Asalam-o-alikam…mai dobara hazir ho aik nay sawal k saath 
I have an interview at university next week and this question has just popped in my mind
WHAT if i havta shake hand with the interviewer???
I mean if its a female then i have no problems …BUT if its a male then problem he problem hy 
whats the best way to refuse?
I dun wanta insult them infront of evi1 SO how can i nicely refuse them?
Any ideaz guyZ ???
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i guess just enter and do a hand wave saying hello or something that wud kinda let the other person know that shaking hands is not an option or not necessary?!...
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Why can't you shake their hand?
Just give a good firm handshake and move on. You won't catch cooties.
Good luck for your interview. :)
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Well i respect your choice not to shake his hand but
if i were you i would think twice not doing so and as you know it can be a big media issue
and they can bring it out and no one can stop from there.
Beleive me think well before u do something like this.
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Just shake his hand, where is the harm? I hear cooties are treatable anyway :)
i guess just enter and do a hand wave saying hello or something that wud kinda let the other person know that shaking hands is not an option or not necessary?!...
WHAT if the interviewer is unable to understand my signle for ANy reason (maybe he iz stupid :D) And puts his hand 4ward...........Den what am i supposed to do in that situation?
Why can't you shake their hand?
Just give a good firm handshake and move on. You won't catch cooties.
Good luck for your interview. :)
KOZ I dun feel comfortable in shaking hands with men :(
Thanks :)
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Ishi, seriously if you don't want to shake his hand just tell him why? 'Sorry It's nothing personal but due to my beliefs I can't shake your hand.'
When you walk in to the room try to make your hands unavailable - take your coat off, put something in to your bag, get a tissue out from your pocket and wipe your nose lol..
I'm sure he will understand. Didn't a woman recently hit the headlines for refusing to shake hands with a man?
KOZ I dun feel comfortable in shaking hands with men :(
Thanks :)
Look here is a good advice for you i hope:
Talk to him before meeting him and tell him what is the problem and you don't want to disrespect him but its only that u dont feel comfortable with it andyou do it with no other man (shaking hands).
Believe me if this is blown out of propotion and its in the media (like this has happend many times in holland) you will be more discomfortable then just by shaking hands.
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Shame on such people who are forcing her to shake hands with men.. why should she, and why are you telling her something which is not allowed in Islam? My advice to her is to have a body language which will tell other person that you are happy to see him but wont shake hands... be modest about it, you are doing nothing wrong. Allah is with you!
WHAT if the interviewer is unable to understand my signle for ANy reason (maybe he iz stupid :D) And puts his hand 4ward...........Den what am i supposed to do in that situation?
Well in that case if you feel strongly enuff about this whole situation i had advice you to let the interviewer know of your reservation :-)
Goodluck.
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If you wear hijab etc you may be able to get away with it. Just hold your hands together and do a little nod when you greet them. It will be awkward coz no doubt they will extend a hand and then you will have to explain politely why you can't shake hands. Not the best first impression.
You're setting yourself up with a lot of problems over such an insignificant act. Especially now days, if you have been listening to the news you will know that universities in the UK have been told to tighten up in vetting students with extremist views. To them, this would seem pretty extreme.
Well i respect your choice not to shake his hand but if i were you i would think twice not doing so and as you know it can be a big media issue and they can bring it out and no one can stop from there. Beleive me think well before u do something like this.
WHAT if i sneeze 3-4 times infront of them n wipe my nose wih my right hand :D
Do you think they will STILL offer a handshakE? :D
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She doesn't even need to explain him anything, not one non-Muslim who doesn't know about Islam and its way abouts.. plus what kind of a Prof he'll be if he doesn't know or respects others religion or culture.. Like i said, have a cool gesture, make an eye contact but don't shake hands. Simple as that!
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I don't think anybody was trying to force her to shake the guys hand. I'm pretty sure that she is in control of her own body.
With regards to it being 'forbidden' in Islam this isn't a hard and fast rule. Yes, where there is harm of provoking any sort of sexual enjoyment from the handshake then it is wrong. I'm pretty sure that this sort of reaction wouldn't surface in Ishi88.
And when has it been the case that just because the guy is a professer he should automatically know what goes and doesn't go in Islam? A majority of Muslims can't even claim to know every single aspect of their religion.
Believe it or not a handshake is considered as respect in many countries.
WHAT if i sneeze 3-4 times infront of them n wipe my nose wih my right hand :D Do you think they will STILL offer a handshakE? :D
hahahahahha
a good one :D
KOZ I dun feel comfortable in shaking hands with men :(
Thanks :)
Ok. That's fine.
Then it's all about the body language. Greet them in a polite manner, keep your distance, keep your hands by your side (or better, occupied with a folder/bag), maintain eye contact and smile. :)
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These men made rules are meant to be broken - Do you fear Allah or fear these goras? Like I said, that's exactly they want from Muslims women to do, be strict on them so next day they'd come wearing short skirts and tank tops... there's nothing to fear but fear it self.
These men made rules are meant to be broken - Do you fear Allah or fear these goras? Like I said, that's exactly they want from Muslims women to do, be strict on them so next day they'd come wearing short skirts and tank tops... there's nothing to fear but fear it self.
there is no point discussing with someone who makes such a statement.
my brother won't shake hands with women either but he would never say something so ridiculous. even he is aware of the pitfalls though.
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Stoppit - there is always one who takes it too far, I guess you're right it's beyond discussion with such a character.
Each to their own - Ishi88 if you feel so strongly about it, just explain to him why you won't shake his hand (if he offers his hand to you that is). If you feel so strongly about it, it won't be difficult to explain why when you are in that situation.
Good luck with the interview.