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^Daffy, so you could start loving your mother even more. :)
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^Daffy, so you could start loving your mother even more. :)
Or maybe start disliking my husband who will be half responsible for making me go through the pain :p
P.S Its a miraculous thing altogether, Masha Allah. That is the reason for the hadith *'maan kai paun kai neechay janat' *
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Or maybe start disliking my husband who will be half responsible for making me go through the pain :p
P.S Its a miraculous thing altogether, Masha Allah. That is the reason for the hadith *'maan kai paun kai neechay janat' *
LOL you would think so but just going through my pregnancy and how my husband has been on my side, I have nothing but much more love and respect for him. It has really brought us closer like nothing else!
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I feel the same that pregnancy and childbirth
has made us love and respect each other even more 
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back to the topic though
The pain is just how hareem explained.
Well worth it in the end and girls believe me breathing thru the contractions really does help
I had my third one and surprisingly was the easiest labour i have had as i was breathing thru it all, occasionely having the gas and air
and didnt really feel the pain until the pushing bit which only lasted about 10mins max, 3 pushes and he was out
you soon forget it all when you hold your baby in your arms and think ‘wow, i did this’
as i have 3 boys i might try for another ( hoping its a girl ) in a year or 2 
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Wow Hareem, you don't mince your words..
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LOL you would think so but just going through my pregnancy and how my husband has been on my side, I have nothing but much more love and respect for him. It has really brought us closer like nothing else!
Gemini the Great, that's really sweet....My husband also supported me but since he is in PK with his family...he doens''t care about me or my baby...I'm going to have my baby fortcoming monday...I'm sooooo scared...I'm glad I've my sisters and mother with me....But it still hurts!
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^when is he coming to see you and your baby? once he is here, inshaAllah he will make up for the missed time 
I didnt know but I have realized that dads have a very special bond with their unborn child and once the baby is here it’s even more special.. sicne they can be an active parent as opposed to the partner bearing the brunt of a pregnant wife 
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People do say that c-section recovery is longer/tougher in comparison to vaginal birth but I had the opposite experience.
Had c-section first time around. I was able to walk soon and except for some pain that lasted sometime wich is normal, I only had some itching in the stitches which I think is also normal for c-section.
The vbac is another story. Bad experience !!!!
Did not get epidural, had 3rd degree tears and it took about an hour to stitch me up which was more painful than the actual birth. Local anesthsia and 3rd degree tears is not nice.
Everyone told me the urge to push is like you are constipated but I would say it is atleast 5 times the constipataion pain/urge.
Contractions are initially like period pain but when they get closer, it is again much more than period pain and continuous.
It is true that walking when you are having contractions helps. You can change your positions as you want and that helps.
After the birth I was not even able to sit up, the first day I could only sit up with help and even the sitting position was painful.
And frankly I did not forget anything even after they put my baby on me. I had so much pain the tears coming out of my eyes were not of joy at all.
How do you forget all of this ... just like any other pain !!!! Allah made us humans like this.
Just like when a loved one passes away and you think the pain will never go away but eventually you get on with life. the same way when you go through all the pain of child birth, at that time you think "never again" but eventually you forget.
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not at all!
recovery from c’-section varies from person to person as does labor and vaginal birth.
I was in labor 28hrs without meds before I consented to a C’-section … sounds awful now that I’-ve written it down 
… but at the time its one contraction at a time state of mind …
i’-m 4 wks post c’-section and feel back to normal and painfree. I cut down pain meds to 1 pill/day day 3. getting out of bed 1st time after surgery was tough … but once over that I got myself up to walk/toilet etc by myself (with hubby hovering close by in case i needed help).
stopped all pain meds by day 7.
I owe my rapid recovery to keeping active through pregnancy (worked 12hr on my feet shifts till 8.5 months) … plus i think I have a high pain threshold.
dont dwell on the upcoming births ladies! … go with the flow and everything will inshallah go well for all of you!
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He told my mom today that he’s coming back 4 days after my delivery. He wentto pk coz his father died about two weeks ago.
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Gemini the Great, that's really sweet....My husband also supported me but since he is in PK with his family...he doens''t care about me or my baby...I'm going to have my baby fortcoming monday...I'm sooooo scared...I'm glad I've my sisters and mother with me....But it still hurts!
I know how you are feeling but be glad that you have your mom and sisters with you right now just be selfish and think about yourself and your baby .
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it wasn't a walk in the park, thats for sure. i had a lot of vomiting for about 17 weeks. once i was past that, it was pretty good. i was just BIG in the belly and i had a pressed nerve in my right thigh so that was numb for most of my pregnancy and would hurt quite a bit when it wasn't numb. but apart from that and the usual restlessness/sleepless nights/running to the bathroom a lot, it was ok.
birth was painful. i went in at 2 cms dilated. i got the epi at 4. it was like really intense period cramps. like, really intense. once the epi went in, i was completely numb from chest down for about 15 hours and then i had a c-section because he got stuck. THAT was not fun. i was already so drugged up and out of it, it was just confusing and scary and upsetting. and i hated the internal exams they did while i was in labor.
also the whole forgetting about the pain thing is bs. yes, i was happy, excited and emotional but it took me every single hour of 7 weeks to recover from the C and my incision still hurts some days. plus the mental trauma won't go away. this is like the thing where people say you see your baby and its instant love and hearts and roses everywhere. not when you're drugged up the wazoo and just want to sleep, buddy. thats just not a realistic expectation to have. the baby blues and ppd are much more common than you'd think.
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it felt like death, like someone skinning you alive..went through it 3 times without any epidural.
good Lord, woman! why didn't you get the epi??
ok wait, i went back and read it all. i think you're brave for doing what you did!
i always knew i was going to have an epi. i didn't have anything to prove to anyone by having a natural birth, or to myself, for that matter. and some women i know feel like giving birth the natural way is the only way blah blah blah. i had a 9.5 lb'er mA and he got stuck. there was no way i was going to push him out and risk a third degree tear and the OB in charge didn't want me going that route either so C it was. everyone was just surprised they had me wait 15 hours in labor before doing it since i'd had an ultrasound a week before giving birth and he was mA already well over 8 lbs then. next time, its straight for the C if i the ultrasound comes up the same way.
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Yep, labour and birthing process lasts maximum for 18 hours.....but raising a kid is much much more time consuming and much more harder.
is that a UK standard? they don't let you go longer than 18 hours? a friend of mine just had her baby here in Toronto last Sunday and her labor was 21 hours. i thought my 15 was bad! yikes!
also, as far as the lying on your back thing is concerned... the beds here in l&d are like transformers lol. they move up and down, tilt at all angles, etc etc. so yes you might be on your back but in the same way when you are sitting on a chair, i.e. not really. you can be as upright as you want, and the portions of the bed can be removed to allow for an upright delivery. come to canada and have yer babies, ladies! childbirth in the UK doesn't sound very pleasant.
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it wasn't a walk in the park, thats for sure. i had a lot of vomiting for about 17 weeks. once i was past that, it was pretty good. i was just BIG in the belly and i had a pressed nerve in my right thigh so that was numb for most of my pregnancy and would hurt quite a bit when it wasn't numb. but apart from that and the usual restlessness/sleepless nights/running to the bathroom a lot, it was ok. birth was painful. i went in at 2 cms dilated. i got the epi at 4. it was like really intense period cramps. like, really intense. once the epi went in, i was completely numb from chest down for about 15 hours and then i had a c-section because he got stuck. THAT was not fun. i was already so drugged up and out of it, it was just confusing and scary and upsetting. and i hated the internal exams they did while i was in labor.
also the whole forgetting about the pain thing is bs. yes, i was happy, excited and emotional but it took me every single hour of 7 weeks to recover from the C and my incision still hurts some days. plus the mental trauma won't go away. this is like the thing where people say you see your baby and its instant love and hearts and roses everywhere. not when you're drugged up the wazoo and just want to sleep, buddy. thats just not a realistic expectation to have. the baby blues and ppd are much more common than you'd think.
Wow, that sounds like you had to go through so much.
I think each childbirth is quite unpredictable and you don't know what's gonna be the next thing waiting for you....at the end of each delivery all I wanted to see was that baby's breathing.
Here in UK it's not great especially when if it's not your first time, they also discourage epidural which might be a good thing as for some people it just delays the labour but if you're in too much pain then they WILL give you epidural if you ask and as in my case they were going to but the pain was too much that I couldn't stay still even for a minute.
Next time I might go through private clinics, they're much better.
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^ ah, here they're all about pain relief. the philosophy is why put yourself through pain and trauma when there is relief available? mostly midwives are the ones who encourage natural births with little or no pain relief.
my cousin in the UK ended up having a completely natural birth- she labored at home for most of the time and then headed to hospital and pushed the kid out in a few hours. i think her time in hospital was only about 5 hours! but she also said what you said- that the docs told her the epi would delay her labor and so she opted not to have one. i think anyone who goes through natural birth is a superstar because i know i couldn't tolerate that level of pain.
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^ seriously.
btw, u women are scaring me. lol.
im goign to make sure the man is there to see that pain i'll be going through inshallah. so HE wont forget for the rest of his life lol.
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^ hells yeah. pregnancy, labor, and the aftermath- they need to be witness to it ALL.
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all I can say is, squat like you have never sqautted before...
delivery lasted 20 mins and not a stitch in sight alhamdulillah...