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^is there any situation in which you wouldn't beat your kids? that's two threads now and same conclusion. don't worry, i'll keep count for you.
^is there any situation in which you wouldn't beat your kids? that's two threads now and same conclusion. don't worry, i'll keep count for you.
She won't beat her kids if they kick their dad's a$$ for watching porn.
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Ok I was just joking in the other thread… a little smack on the bum isnt really beating.. is it 
jeez guys learn to take a joke
She won't beat her kids if they kick their dad's a$$ for watching porn.
LOL. thank you for this. you have no idea.
so man you are saying addiction of anything does not exist? because if we go by your example of “deserted iland”, people will not fulfil any of their addiction but food and getting back to normal life.
btw, lack of self control = addiction …
I know what the main issue is here... but on a different angle, I do wonder how the husband would react if he knew that his wife was discussing something like this with her friend(s). he obviously must have been embarrassed... but that would be nothing compared to the embarrassment of knowing that you fked up and your partner went and told her pal(s). aren't ppl supposed to keep their and their family's personal lives (good or bad) private? I'm always surprised by how much personal stuff people share with others.
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samb...oh come on! that is not fair...there are times and situations where one needs someone to talk to, to help them sort things out...dil halka karnay kay liyay....
Yes you shouldnt be going and telling every its bitsy thing...but things which are big and tough, we all need someone to share with, to help us out, its not disloyalty, its getting help.
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getting help is one thing. dil halka karna is another...
anyway, to each his own. maybe when I'm faced with such a tough situation, I will change my mind. but some stuff that I see ppl sharing with friends/acquaintances/coworkers casually I would not share.
I know what the main issue is here... but on a different angle, I do wonder how the husband would react if he knew that his wife was discussing something like this with her friend(s). he obviously must have been embarrassed... but that would be nothing compared to the embarrassment of knowing that you fked up and your partner went and told her pal(s). aren't ppl supposed to keep their and their family's personal lives (good or bad) private? I'm always surprised by how much personal stuff people share with others.
man and embarrassement?.... no, its Not the MAN thing
so man you are saying addiction of anything does not exist? because if we go by your example of "deserted iland", people will not fulfil any of their addiction but food and getting back to normal life.
btw, lack of self control = addiction .....
no einstein a person with such an addiction would not have withdrawal symptoms as would a person who was on drugs. Truthfully speaking the last thing on your mind would most likely be your beloved computer should you find yourself in such circumstances.
Just because a man has fantasies doesn't mean he should find such a sick way of acting them out! Why not change our fantasies for the better? like building schools for the poor? or helping people out?
You have no idea how much the idea of building a school or a 'sabeel' turns me on.
Anyway, whether you lot puke or whatever, but if a guy says he has not watched porn ever, he is a ****ing liar. As for being a regular, yes that is an addiction, and that is sick.
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Guys always need their "alone time".
It does not mean they are disrespecting their perfectly healthy wives.
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Beating your kids won’t help in anyway, it will only make the problem worse. The more you try to stop them, the more they will try to watch it. Even if you explain it to them, it still won’t work. They will still end up on those sites after a week or two.
To be honest, you can’t stop your children from watching these kind of stuffs. I mean, you might be able to stop them watching it at home by keeping the computer & tv in a lounge rather then in their bedroom or you could spy on them 24/7 but what about when they are at school or out with their friends? Other kids in school will talk about porn, no matter what and so will some of their (your kid) friend’s. It’s almost impossible to keep your children away from it. You just can’t stop it happening, certainly not in this century.
Just accept the reality and live with it. As someone said above, if your kids are smart they won’t get caught 
. Even in newspapers you see topless girls having fun, in UK that is. And it won’t be long before chicks in bollywodd start to act like “pornstars” and as far as i know more than 65% of asians love or watch bollywood movies, including Pakistanis ofcourse. 
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did some people just defend porno?... say whaa?
no einstein a person with such an addiction would not have withdrawal symptoms as would a person who was on drugs. Truthfully speaking the last thing on your mind would most likely be your beloved computer should you find yourself in such circumstances.
There was a time when people used to say "iss per JIN aa gaya hay" and it finally turned out to be the physiological issues/problems. For years people lived in state of denial that "physiological issues" do exist. You seem to be in same state for porn addiction.
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okay, men are men....they watch porn wether they are 15 or 45.....either secretly or with other guys.....i think just let them be...its not exactly that they are visiting prostitutes or keeping mistress's here....they are just watching some gross stuff...!!
totally my opinion....dun mean to offend or anything to anyone...!!
No offense stardust, but do you actually think your fiance has never watched porn?
and i agree with the others what exactly does beating your kid achieve? Kids WILL look at porn, at school kids will talk about it and will wanna see what its about. You cant stop that. You jus gotta explain to them (without embarrassing them) that its UNREAL!
He might have seen it MixedBeauty but having seen it he would want to protect his children from coming across this. By the way when I mean children, I mean a person below the age of 13. Once a person is in their teens he would know that hormones are running riot. He would be more accepting.
But if a child is deliberately watching it then he must be punished for it. Simply explaining it to them won't make them realise that there must be repurcussions for their behaviour.
Stardust- Your friend probably has to act 'devastated' to gain your approval. Let them be. Tell her to talk to her husband directly and I am sure they'll come to a mutual solution. Your exasperation will just cause more problems. Now from a guy’s perspective; Almost all the guys I know have watched/ continue to watch some sort of porn. Luckily most of them aren't addicted to it or find some of the sicker stuff out there interesting. A husband watching porn has absolutely nothing to do with his wife. She doesn't have to feel like she is doing something wrong. It's just something a guy does once in a while. Bad analogy but think of it like having a craving for chocolate. If your friend makes a big deal about it he's just going to find more creative ways to watch it. So get off yourself righteous horse and be realistic. Also, many have said it before, a grown man watching porn and a child watching porn are two completely different issues. You are not your husband's mom for god’s sake!
Excuse me Stork, I am on no righteous high horse. Get your facts right yea?
I came here looking for advice if people have been in the same situation. Some have called it an addiction, some have called it a "man's thing" but as of date, no one seems to be in the same position as my friend. She really is hurt by this. You would have no idea because it seems to you that a man watching porn is a normal thing to do. This is typical of a man's inabilityt to understand the complex mind of a woman. I personally think she should get her own back by stopping all the cooking and cleaning and instead, start doing her hair and nails all day because that is such a "woman's thing" to do.
**Your friend probably has to act 'devastated' to gain your approval. **I am sorry but that is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Why would she have to fake her devastation? And it's not like a family member died that she can't stop crying or get out of bed. She is continuing her normal life! She is raising his kids and being the best wife she can be. How dare you say something so non-sensical and downright rude!
I thought there were people who had more sense on GS!
I lived in that very same hope… Unfortunately I am alone in this ocean full of stupidity :hinna: