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How on earth did you people attract older guys when you were 12/13?? Didn't the guys see you watching Nickolodeon or the Disney channel?
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^ apparently not 
ok i just remembered…i kinda got a rishta when I was in HS (16-17) but it was from family, so they knew us…thank GOD my parents (well my dad actually) turned it down, i didn’t even know about it til after the guy got married.
LOL! i looked older than 12 maybe that’s why! i looked like i was 15-16 as a 12 year old, unfortunately. Plus, when you get rishtas within your family they check you out all the time anyway..no matter how old you are!
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I think parents are also kinda in a hurry . Ka jaldi jaldi jaan chotay :D
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No. Parents are trying to nab the good catches earlier on. Because that's how quickly we are weeding ourselves as a race out of the globe's gene pool.
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^ PCG . . . think out of beaker man 
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Well, the only other explanation is that boys' parents are just as pervy as their boys.
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I think more reasonable explanation is our centuries old tradition of expanding and increasing our family networks . It is part of human nature that he likes to create relationships as soon as he gets a chance . It provides security and resources . I think our parents follow the same instinct and want their offspring to help them build this family network .
On the other hand we have families who feel more resourceful and secure, and do not feel this need of being associated with someone else .
Well, the only other explanation is that boys' parents are just as pervy as their boys.
LOL. Maybe so. It's hard for me to imagine that many guys, for example in their late 20s/early 30s would request mommy n daddy to find a girl who is 15-18 years old. Can't picture many would do this, although I'm sure there are exceptions. Usually you hear the guy's mommy saying "Humain 16-18 years ki larki chahiye." Who is "humain" in this equation? Does "humain" include her son. Or is the mom calling all the shots? I have a hard time picturing many dad debating age of a girl. These matters are usually handled by moms/sisters. Maybe they don't see how they come across. Oh well.
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First rishta came at 14...... I didn't even know about it till recently. The guy was in his late 20's .... ewe. Too creepy. Considering that my dad is still coming to terms with me being engaged recently (at almost 26) .... you can imagine how appalled he was then and how fast that rishtaa was rejected! LOL.
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It might be a regional or tribal thing. In our family, this kind of thing is unheard of.
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And that's the other thing - you guys are all saying how fast your families rejected rishtas that came to you in your early teens...You'd think people would learn that girls' families are not into this sort of thing and would cut it out.
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I am actually surprised that people are calling early marriages disgusting. Quite shameful, knowing that in Islam, early marriages are encouraged. If someone doesn't want to marry young, fine, but that doesn't mean that they should get all smug about it and pass sweeping judgements whether its disgusting or not.
Given a choice , personally, I am in a big favor of early marriages or atleast nikahs. Rukhsati can come later on. This could prevent a lot of crap that goes on in the name of "finding my soul mate".
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Being the youngest daughter of my parents I used to be very much relaxed about my marriage till all of my sisters got married. I was 21 or 22 when I got my first proposal right after the 2 months of the marriage of my last sister. That proposal wasn't taken very seriously by my father because he thought that time I was too young to get married :@: Since Allah had already made my couple so I didn't get married in any of those families that brought proposals to my parents.
OMG, my cousin is like a year older then me (she's 15) and she -was- almost being asked for a rishta with my other 20 year old cousin. I was like, O_o.
I don't like early marriages. I like it if the bride is around 18 but she needs to be mature enough as well as the man, who can't be WAYYY older then her. >>;
Early marriages aren't so bad, but in societies it is given a bad name because they are forced. D:
You don’t find anything wrong with child marriages? Why should there even be nikkah whe they are young? How can a CHILD decide whats right or wrong for her?
Islam doesn’t encourage child marriages, stop justifying everything with religon and get your head out of the sand.
Looks like you will be marrying off your 14 year olds then I take it. :halo:
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i was in grade 8..he was my first cousin..my mom said a big NO :D..
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haye,,,,i am still waiting for my first one (a) lolz
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^ makeup kar k ghar sey bahir jaya karein.. sahid koi farak parye..
I am actually surprised that people are calling early marriages disgusting. Quite shameful, knowing that in Islam, early marriages are encouraged. If someone doesn't want to marry young, fine, but that doesn't mean that they should get all smug about it and pass sweeping judgements whether its disgusting or not.
Given a choice , personally, I am in a big favor of early marriages or atleast nikahs. Rukhsati can come later on. This could prevent a lot of crap that goes on in the name of "finding my soul mate".
While I'm in favor of early marriages, it's a relative term. For me, girls getting married at 18-22s is early. If they're mature enough and have the right guy for them then yeah- but pushing to get it done at that age or worrying about it is not my thing, esp. since at that age most of us are still going for our first college degree and haven't had much exposure to the real world.
I actually don't know about my first rishta because like most of you, my parents wouldn't tell me. First official one that I know about (only because it came to me instead of my parents) was through a friend when I was 21, it was a mutual friend's brother, and I have no idea why I said no- yep, that's how weird I was!
Oh and I never told my parents about it either maybe I should now