Your job his job

[CM]

Re: Your job his job

@UZ

CM you cannot just say to your wife out of no where lets go we are moving and your cannot just come and say hey lets move. Life is not simple especially if you have children or in future you have plan to have children.
Get married and share your experiences

LMAO! It would be hilarious to see a Mrs. CM nick show up

[NomiCA]

Re: Your job his job

man o man…

[Guac]

Re: Your job his job

So many factors to consider. You can't answer the question without accounting for them.
Do we live near family?
Could he easily find a job in his line of work?
Location?

But lets just say generally if he could find a job and was okay with moving and I really wanted the job then yes we will move

If he doesn't want to move....then we don't move

[UZ]

Re: Your job his job

@CM

LMAO! It would be hilarious to see a Mrs. CM nick show up

It would be amusing I want you to register your wifey.

[Decent_6Chora]

Re: Your job his job

@CM

Only for unmarried guppans.

[Sehrysh]

Re: Your job his job

Absolutely factors differ and real life throws us curveballs which means that no response can be given in absolute terms. But in an "IDEAL" situation, my answer stands.

Assuming that I actually care about this phantom husband and that making our relationship matters and that financially we're in a position that allows us to rely on his income, plus my exisiting income, why would I force him to move if it wasn't in our collective best interest.

BTW, having worked as many years as I have, while a career is great and the compensation (professionally, intellectually and financially) is quite satisfying, my career doesn't determine my happiness - my relationships do.

[CM]

Re: Your job his job

So in other words all three of you women would give up your jobs if your husband didn't like the idea. Who killed feminism? Desi women.

[Sehrysh]

Re: Your job his job

So in other words all three of you women would give up your jobs if your husband didn't like the idea. Who killed feminism? Desi women.

Here's the deal: When I was introduced to a rishta I wasn't so enthused about, in the moments I thought, meh, might as well say yes, I might be able to muddle along in a relationship with him, my career and the continuation of it was a HUGE sticking point. He on his own wasn't enough to make me happy and I wanted the satisfaction and accomplishment of a career to help make me happy.

When I was introduced to someone who I thought could make me happy, I thought, career-shmareer, who cares about that. The idea of him and being in a happy relationship with him was enough to make me content. The career was irrelevant.

Sunshine, it all depends on what that career means in one's life and what that relationship means. Neither is static and choosing one over the other doesn't sound the death knell for feminism - it's a choice. That's feminism.

[CM]

Re: Your job his job

Most feminists would die of shock reading that. So which is it? Move without him, force him to move or not even consider the offer?

[Sehrysh]

Re: Your job his job

Most feminists would die of shock reading that. So which is it? Move without him, force him to move or not even consider the offer?

Move without him - NO
**Force him to move - **NO
Not even consider the offer - **NO

**Option number four - think about how much I really want this job and how it would impact him and our family. If it's important enough to me and the impact to him is minimal or manageable, then we discuss it and come to a joint decision.

[ZareenKhan]

Re: Your job his job

@CM

Only for unmarried guppans.

Simple question. You both have jobs. You get a job offer to move cities/countries.

Do you take it and leave your husband with his job or force him to move to where you are or not take the job offer.

I won’t take the job offer.

#1. Moving to another country/city for a job/more money can never be my priority :nono:.

#2. It’s the husband’s duty to provide for me and the family, so i wl gladly let him do it and not come in his way :k:.

#3. I want to be a housewife and want a working husband not vice versa .

Let’s suppose god forbid the husband can’t provide, in such a case i am sure there won’t be any forcing required to get the husband to move as it will be for the family’s survival.

[NomiCA]

Re: Your job his job

@Sehrysh

Move without him - **NO
**Force him to move - NO
Not even consider the offer - **NO

Option number four - think about how much I really want this job and how it would impact him and our family. If it’s important enough to me and the impact to him is minimal or manageable, then we discuss it and come to a joint decision.**

now can a woman do that with all the emotional overload

[CM]

Re: Your job his job

LMAO!!!

[redvelvet]

Re: Your job his job

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[redvelvet]

Re: Your job his job

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[Sehrysh]

Re: Your job his job

All mocking aside boys, do you honestly think that women are not capable of making selfless decisions? Or is it just guppans whose capacity for kindness that you doubt?

[NomiCA]

Re: Your job his job

@Sehrysh

All mocking aside boys, do you honestly think that women are not capable of making selfless decisions? Or is it just guppans whose capacity for kindness that you doubt?

guppans…

PS… i admire your honesty about distinguishing guppans from rest of the women…:k:

[redvelvet]

Re: Your job his job

All mocking aside boys, do you honestly think that women are not capable of making selfless decisions? Or is it just guppans whose capacity for kindness that you doubt?

They've been brutally rejected by women in real life.....(any wonder?). Hence the lack of faith in the capacity for kindness and ability to reason...in virtual women.

[NomiCA]

Re: Your job his job

^now i am beginning think CM was right about khan sab :

[Sehrysh]

Re: Your job his job

@NomiCA

guppans…

PS… i admire your honesty about distinguishing guppans from rest of the women…:k:

I’m pointing out that you guppies distinguish between guppans and real life women.

@redvelvet

They’ve been brutally rejected by women in real life…(any wonder?).

Aha! So that’s why. Becharay men, how sad