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:( Sorry to hear this...
I'm sorry for your loss Punjabi Rose. unfortunately theres no easy way out of grief, you just have to get through it as best as you can. one thing that helps is trying to find an outlet for your grief. when i was 13 my cousin passed away suddenly, my outlet was writing poems, it helped me a lot. perhaps you could find something too?
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^ poetry helps me too!
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My uncle is murdered in October....Brother of my dad....Whenever I think about him I start to cry....I tried to keep myself busy and started to think that it never happened...But whenever someone talked about him or whenever I saw a film about murder I start to cry......I feel a lots of pain....But after crying a while I feel better.....
Keeping yourself busy and not thinking about them will not decrease the pain yu have for them....the pain will never decrease...But giving yourself the time to think about them...and cry whenever you feel...It gives a good feeling...
The best thing is to read Qoraan for them..It will give you peace....
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I am really sorry for your loss May Allah give you sabar Ameen.
Whenever I am upset or stressed I read duas and lots of them they really make me feel alot at ease, it gives me hope that everything will be ok. But I really do think that your fiance should let you talk about this and let it all out. hugs
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im sorry to hear of ur loss :( :(
It will take time and the best thing for u is to let urself grieve and cry all u want
You can try to keep urself occupied but i guess these things really do take time.
Colourful eyes and punjabi rose our duas will always be with you and pray
that allah gives you strength and saabar.
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sorry to hear of ur uncle too iksa :(
May allah give u saabar, ameen.
Can anyone share any advice with on how to cope during this difficult time? My fiance try's to avoid talking about it completely because he thinks that helps. But all I want to do is talk about her and remember her. She and her family are the main thing on my mind and in my duas constantly.
PR, the easiest way to deal with this situation is to think what they must be doing at this time (your deceased friend and her family). From what we learned, because of the kind of death they experienced, they are shaheed, meaning that as of now, they are VIPs and are treated like that by angels. Is that not what we all want? This world is temporary, we all have to leave it. What is going to happen to us in the afterworld matters the most. They are literrally in a better place and I can gurantee you that they must be so happy that even if they are given a chance to come back to this world, they will refuse.
I I lost my 13 year old brother in a car crash and to this day I cant think about the accident, when I do I just start crying and I just quickly try thinking about something else. I've just told myself theres nothing I can do to bring him back so why think about something tht will just make me upset.
I am extremely sorry to hear that CE. There is no doubt that Allah has granted him a place in jannat because he was masoom and just a kid. May Allah grant you sabar.
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omg so sad...:( my prayers goes out to the family.
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Wow this thread has brought back some raw feelings for me.
I too lost a very very good friend 4 years ago at the end of this month in what I can only describe as a freak accident. I can't even speak of how she died without feeling sick to my stomach so for my own sanity I won't do so on a public forum. Our group of friends still get together on the anniversary of her death and her birthday.
I still think about her so much. Can't even believe she has gone and some days I find it so tough. In fact I'll never believe she's gone because I never saw her with my own eyes due to her being in a different country at the time of her death. I remember almost every word of that one phone call I received on a sunday night which changed my life forever.
I'm lucky that my fiance knew her well too and has been able to support me throughout the whole thing.
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, be strong and pray for her and her sister and father and their family that has been left inside.
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nnalillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon 
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Thank you everyone for your kind words and comfort. You have no idea how much comfort it gives me as I read the posts in this thread… I really do appreciate everyone’s input as well as those that are sharing their painful stories as well.
Everyone is right - I will never ever forget this and will probably always remain sad about this horribly tragedy. I will never get over this …but I shall always remember her and give sadka on her behalf (as many of you have suggested) and keep her in my duas.
It makes me feel not so alone during this very difficult and sad time… reading your posts . I am so incredibly heartbroken and start crying instantly throughout the day whenever I think of her… I am having a hard time focusing on anything… My parents and siblings live far away from me in another state as well as my closest friends. These people are my biggest source of comfort and yet I do not have access to them I would just go back home so that I am not alone but I have job interviews lined up which I can not miss. It’s even hard to get interviews in this economy… :hinna:
So thank you again everyone… and please keep my dear friend, her sister, her abu in your dua’s so that inshAllah Allah grants them the highest place in jannat. And also pray for her family to give them sabur to cope…
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Inna lilahi wa inna alaihi rajioon.
Extremely sorry to hear of u're loss, dealing with death isn't eay..be it a friend or family. I lost my best friend in a terrible car crash and it took me a long long time to recover.
I gained strength from a lady that comes to the dialysis unit and who lost her 11 yr old daughter the previous day. She was composed and kept repeating under her breath "We belong to God and to him we shall return".. it was heartbreaking.
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Thank u all for ur kind words