Re: Husband watching something inappropriate online?
my dear ladies a lil somin somin for you 
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For this very reason, a very famous poet once said..
"Kaun hay jis nay porn nahee daikhi
kaun jhooti qasam uthaa-ta hay"
Really?... Thats taking it abit far. Surely he wudnt harm his children?
Well, it depends on the type of porn he is accessing. Usually the girls on porn sites are not 18+, they are much younger than that. They try to pass as 18 with fake id's and many are just exploited. Why do you think the whole idea of child porn is out of control nowadays? Statistics say that 80-90% of children are abused by relatives or care takers.
Porn has been classified as an addiction just like cigarettes and shoes. There are ways to rid the addiction and not one of them is your friend's reaction.
That's not true, what constitutes as an addiction? How much time are you suppose to spend watching porn to be labelled as a porn addict?
Porn has been classified as an addiction just like cigarettes and shoes. There are ways to rid the addiction and not one of them is your friend's reaction.
That is just crap IMO. Those guys cant keep their trousers on for more then 2 minutes and its labelled as an addiction.. What rubbish!
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i just told my friend about this topic and his response was “ITS A MAN THING” 
i could not come up with a better response. The guy is not cheating or anything.
That is just crap IMO. Those guys cant keep their trousers on for more then 2 minutes and its labelled as an addiction.. What rubbish!
oh please, dont bring guys/girls war in here. It indeed is an addiction and its not gender specific.
Well, it depends on the type of porn he is accessing. Usually the girls on porn sites are not 18+, they are much younger than that. They try to pass as 18 with fake id's and many are just exploited. Why do you think the whole idea of child porn is out of control nowadays? Statistics say that 80-90% of children are abused by relatives or care takers.
So tru.. My stomach jus turn'd thats absoloutly vile. I dont even wanna talk about child abuse. My heart jus sinks.
Lets hope that this Husband will stop watching porn and jus focus on his wife. But she has nothing to worry about, Like everyone says it is indeed a man thing.
Its not a guy/ girl conflict… Those men just want an excuse to keep watching it and decided to pay some thick scientist to label it as an addiction.
So tell me then mister… If you’re stranded on a deserted island would you desperately need a fix of your ‘porn addiction’ A druggy would be gagging for a fix, as would an alcoholic for a drink… YOU mate would be worried about food and getting back to normal life!
Any one who claims to have an addiction bearing in mind an addiction is a medical condition chats rubbish.
I would appreciate a guy more for accepting the truth that they lack self control then to give it a rubbish excuse such as an addiction
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It's scary because they might not get satisfied from their own wives. I actually think it's unhealthy for the relationship. And I really hope they don't expect pornstar behavior from their wives, because in some cases she'll never measure up to an expert fantasy. So disgusting.
Throw rocks at me if you must
and yes, it's definitely an addiction. Take any psych class and you'll know. If I remember correctly, the causes are frustration, boredom, and I think tiredness...not sure about the last one
I was talking with a close friend and she told me that she caught her husband watching something he shouldnt have been watching online. ".
Sedha ja kr bool do ke yeh dekhna aankh ka zina hay or zina se bachna nihayat zaroori hay
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Lady lama, do you think drug abuse, alcohol abuse and cigarettes is an addiction or just lacking self control?
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WHy is it any of our business what married people do in the privacy of their own home?
Now in the situation in the original post.....they may watch porn just for fn. sometimes men may have fantasies that they cannot (and will not) fulfill in real life.
Protecting your children from pornography and the impact pornography can have on a relationship are two totally different things.
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Sara, there was no "fun" in this! She walked in on him! and he reacted badly as did she. There was no mutual consent in watching this material.
Just because a man has fantasies doesn't mean he should find such a sick way of acting them out! Why not change our fantasies for the better? like building schools for the poor? or helping people out?
I agree that it is an addiction. Once you see it and know its so readily accesible, you're going to go back for more. There is no viable stop to it unless you throw the computer out of the house.
I really do fear for my children. I really don't know what I would do if I caught my kids doing that. I know my fiance would beat them to a pulp because he has already told me that!
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First and foremost, children do not need to stumble upon porn. Home computers need to be in a family room, they need to be protected and the kids need to be watched when they use their OWN usernames to access the computer.
If God Forbid, a child should stumble upon some porno website, the thing to do is TALK to them. NOT to beat them senseless, what does that prove???? It will serve to make them defiant and want to see the naughty things even more. TALK TO YOUR KIDS.
As far as husbands....well if it gives them incentive, if it perks them up, wheres the harm. Heck, unless they're looking at really warped stuff then its all ok if it fires them up and keeps their spark sparking yeah?
** Just because a man has fantasies doesn't mean he should find such a sick way of acting them out! Why not change our fantasies for the better? like building schools for the poor? or helping people out? **
I agree that it is an addiction. Once you see it and know its so readily accesible, you're going to go back for more. There is no viable stop to it unless you throw the computer out of the house.
I really do fear for my children. I really don't know what I would do if I caught my kids doing that. I know my fiance would beat them to a pulp because he has already told me that!
Why seperate the two? is it not possible for a person to have a sexual fantasy and that kind of fantasy (to help out others)?
How do you know he doesnt wish to do that as well?
Every man (and woman) has fantasies that they cannot and will not act out. You cannot police peoples minds.
I personally believe that beating your child to a pulp is far worse than watching a porn. but hey to each their own.
Sara, there was no "fun" in this! She walked in on him! and he reacted badly as did she. There was no mutual consent in watching this material.
Just because a man has fantasies doesn't mean he should find such a sick way of acting them out! Why not change our fantasies for the better? like building schools for the poor? or helping people out?
I agree that it is an addiction. Once you see it and know its so readily accesible, you're going to go back for more. There is no viable stop to it unless you throw the computer out of the house.
I really do fear for my children. I really don't know what I would do if I caught my kids doing that. I know my fiance would beat them to a pulp because he has already told me that!
If your kids aresmart they won't get caught
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No offense stardust, but do you actually think your fiance has never watched porn?
and i agree with the others what exactly does beating your kid achieve? Kids WILL look at porn, at school kids will talk about it and will wanna see what its about. You cant stop that. You jus gotta explain to them (without embarrassing them) that its UNREAL!
Just because a man has fantasies doesn't mean he should find such a sick way of acting them out! Why not change our fantasies for the better? like building schools for the poor? or helping people out?
why didnt i think of that...
Sara, there was no "fun" in this! She walked in on him! and he reacted badly as did she. There was no mutual consent in watching this material.
Just because a man has fantasies doesn't mean he should find such a sick way of acting them out! Why not change our fantasies for the better? like building schools for the poor? or helping people out?
I agree that it is an addiction. Once you see it and know its so readily accesible, you're going to go back for more. There is no viable stop to it unless you throw the computer out of the house.
I really do fear for my children. I really don't know what I would do if I caught my kids doing that. I know my fiance would beat them to a pulp because he has already told me that!
Stardust- Your friend probably has to act 'devastated' to gain your approval. Let them be. Tell her to talk to her husband directly and I am sure they'll come to a mutual solution. Your exasperation will just cause more problems. Now from a guy’s perspective; Almost all the guys I know have watched/ continue to watch some sort of porn. Luckily most of them aren't addicted to it or find some of the sicker stuff out there interesting.
A husband watching porn has absolutely nothing to do with his wife. She doesn't have to feel like she is doing something wrong. It's just something a guy does once in a while. Bad analogy but think of it like having a craving for chocolate. If your friend makes a big deal about it he's just going to find more creative ways to watch it.
So get off yourself righteous horse and be realistic. Also, many have said it before, a grown man watching porn and a child watching porn are two completely different issues. You are not your husband's mom for god’s sake!
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Im sorry I would still beat my kid then follow it by an explanation of what they are doing is wrong.. I think discipline is extremely important. They would already be brought up to know what is halal and haraam and if they are hiding and watching porn then they know they are doing something wrong. Its just not something I would be willing to put up with
And as far as the addiction thing goes.... My mind just cant accept the theory behind it.. Call me ignorant if you must but its just not going to be acceptable and if my husband decides to use the excuse that he's addicted it shows a lack of self control. Im not being all extreme by saying that "oh im gona die of a heart attack if I caught him watching porn" and neither am i oblivious to the fact that 99.9% of guys married or not do watch it but if he does then I would rather him not use the line that he's addicted to it coz I swear I just find that a pathetic excuse to carry on doing wrong.. and that aint gonna be how things go in my house!