curiousity … why is it that…when your in a relationshiop with your husband that theyre are some that just dntr care abt what you think everything just has to be done that way >> the way tey want it …
Hey angel21 where is your magic wand or angel dust which you can use to tame him.:D
You just got married , so a few months are not enough to start ranting about your husband behaving like a jerk.
Married life is not a relationship it is a bond and a bond takes time , sacrifices , communication, compromises and much more.
So relax, enjoy the show , listen to what he is saying and why he is saying so. You have the right to ask him why he want certain thing done in certain way , if it makes sense to you then accept it , but if you have different POV let him know but coolly and calmly.
The biggest key here is that you got married in a desi family , desi men still are not at that level on the ladder of evolution where they will consider their wives their equals and give importance to their views automatically. You will have to earn his confidence and respect. It is a reality , the sooner you accept it the sooner you will learn to deal with it and trust me it is not a rocket science , you will learn to cope with all this in due time. Again so be patient and enjoy the show which is called married life.
Mods I guess this thread belongs to Life1 .
looks like you've got one of those bossy ones.
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Give him some time...he sounds like someone who will realize the value of his wife over time.
Dont fight with him all the time.
Pick your battles wisely...choose what is worth fighting for.
Dont cry in front of him at the drop of a hat...your tears lose value and just become annoying.
Never speak disrespectfully of his family to him.
The biggest key here is that you got married in a desi family , desi men still are not at that level on the ladder of evolution where they will consider their wives their equals and give importance to their views automatically..
As opposed to what? Marry a highly 'evolved' white or black man who'll sit back relax and sip on his martini while you work your ass off to support him and your kids? Oh and as soon as you start to show signs of aging or a bit of cellulite here and there, he'll start cheating on you, if he hasn't been two timing on you already. Hell who cares the sex is gonna be great until you end up with a STD, but that sure is better than taking care of his mom. And while we're on the stereotype fun ride here - maybe he'll teach your kids that they're your 'equal' as well, so screw you mom - i'm gonna be a porn star and there is nothing you or daddy can do about it.
Grow up girls.
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hey angle 
whats up …
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As opposed to what? Marry a highly 'evolved' white or black man who'll sit back relax and sip on his martini while you work your ass off to support him and your kids? Oh and as soon as you start to show signs of aging or a bit of cellulite here and there, he'll start cheating on you, if he hasn't been two timing on you already. Hell who cares the sex is gonna be great until you end up with a STD, but that sure is better than taking care of his mom. And while we're on the stereotype fun ride here - maybe he'll teach your kids that they're your 'equal' as well, so screw you mom - i'm gonna be a porn star and there is nothing you or daddy can do about it.
Grow up girls.
Looks like you forgot to take your does of Prozac today that is why you are taking the things out of context and going on a emotional roller coaster ride for nothing and you are finding hidden meanings in my post which suits some of your personal vendetta.
Ask some normal person to read my post and ask them if it gives the message you are tying to get out of it.
The biggest key here is that you got married in a desi family , desi men still are not at that level on the ladder of evolution where they will consider their wives their equals and give importance to their views automatically. .
^^Tell me you were just joking here and i'll get off your back. Until then, this monkey is yours baby :)
yeah right 
actually, she will have to Learn how to trick him… and she will, with time
^^Tell me you were just joking here and i'll get off your back. Until then, this monkey is yours baby :)
What do you make of this after my above comment which you quoted , what am I trying to say, you tell me.
"You will have to earn his confidence and respect. It is a reality , the sooner you accept it the sooner you will learn to deal with it and trust me it is not a rocket science , you will learn to cope with all this in due time. Again so be patient and enjoy the show which is called married life."
I would say that someone hacked in to your account 'cause it sure doesn't seem like you're one and the same :)
LOL. Probably true!
curiousity ...... why is it that.....when your in a relationshiop with your husband that theyre are some that just dntr care abt what you think everything just has to be done that way >> the way tey want it ....
Hmmm, you raise a good point, I wonder the same. Some men want everything their way or no way. Communication does not help - then what do you do?
Hey angel21 where is your magic wand or angel dust which you can use to tame him.:D You just got married , so a few months are not enough to start ranting about your husband behaving like a jerk. Married life is not a relationship it is a bond and a bond takes time , sacrifices , communication, compromises and much more. So relax, enjoy the show , listen to what he is saying and why he is saying so. You have the right to ask him why he want certain thing done in certain way , if it makes sense to you then accept it , but if you have different POV let him know but coolly and calmly. The biggest key here is that you got married in a desi family , desi men still are not at that level on the ladder of evolution where they will consider their wives their equals and give importance to their views automatically. You will have to earn his confidence and respect. It is a reality , the sooner you accept it the sooner you will learn to deal with it and trust me it is not a rocket science , you will learn to cope with all this in due time. Again so be patient and enjoy the show which is called married life.
Mods I guess this thread belongs to Life1 .
Well said.
Hmmm, you raise a good point, I wonder the same. Some men want everything their way or no way. Communication does not help - then what do you do?
Do what he says in the begining for couples of months and after some times start changing your way but bit by bit.
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Inna lillahi Wa Inna Alaihi Rajeoon.
He is well organized person. So you become organized too. Problem solve.
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i wonder what his reaction to the thread will be
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Angel21 welcome to the rude awakening. After the honeymoon phase wears off, its all downhill from then on. Even the word "I love you" loses its charm.
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^^^ hey im still in my honeymoon period :@: ...lol this thread was made like 2 mnthes afetr my marriage during our first fight bt mashAllah even after 7 mnthes it still seems like we're in that period :@: