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If I were you..I would offer to split it… and if he took me on my offer I would come home and tell my parents me dont like the guy 
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thanks paheli i really like everything you said in your post! :)
llxxll - girl thats the plan hehe!
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I still pay or at least offer it whenever we're out for dinner. Usually he'll just let me pay for breakfast to make me feel better which is meager compared to him paying airfare for flying cross-country, hotel fare etc every time he visits so it's the least I could do.
I'd say let it take it's natural course. When the bill comes, maybe you could offer it, but he will pay it more than likely.
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When bill comes.... put your hands in your purse.. he will definitely think that you are paying bill... and will reject your offer of paying bill ;).
In this way you don't have to say anything :p
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first of all dont go to any expensive place. even if he insist make him go somewhere cheaper.
second, i usually tell in advance that it will be my treat, which is 99.99% rejected (if going with co-workers, friends, cousins,etc) and 75-100% accepted if i am going with siblings.
ps. gentlemen dont let u pay. they also open the door for u. 
ps2. its good to carry credit card and a little bit cash (in case if he refuses to drop you off).
ps3. face every uncertainty with courage.
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LolS. Totally!!! I would od the same . I am quite old fashioned when it comes to these things.
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seems like women does not believe on equality when it comes to putting down $ :)
what do they say,
meetha meetha hup hup, karwa karwa thoo thoo
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i believe in the rights accorded us (men and women) by islam .... im the girl who wants the guy to open the door for me...to take care of me... muslim men financially support their women...humaari chamrri gori nahin hai behtar yahi hai hum unki tarha behave na kare
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gr8 minds think alike?
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Im not really sure what to do when it comes to time to pay!
I can think of sooo many awkward scenarios in my head haha.
if to meet for dinner was a mutual decsion, then I can understand your confusion. But if he asked you out on a date and took you to a restaurant of his choice, then he should be the one paying.
Even for a mutual decision, if he suggests a restaurant, you can always say "Oh i love to but the place is little out of my budget". If he decided to change the venue after hearing that, drop the date. He is not for you. Instead, if he says something like . "i am disappointed that you said that. Who is asking you to pay, you will be my guest there", he is a keeper.
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:k:
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gr8 minds think alike? :p
you all have simiilar avatars too. No wait, Zk has different.. she should switch too :p
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I always pay when I take girls to McDonald's. It's only good manners. I don't even blink when they want to super size their combo. Some guys are so cheap...
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Are guys offended if girls offer to pay?
I usually offer to pay but most guys say no and some have even taken it to be a slight against their manliness a girl/woman offering to pay on a date.
It’s funny because, on the other hand, if a girl doesn’t offer to pay, then guys will, like a poster above said, think the girl’s got a sense of entitlement, which is a turnoff for them. So how do you navigate or balance things 
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offer to pay or not, one thing is fore sure. Guys dont keep thinking about it later on. Once they are out of restaurant, they get over it unlike most of the girls who then tell it to their friend only to get “oh my God, oh my God…he asked you to split? oh my God”
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offer to pay or not, one thing is fore sure. Guys dont keep thinking about it later on. Once they are out of restaurant, they get over it unlike most of the girls who then tell it to their friend only to get "oh my God, oh my God...he asked you to split? oh my God"
thank you .. at least your reply made me think that i am not the only one who will not think who paid .. .. life is so simple if you don't think on every single thing .. just do it! .. can't believe we have a topic on this .. :s
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I’ve heard my fiance, his friends, and even my own guy friends mention situations where they went out with girls and the girls NEVER (multiple outings with the same girl) offered to pay. And at least among the guys I know, it leaves a negative impression.
However, personally I have never heard a guy complain about a girl offering to pay.
The guys I know don’t actually expect the girl to pay…even though I’ve always offered, I’ve never had anyone who actually allowed me to pay. I don’t argue with them…lol. Out of the guys I know…they’re happy just to hear the girl offer b/c to them, its a sign that the girl has a sense of appreciation and doesn’t assume she “deserves” whatever he’s paying for. They don’t mind paying for the girl…but they dislike the girls ASSUMING that everything will be paid for (ie. not offering but just sitting there when the bill comes).
Again this is my personal experience and may not hold true to all social circles.
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^^Hope this wouldn’t happen
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If it's just a first date you go somewhere reasonable, not too cheap/not too expensive.
At the end of the night...
- You offer to pay, something like 'I'll get this one, next time it's on you'.
If he refuses...(which is highly likely)
- You offer to go halfsies.
If he still refuses you let him pay. Simples.
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He will mop the floor, she will do the dishes.
Good way to practice before marriage.