Looking to get married, but inevitably there will be a wedding involved at some point, the mere notion of having a desi wedding with your spouse wearing a red dress, you in a suit/sherwani and all the “hungama” that goes along with a wedding just makes me feel naseous,
I would rather jump off a cliff than have a big desi wedding, I wonder how long it will take me to find someone/family that doesn’t want a massive hungama wedding and just wants a civilised nikkah with no shor sharaba.
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gobsmacked there are people like that in this world?
Tough battle ahead, buddy...hope your parents are understanding.
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Whatttttttttttttt are you talking about.. I love desi weddings.. but then again, I am a girl. But I do love everything about Desi Weddings 
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Bring on the registry office weddings!
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I love desi weddings :D
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I hate that my SO wants a big wedding but thats out of my hands so I'm changing what I can. I won't be wearing a red lengha or a lawn wedding and our wedding will be as multi-cultural as I can make it given the guests will be from all over the world...
my demands aren't that unreasonable.. right?
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You are not alone buddy, not alone at all. I can't put into words how much I utterly despise and loathe the whole "desi" wedding thing, a sense of utter despair, sorrow, misery (mixture of all I guess) grows in me just at the thought.
Don't do it, just say it's against the religion (which it is, the rasams are all pretty much Hindu), and you may find many families here in America who agree.
I'm married, I just got around it by marrying a non desi, but all cultures have their weird little things.
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i disagree with OP
it is a happy occasion, let everyone you love be happy.
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I am against to all extravaganza kharcha of desi wedding like photography, video, sherwani, bridal dress.
OP: I would recommend you to bhaag kay shadi karlo. No kharcha, no rasams, etc. 
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i disagree with OP
it is a happy occasion, let everyone you love be happy.
Really? Instead of happy so many fights are taking place, people are stressed, just look at their faces.
It's nothing but BS, "oh we have to have this and that because what will people think, and I have to outdo my cousin blah blah blah".
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no yar, see if you run away you have to spend your money money to finance the run-away, while on the other hand parents are a helping hand
plus you get gifts plus you get salami plus endless post wedding dinners from most of the ppl you invited to the wedding
if you do the math, you are better off having a desi wedding for sure rather than running away
dont u think ?
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when your boss asks you to create a simple table in excel, first thing you do is ask him how you want the table to look like, if he changes his mind you recreate the table again according to what he wants, and it goes on until hes satisfied
Really? Instead of happy so many fights are taking place, people are stressed, just look at their faces.
It's nothing but BS, "oh we have to have this and that because what will people think, and I have to outdo my cousin blah blah blah".
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my eyes are opened now.
i m changing my position, but i still oppose all fazool kay kharchy. 
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ok lets get to the details,
how do you define fazool kay kharchy? and what are some examples of fazool kay kharchay?
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post # 9 + unglee pakri, joota chupai, rasta rukwai, doodh pilaiye etc. :hinna:
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we are talking about $value …??
what in the world is unglaee pakri?
i mean instead of inviting 300 ppl you only want to invite 50 ppl , thats not fazool kay kharchay, its kanjoozi imo
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TBH I’m not fussed about the whole religious aspect, I’m not going into someone elses grave after all (I doubt I would be responsible for having men and women dancing together at a mendhi, which is what I’ve seen alot of these days). I don’t mind marrying a non desi as such, but I do love my punjabi jokes 
Yeah I guess you have a point, if it makes others happy then what’s the big deal, although there are less than twenty people I know that fall into that category, never heard of a desi wedding with less than 150 people in it.
Whats a bhaag ke shadi?
Yes, these are severe timewasters and I hate these. I don’t think I will have these at all, can’t stand this BS, maybe I’m too angrez for this sort of thing. I was pretty much forced into it last time and I hated it, what a joke.
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How is that kanjoozi? I barely know 50 people, where am I supposed to magic up a remaining 250 people to stop me being a kanjooz?
This is why I hate desi weddings. I can’t be seen to be a kanjoos so I need to find 250 people to stop people thinking I’m a kanjoos. What a farce.
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Whats a bhaag ke shadi?
civil marriage. :@:
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HOLYYY dude who IN THE WORLD asked you to come up with 300 guests ???????
read before you write
How is that kanjoozi? I barely know 50 people, where am I supposed to magic up a remaining 250 people to stop me being a kanjooz?
This is why I hate desi weddings. I can't be seen to be a kanjoos so I need to find 250 people to stop people thinking I'm a kanjoos. What a farce.