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Oh man, this has happened to me so many times, it's not even funny. I just stop answering the guy's calls. I know it's not the bravest thing to do but that's what I do. Or if we have a mutual friend then I tell her to tell him. But no matter, if I am not attracted, then I can't make myself become it. It doesn't work like that. No matter how nice the personality.
lol , good one
well actually i dont think i have, but i have no choice .....i wud prefer nothing more than NOT talking to these girls before marriage but in our society almost ALL girls want to talk to their potential rishtas.
Well, if she is rich you can give her my number.
lmao at above aaahhahahaa
good one :biggthumb
Well, if she is rich you can give her my number.
she is loaded , I just sent a PM !
I did but photos dont give a good idea of body proportions , and like i said i like obese girls “healthy” is the term envogue amongst desis but by defination they are obese]
So you would prefer not talking to her at all and just seeing her face?? i don't agree with blah blah blahing on the phone too much either, face to face meetings are much better, but after all, she was not talking alone so don't act like she is some bad example of society. I think it's very odd that you talked to her so long without even seeing her picture. for now, don't be overly lovey in your communications (no 'i miss u', 'i had so much fun')... change your tone and if she asks say you just need to think about this more. don't initiate unnecessary phone calls. Next time make sure you meet the girl right away, and don't waste anyone's time.
listen i told u it was not my intention to chat for so long , so stop being so opinionated
what the hell do u mean by 'lovey dovy " stuff , i never talk like that ..my tone was always bussiness like and all this communication was with full knowledge of her guardians [parents]
she is loaded , I just sent a PM !
Is she on this forum? OMG :o dont you think she might find out, after reading all of this. problem solved!
And what im confused about, is she too skinny for you? get her some junkfood:p
Anyway i get that ur not attracted to her, maybe she doesnt like ur looks that much either. Have seen any change since ur meeting?
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^ no not really , but girls dont go for looks ...so i am not too flattered
junk food does not help those who are hopeless from the point of view of animal husbandry
Continue to chat but slowly 'get busy'. You'll have to be very subtle though so that she has no doubts that your 'work' is keeping you too busy to pay attention to her or anything else.
Oh man, this has happened to me so many times, it's not even funny. I just stop answering the guy's calls. I know it's not the bravest thing to do but that's what I do. Or if we have a mutual friend then I tell her to tell him. But no matter, if I am not attracted, then I can't make myself become it. It doesn't work like that. No matter how nice the personality.
Simply quiting like that is perhaps the worst thing you could do in terms of the other's emotions...it seems quite cold. It's best to simply say that you don't think there's a match ASAP.
Bro Das's case is a bit more complex...there's some emotional investment on all sides already. Perhaps a way out is if to involve the parents. Arrange a meeting with the parents, and let go after that. It seems counter-intuitive (since having the parents meet for the first time seems like a progression in the relationship), but the possibility that the parents, and not the person one is perusing, canceled the arrangement is somewhat comforting. LOL, it's risky though if the parents end up liking each other...
You're absolutely right about attraction, it's certainly important...some people erroneously suggest it's a superficial concern...it's not. There has to be some level of attraction, and quite frankly most of us are attracted to people that popular culture would deem as unattractive so it's a deeply personal thing.
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tell her about all the other girls you've dated and how you're not able to get over that one particular ex-girlfriend and you'd take her back any minute she wants to come back to you. tell her you're going through a tough time. LOL
she'd want to drop you like a hot potato instantly! coz she knows she's not as pretty as the other ex you described and so she wouldnt wanna compete where its a lose-lose situation for her. :S
^ no not really , but girls dont go for looks ...so i am not too flattered junk food does not help those who are hopeless from the point of view of animal husbandry
Not true anymore. Maybe not every girl goes for the looks, but things are changing.
Besides, guys are mostly jerks, so why not go for a good looking jerk!
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Dont tell her you find her too unattractive! Just tell her sorry but I dont think it will work out between us etc something like this so you can part on good terms
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Dont waste her time...tell her as soon as possible that its not what you are looking for and she should move on.
Some girls might rather find that challenging and would instead stick to this guy until he 'gets over' his ex before dropping him like a hot potato :)
tell her about all the other girls you've dated and how you're not able to get over that one particular ex-girlfriend and you'd take her back any minute she wants to come back to you. tell her you're going through a tough time. LOL
she'd want to drop you like a hot potato instantly! coz she knows she's not as pretty as the other ex you described and so she wouldnt wanna compete where its a lose-lose situation for her. :S
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Have you checked with her if she likes your physically?
I mean if chemistries are same, there are equal chances that she don't like you physically either and must be exploring her options on "how to say no" or you think you are undeniable ?
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gosh u r an utter git
Have you checked with her if she likes your physically?
I mean if chemistries are same,** there are equal chances that she don't like you physically either and must be exploring her options on "how to say no"** or you think you are undeniable ?
I hope thats the case ....
Dont take it personally but the best way, without hurting her would be to tell her that you just realized you are gay. Anything else would hurt her and she would think you're breaking away because you dont find her attractive.
LMAO!!!
WELL the best wayy is tell her as soon dont kepp her waiting...
but it also depends .. is it because she may be payndoo or summin ?? coz thats sorta a changebale thing
but yaa... tell her as soo as u can and b nice bout it
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You're an asshole. Should have atleast asked her for a pic after the first two convos before leading her on for 3 months. Asshole.