i think being Muslim depends on your acts as much as on your intentions.
I didn’t realise this was the same girl until I read your comment! I guess by Ishi88’s standards the msn convo isn’t haram as there is no physical seeing/touching? 
Ajuba - great comment.
here's what you should do... shake hands with him but make it very obvious to him that you're extremely uncomfortable while you do that. half during during the handshake, start shaking visibly, eventually start crying which should turn into loud, violent sobbing shortly... finally, just start saying all the arabic that you know out loudly. if you don't know any arabic, just start singing some sad Urdu song... but sing it like you're angry.
that will preserve your emaan, Allah will also be happy knowing that even though you shook hands with a man, you were really unhappy about it. that will make Allah happy and the pervert who shook your hand will also get the message... and of course, he will burn in hell for forcing you to shake hands with him... Inshallah...
don't worry, sister... all of us will pray for you at the upcoming MSA halaqa.
btw, so, you don't feel comfortable shaking a man's hand... but you don't have any problems "falling in love" with a 23-year old guy in Pakistan over MSN... okie dokie... well, you didn't shake hands with him at least... so I guess I see your point.
Ur souding like a typical saas 2me who finds every moqa to throw tantrum 2her DIL LOL :D
My request 2u is plz keep these 2 things apart..........I am here 2 get some advice ona SERIOUS issue n ur here (i hope) to provide that help n not throw tantrumz lika zalim saas :(
your issue is very similar to the one captured in the following song. so, let this song be your guide.
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by Ishi88's standards the msn convo isn't haram as there is no physical seeing/touching?
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Actually MSN convo isn't haram if the intention is to get to know that person and to marry him. However, you bullying her for the sake of your own "humour" LIAR jee (oops I mean Lawyer jee) is a sin and quite pathetic of you.
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Ur souding like a typical saas 2me who finds every moqa to throw tantrum 2her DIL LOL
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Oh so he is a SHE? I thought she was a HE.. damn he/she/it shuld have stayed in between to reduce any confusion.
Actually MSN convo isn't haram if the intention is to get to know that person and to marry him. However, you bullying her for the sake of your own "humour" LIAR jee (oops I mean Lawyer jee) is a sin and quite pathetic of you.
Oh so he is a SHE? I thought she was a HE.. damn he/she/it shuld have stayed in between to reduce any confusion.
Mc12IT, were you born this clever? or is this something you've worked on over the years? either way, bravo my friend... bravo...
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In interviews it’s usually recommended handshake - a firm handshake - mostly referred as.
A handshake really tells A LOT about a person. How confident he/she is, how the interview will go and how he/she will be perceived after the “chatty” interview. So don’t under estimate the handshake!
Personally I do not care about the handshake. It’s does not make me feel LESS religious, or that I have TOUCHED a man- DUH!
Since you are so uncomfortable - can you please explore further on WHY a handshake is such a biggie?
^ I just want to understand from your point of view - what makes a handshake such a big deal for you?
Please tell
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i really don't know what to tell u on how to avoid shaking his hand without making it awkward for u both but im also curious to know why a handshake is such a big deal to u
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In most parts of the world, a handshake is considered a polite manner of meeting. To refuse a handshake is offensive to the one offering it. If you want to get along in the working world, you will face your dilemma often. When given a promotion or raise. When meeting a new colleague. Too many situations to mention. Not a one sees it as a sexual thing or thinks "oooooh! I touched a woman!!". Maybe look for work as a nursery school teacher's aide or something like that. But even there, you will meet the principal of the school and the parents who of course and as a matter of routine will put out their hands to you upon meeting.
Islam does not forbid handshakes. Over-zealous practitioners do - the type that think a simple, polite and innocent handshake will turn a woman into a mini-skirt-wearing hussy.