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well because we are meeting for iftar thats why hareem.
Milly its fun hearing other peoples experiences :)
oh okay...you said you are just gonna have tea so I thought may be it's during day time.
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Yes luv it fun, but seriously, you need to just chill, use your initiative you know. I mean this in the nicest possible way. Experiences things and then tell everyone about it. 
Hareem…your place or mine? No wait, I shall be a man and make the decision for you…MY PLACE!
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If he has planned it then why are you worrying about paying ? Don’t even offer to pay , you are a student and he is full time working adult he should know better.
Tell him your food preferences and let him order for both of you so that in the end if he is not able to foot the total bill he will be one washing the dishes in the back of the restaurant and you will be on your marry home humming your favorite song . 
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LOL
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I was planning something for September…I’ll let you know after eid inshallah, it’s just that I have to go to a funplace and I wanna go with a friend.
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Ooo I love fun places!!!
September is perfect. 
and do yourself a favor. Do NOT mention GS in front of him! :)
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^^ I bet she has already done it :)
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haha no i havent actually and dont think i ever will!
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weird no way - we believe on equality :D
It's about manners, not equality.
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It's about manners, not equality.
so you mean - only Lads have manners - your girly crowd dont bother about it :)
Why cant she has all the manners and pays the bill :)
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so you mean - only Lads have manners - your girly crowd dont bother about it :)
Why cant she has all the manners and pays the bill :)
Did I not say she should offer to pay or split the bill?
It's bad manners and cheap for anyone to just sit back and let the other pay without even offering.
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Yup! Don’t over think and over analyze before you even get there. Sure, it may be good to keep some things in mind to talk about, but usually the conversation should just take a natural flow, leading to anywhere. That’s the best part of getting to know someone. Just try and sit back and enjoy the experience, and then you can analyze it later. You will have plenty of time to do so. Go with the attitude that it will be a fun time and if things work out to get to the second date, great, if not, at least you’ll have gone in with a positive attitude.
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party thanks for the advice and it holds true but i wasnt asking about topics of convo lol, i was asking about paying etiquettes as ive never been on a date before.
Also i think my sarcasm in some posts flopped in this thread lol.
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silly girl. when it comes time to pay, if im assuming correctly about the date in question, then you do NOT pay. You carry on conversation. the waiter will bring the check to the guy. You do not make any offers. NOTHING. allow him chivalry. expect it of him, and he WILL live upto it.
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^ I agree with Demesne. This is your prospective fiance. He is probably also trying to imagine you as his future wife, so it cant be treated as an ordinary date. Do not offer to pay the bill, he might take it the wrong way.
Good luck and remember: less talking, more listening, so you can forget that 100 questions list...:)
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What's a fiance-to-be? If you're engaged to him, I'd be a little worried about being worried at all about a husband-to-be NOT picking up the bill. What happens after marriage? When the mortgage is due, will you go dutch? (I know some people who do).
Just sayin.'
Anyhoo, I think it's in poor taste if he doesn't, especially considering your student vs. working professional dichotomy. Unless you've told him you're a raging feminist or something, in which case he won't dare to.
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chaibiskut ( love the name) we are not engaged yet - the rishta is in the process of being finalised!
hmmmm dont worry missfreudian i wont ask him 100 questions hehe.
so some people think i just shouldnt say anything at all, interesting.
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monh par tape laga kar beth jao. 
just be yourself.
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Im not really sure what to do when it comes to time to pay!
I can think of sooo many awkward scenarios in my head haha.
When I started dating my fiance, I always offered to split the bill. Whether it was dinner, movie, or some other outing. Even when I went on other dates (BEFORE fiance), I did the same. Its just a matter of simple etiquette and not giving off the vive that you're somehow "entitled" to it.
I will add this....even though I always offered...I have never had a guy who actually allowed me to pay for dinner or anything else on the 1st date.
And for everything else (ie. conversation).....just be yourself! There really is nothing to be nervous about. If you're normally talkative, then talk! :) If you're usually a quiet person....then there's nothing wrong with that either. Since this is your potential future husband....you want him to see the real you. I'm sure you would not want to discover that his personality is different AFTER marriage........so following that logic...just be yourself. After all, if he doesn't like your true personality....then do you really want to spend the rest of your life with him?
Good luck! :)