Hello fellow guppies,
About two weeks ago one of my closest friends died very tragically when her house caught fire in middle of the night. She and her younger sister (who I also knew) passed away as well as their father. A 911 phone call to the police was made where one of the girls was screaming “help us”. Unfortunately, they used a cell phone and it took police a while to trace their call… so it took a half hour for the police and fire department to arrive after that initial phone call for help came. By then it was too late for my dear friend, her sister and father. 
They have 2 older siblings who live in other states with their spouses. And my friends mom was visiting one those bachay and that is why she was not in the house when this tragedy occurred.
Everyone keeps telling me that things happen for a reason, that they are in a better place, etc. etc. They tell me that I will get over it soon. I know all of this true. I truly do. These people were such good people mashAllah and InshAllah Allah grants them the highest place in Jannat.
But despite this and all of my praying, I continue to be extremely sad. We were close friends for almost 8 years… we met in college. Even though I moved away for educational reasons, we always remained close. I had just spoken to her a week before she passed. As good friends usually are, we were so excited about each other’s futures and made so many plans. I had just gotten engaged and she was going to be graduating from medical school in four months. I can’t get that last conversation out of my mind. She was in the process of interviewing for residencies … its still so hard for me to believe that I will never be able to pick up the phone to call her and ask her how those interviews went.
She was a beautiful girl…inside and out and her future was so so so bright as was her younger sister’s who had just graduated from college two days before they passed. I am having a hard time accepting this tragedy.
My heart aches for their family and especially auntie who lost her husband, house, and her two babies in one night. It is so upsetting to me when I think about what she is going through.
People tell me to keep busy. Which I am trying to do but its hard because I am job hunting and currently unemployed. I keep in touch with my friends, watch movies, plenty of tv, and peruse GS to keep my mind occupied.
Another thing is that I have the same name as my friend that passed away. So anytime someone says my name or I see it written/write it - my eyes well up and I immediately think of my dear luvely friend. It’s like impossible to not think about her all the time because I hear my name (and hers) all the time.
This is the first time I am really dealing with death. When my grandparents passed away it is because they were ill and very old. One was mentally prepared for a long time that the inevitable was going to happen. But this was so random, sudden and tragic.
Can anyone share any advice with on how to cope during this difficult time? My fiance try’s to avoid talking about it completely because he thinks that helps. But all I want to do is talk about her and remember her. She and her family are the main thing on my mind and in my duas constantly.
Have others been through a similar ordeal (unfortunately)?
Sorry for the long post.
