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Re: ~Family or love?~
- Marry someone who love you! and try to keep family blessing too. but do stand up for your love.
trust me I have tried keep the family happy, its not an easy ride unless you are lucky you have a same minded soul mate!
When I love, I am very passionate ... Love makes me blind and nothing on earth can be an obstacle between my beloved and me. I think I can do everything when I love except break my "contract" with God (doing Haram before marriage for example, marriage is very important and sacred for me). And fighting for her/his beloved is not "haram". This is not the family who bind the souls but God. God is Love, I am sure He blesses two hearts which love each other truly.
I will fight for my love even if my family don't agree at the beginning, I will do everything I can for saving this love, I know that later they will learn to accept my beloved. They love me and I love them too but a true family will be always with you, will be always at your side; true love comes just once in lifetime. It worth fighting for.
But, Al hamdulilah, I know my family is very tolerant and understanding.
^ what abt the love for family/ parents
I love my parents but they must understand me and understand how love can be powerful ! This is not because you love your parents that you will agree with them about everything and all the time !
U marked out the right points!..
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there will be a lot of politically correct answers, however the truth whoever falls in love at some point or the other goes against their parent and as well as the fact that sometime during the relationship the thought of choosing your significant other over your parents does come, some are successful and some are not and some dont have the courage to do that. So at the end of the day LOVE at this day and age is over rated.
Regards,
i have seen a lot of desi families who are selfish and don'T really care about thier kids's hapiness but they just pretend like they do. they just want everything to be the way they want. they care more aobut the isaat in the society and their own dominance over everything. i am talking about both guys and girls parents here.
and when you confront them about it either they get angry or they stat leaking out magarmahc ke ansoo. but they will hardly ever admit that this is the case.
parents love should mean that they care about their kids hapiness more any damn society or people. it does not mean that they should prevent ,interfere and finish any hapiness in your life. that is just cunning manipulation.
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Parents, for the most part, do care about their children more than the society - that is why they want to protect their children from the evils of society*so badly.*
Evils of society are much easily avoided if you are part of the crowd and not try to be too individualistic. <== this is how they think.
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option** # 2&3 for sure without even a 2nd thought.**
** i have experienced a lot abt both the types and have cum to the point that both of them go in the same way and both turn out to b the same. as, nowadays, talking at phones and mobiles has made arrange one the same like love marriage. **
involving ur parents bcums the best option as they have fostered us without any give and take list while in the love marriages, their is a glass-made house which cums to the ground in many cases. **
**PARENTS ARE PARENTS AND FAMILIES HAVE NO SUBSTITUTE, THEY R THE MOST FAIR PARTNERS OF UR LIFE AND THERE IS NO 2ND THOUGHT TO B GIVEN IN THIS REGARD....................
hahahaha lolz
that was cute
waqai love to bus ho jata hai…:pkj:
i have seen a lot of desi families who are selfish and don'T really care about thier kids's hapiness but they just pretend like they do. they just want everything to be the way they want. they care more aobut the isaat in the society and their own dominance over everything. i am talking about both guys and girls parents here.
and when you confront them about it either they get angry or they stat leaking out magarmahc ke ansoo. but they will hardly ever admit that this is the case.
parents love should mean that they care about their kids hapiness more any damn society or people. it does not mean that they should prevent ,interfere and finish any hapiness in your life. that is just cunning manipulation.
I disagree! most Desi parents- in fact most parents- would do anything for there child that they thought beneficial for them- regardless of what society thought. It takes a lot for a mom or dad to turn away completley from there own child. Every culture, every religion, and even science, knows that a mother's love is incomparable, and and undescribale love. And that is why almost every religion has the paramount rule of OBEYING YOUR PARENTS.
It's amazing how selfish we all are when it comes to our parents- for all the sacrifices they made for us -we command them this " parents love should mean that they care about their kids hapiness more any damn society or people" with out ever asking--
why YOUR (as a son or daughter) love for your parents does not meant that you should care about your PARENT'S happiness more then any damn society or people- when you certainly expect them to love you as such?
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devdas
none of above, My family is reason able. If I like some and they don't or wise versa their must be a reason. So I will talk to them to see their reason or to tell them mine. The girl who is not good for me , i will be able to figure out with family's help.
As a matter of fact they have been telling me to losen up and pick a "girl" and stop looking for "superWoman"
I second you.
2 & 3
& 4 inside myself.
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You are so very wrong. Parents always thing about their kids. Yes they may make mistakes but they sure always think about their kids no matter what.
Its us who don’t understand them.
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2 and 3
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You are so very wrong. Parents always thing about their kids. Yes they may make mistakes but they sure always think about their kids no matter what.
Its us who don't understand them.
Watever!!! talk to the hand coz the face aint listening!!!!!
Watever!!! talk to the hand coz the face aint listening!!!!!
OK Ok.
Colorful Eyes.
Why aren't you calling me D head as you said in other post.
I don't like dirty hand.
Watever!!! talk to the hand coz the face aint listening!!!!!
Colorful eyes- I know that you probably didnt have the best of life when growing up- but most parents in the world would give up there life for their child. Most parents make so many sacrifices, its uncountable.
There are some parents that are abusive and such, but they are a world's minority- and that's why hear about them in the news.
Also remember that your parents are human too. They weren't perfect, just as you won't be when you are a mother or father. They do the best they can do. They made mistakes, and they will make mistakes, but they will always want the best for you. Just think that if you had a son or daughter and you thought that the person she was marrying was harmful for her and her happiness, wouldn't you go all the way to prevent her from making what you percieve as a mistake?
I also think its a small price to pay to give up someone for your parent's sake even if you are right, and even if they were the most evil parents on Earth- And maybe Allah(swt) will find you someone better for obeying your mother and father.
Colorful eyes- I know that you probably didnt have the best of life when growing up- but most parents in the world would give up there life for their child. Most parents make so many sacrifices, its uncountable.
There are some parents that are abusive and such, but they are a world's minority- and that's why hear about them in the news.
Also remember that your parents are human too. They weren't perfect, just as you won't be when you are a mother or father. They do the best they can do. They made mistakes, and they will make mistakes, but they will always want the best for you. Just think that if you had a son or daughter and you thought that the person she was marrying was harmful for her and her happiness, wouldn't you go all the way to prevent her from making what you percieve as a mistake?
I also think its a small price to pay to give up someone for your parent's sake even if you are right, and even if they were the most evil parents on Earth- And maybe Allah(swt) will find you someone better for obeying your mother and father.
Gr8 explanation of what I said. Thanks.