Muzna...No offence intended again, but i think you missed another important point.
Thanks sanadubai, TLK, and marwah. I had come to the same conclusion, but just wanted to make sure. I just don't understand why the guy would say that when you are not even in any relationship. I mean, he first wants to be your friend, then tells you that he likes you, and when you say that you need time to think about it, he agrees to give you that time. Then he comes and says that 'I am not good enough.' It's got me all confused, but I guess I should just say, 'yes, you are not', and ignore him?
Alvena, has made it clear they were not in a relationship, so Muzna, when there was no relationship in this case, how can the guy dump her?
why not ask him,, so why dont you think you are not good enough for me.
it may be a wishy washy answer which means he is just trying to get out ..with one of those its not you its me things..which is the likely situation
or maybe he has confidence issues which you really dont want to deal with because that can turn into jealousy, possessiveness and all later. u dont want to suffer due to his hangups
or maybe there are expectations of life that you have stated or he perceived which he knows he cant fulfill.
If you like the guy, ask him what he means..maybe he is fretting about something and a conversation will ease that, and if that is the case you should ask him to be more communicative in future and not let things get to him.
if its err umm well you see abip erpp err ahumm umm etc thrown in his reasons, just say yeah now that you say this I think you are right we are not compatible and move on
lol, I really did not expect this many responses. Thank you so much for your input though, I really appreciate it.
Let me clarify a few things. I am NOT in a relationship with this guy. I don't think I ever was. We only met about a month ago, and started to talk/chat using facebook/msn.
We had been chatting for a couple of weeks when this guy sort of 'proposed' to me. He did NOT ask me out on a date. He wanted me to consider him seriously. I told him that I could not just say 'yes' like that. I needed time to maybe get to know him a little, and then see if I start to like him. That was last week. We have been talking to each other everyday since. Today, he told me about his ex girlfriend, and despite my having assured him that I would never judge him based on his actions from the past, he told me that he was not good enough for me. 'You deserve better', he said. Well, I was sort of in a rush (he had caught me at the wrong time), so I was unable to respond properly. I said my farewell and told him that we would talk later.
Now, I am by no means in love with this guy. I find him interesting, and was actually starting to like him. I would look forward to our chat/talk everyday, but him 'dumping' me, as others have put it, has not 'crushed' me. It did confuse me a little, maybe made me a little sad, but nothing more. I just wanted to get a second opinion on this, because I did not want to make the wrong decision based on something I did not fully understand. I could not ask my friend, as she had thought him 'fast' from the beginning. She is right too though, this guy did not even know me when he said that he liked me. How can you like someone when you don't even know anything about their personality? Well, despite all that, I did not think there was any harm in getting to know him. Maybe zobia is right, that he did find me annoying. I don't know, and I don't think I care/want to think about this anymore. Thank you all once again for the comments/advice/input. Some of them really made me laugh :d
now lemme change what i had said, he is a big time tharki
y did u even bother to think, u should just have had said “No” (yeh khe her k Yeh Gudday Guddi ka Khail nahi), or talk to him ok what is education? or where are u working?
if he is serious, find it out.
hmmm he prob just thinks that what you want out of life might be too much for what he can offer..
maybe he thinks he's just not in the position to ask for your hand at the moment... maybe u'r more accomplished professionally than he is at the moment and thats why he is saying that?
i dont really think he's dumping u, as there was no going-out business, so how can he dump you?
Why dont u talk to him and ask him what he means rather than make an assumption that is quite baseless?
Clarification wont come from anyone on GS, it will only come from him so he is the best person to ask what he meant by that. That is, if you even want an explanation from him.
It means exactly as it sounds (jeez why do u girls have to complicate everything!) You are just too good for him and you deserve someone better. So forget him and don't bug the guy again.
I think pple should stop dissing potenially honest men as those with self-esteem.
Sometimes its good to acknowledge what you are. Portraying to pple something you are not will only damage yours and thier future relationship.
I mean the pull some guys get from attarction gives them enough energy and drive to lie and play their ways throught into the girls heart, and its not diffcult for anyone who has had the boot of attraction from thier backside, to do this.
But all too often when the reality kicks in after the lovey-dovey phase has past, girls start wishing had they been more 'rational' in choosing thier guy, and not let them be decieved by his confidence/charm/fakeness.
Maybe this guy was indeed a jerk, I dont deny that, and in that case i agree to the people shunning him, but if that wasnt the case, and he knew he would not be able to live up to Spokos expecations, then i think it was nice of him atleasts informing spoko of the reality, giving her the choice.
Spoko, you said the finshing comment happned in a rush didnt it, hope you understand by just saying 'you deserve better', he hasnt neceserily dumped or rejected you, maybe hes being courteous by telling you the truth, leaving the ball now in your side.
Ladies, I hope you appreciate a guys point fo view on a guy.
Why do we call every man a jerk when he expresses his disinterest in a relationship? Is it better for him to drag and fake a relationship than be honest and just say he wants out?
now lemme change what i had said, he is a big time tharki