If after all efforts you ever has to tell her that you don't want to marry her, tell her" You are mashaAllah a very good person by character, and I feel you deserve a better person than me, which Allah (s.w.t) would have written for you. Even after performing istekhara I am some how not convinced, and there might be something better for both of us in not continuing with this relationship"
Istekhara meaning asking Allah to help you with your decisions its like you want Allah's guide. And when you say i did istekhara and i am not satisfied with this decision = means that you didnt get a positive answer from istekahra whereas actually you never performed istekahara = meaning you are lieing and also involving Allah init. (asktagfirullah he rabi min gulah zanbin)
Other than that i totally agree with everything wat you have said.
@ topic starter you really made me think why Islam doesnt allow talking to a na-mahram........
If you think you guys get along very well than i think it would be a stupid decision to reject someone on the basis of looks. But at the end of the day it'll be your decision.
Do an istekarah (3 times).....and ask Allah to help you IF you really want some help.
He did say, he didn't flirt nor did he intend to lead her on, so people coming out with offensive comments towards the OP should back off a bit, he's in a hard enough situation..
Istekhara meaning asking Allah to help you with your decisions its like you want Allah's guide. And when you say i did istekhara and i am not satisfied with this decision = means that you didnt get a positive answer from istekahra whereas actually you never performed istekahara = meaning you are lieing and also involving Allah init. (asktagfirullah he rabi min gulah zanbin)
You misunderstood my words, and I understand that it is not your fault, but my wrong selection of words, which was for a reason. When I say " **Even after performing istekhara I am some how not convinced " **I meant to say" I couldn't understand any clear indication in my dream in favor of our relationship " or " The istekhara I did for our relationship was actually not in favor of our relationship" in a polite manner.
I might be wrong and it might not be a polite way of stating it, as it is just my personal understanding. Allah knows BEST!
You misunderstood my words, and I understand that it is not your fault, but my wrong selection of words, which was for a reason. When I say " **Even after performing istekhara I am some how not convinced " **I meant to say" I couldn't understand any clear indication in my dream in favor of our relationship " or " The istekhara I did for our relationship was actually not in favor of our relationship" in a polite manner.
I might be wrong and it might not be a polite way of stating it, as it is just my personal understanding. Allah knows BEST!
Sub i know what you are trying to say and i understand thats the polite way to excuze but i was saying is that ofcourse this guy topic starter is not gona do istekhara (rit?)
lets assume he says this "I couldn't understand any clear indication in my dream in favor of our relationship " or " The istekhara I did for our relationship was actually not in favor of our relationship"
Isnt this a lie incase this guy doesnt do istekhara?
^ Makes sense. I apologize as I didn't consider this aspect of my comment. I was assuming that he would do Istekhara and then give this comment. But of course if he is not even considering her as an option, then why would he do istekhara. And even if he does, then he is bound to only say what he actually sees in istekhara.
JazakAllah khair for the correction. I didn't realize my mistake at the time I was posting my view.
“A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her commitment to religion. Choose the one who is religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust *!” (Agreed-upon Hadith).*
my friends wife gave me the phone number of a girl a few months ago and it was decided that we will talk until we are able to see each other.I liked talking with her and she was very much my type, had almost all the qualities which i would like in my wife.But I never flirted with her or gave her any assurances
and always told her that without a face2face meeting we cannot proceede further.
Unexpectedly this meeting was delayed for about 3 months and we talked all this time.When I finally met her I didnt find her attractive and dont want to pursue this matter further.
But how can I tell this to her in a way that will "soften the blow"
any ideas ?
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