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I remember once an auntie came to see our newborn and started telling me how I should move around more to get back in shape…I was like WTH I’ve just had a baby, leave me alone. grrrr 
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Now before some people start accusing me of blindly defending Pakistan (or whatever they call it), let me make myself clear.
Most of the people above are mentioning their relatives (or people they know well) saying offensive things bluntly in the face. I know many goray who have the same problem, their relatives who cant keep their mouths shut and have to pick on every little negativity they find in the other. Like somebody said before, those are your relatives (not that they have a right to diss you) and that's why they feel the urge to remind you of the 'bitter truth'.
Now tell me, how many times did it happen that a non relative/ajnabee desi come to you to make a stupid remark about your appearance?
Re: Your appearance and desi culture
Now before some people start accusing me of blindly defending Pakistan (or whatever they call it), let me make myself clear.
Most of the people above are mentioning their relatives (or people they know well) saying offensive things bluntly in the face. I know many goray who have the same problem, their relatives who cant keep their mouths shut and have to pick on every little negativity they find in the other. Like somebody said before, those are your relatives (not that they have a right to diss you) and that's why they feel the urge to remind you of the 'bitter truth'.
Now tell me, how many times did it happen that a non relative/ajnabee desi come to you to make a stupid remark about your appearance?
a desi woman in the market (when I used to run a market stall) she said, "tum kitni khubsurat ho". That was just creepy.
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^ I was talking about stupid remarks, offensive things, dissing.
Complimenting one of his/her beauty isnt stupid now, is it?
Btw, if it had been a gori woman, would you still find it creepy?
Btw 2, i called you pretty when i saw your picture in your blog. Did that creeped you out too? 
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lol…but you’re no stranger. 
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Anyway, thanks everyone for commenting....on the topic. I get that this annoying behaviour isn't limited to desi people only and can be found in goras too, and that I have yet to experience some nasty comments coming from gora friends or neighbors. Alright, I'm waiting.
Re: Your appearance and desi culture
Now before some people start accusing me of blindly defending Pakistan (or whatever they call it), let me make myself clear.
Most of the people above are mentioning their relatives (or people they know well) saying offensive things bluntly in the face.** I know many goray who have the same problem, their relatives who cant keep their mouths shut and have to pick on every little negativity they find in the other. Like somebody said before, those are your relatives (not that they have a right to diss you) and that's why they feel the urge to remind you of the 'bitter truth'. **
Now tell me, how many times did it happen that a non relative/ajnabee desi come to you to make a stupid remark about your appearance?
They do it but it's pretty rare for a white adult to make a negative comment about a child's looks..
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Do crazy people on buses count?
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^That reminds me, when I go waxing at the salon in PK, I always get asked why I wear hijab since I live in America. ufff.
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^ This is no different from gora asking you, you're Irish how come you are a teetotalitarian.
I've seen plenty of time Western folks asking Muslim girls why they don't do Hijab since they're form Middle East.
Sometime people are just curious. Its not their fault that they haven't traveled far enough thus have a very limited idea about countries from totally different continents
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That part of the world would be Canada, Wales, England, France and Dubai. Is that West enough for you? Not mentioning the countless other places where I have friends. Go to any highschool or college. You get stick while you're growing up all the time.
Next time you want to spout off about 'the part of the world I live in' maybe try and choke on a pretzel?
i have been to highschool in Canada, all four years, so i know what i m talking about
may be you just happen to come across some bigtime bullies in your highschool
it depends on the individual, not part of the world they live in, wether or not they are judgemental abt others' looks...its nothing to new to know some people give u a stick bcoz of the way u look and i never said it doesn't happen at all in the west, i said i haven't seen it happening, not atleast that i can remember rite now...
whereas, after i moved to pak..."oh that girl's so pretty" that pretty girl passes by them, they want to say a hi to her, make friends with her ...or they will go "iss may kis cheez ki kami hai, lambi hai, gori hai" ....its all about sucking up to the "good looking" ones in pakistani highschools and uni's
so its a fact, u agree or not, generally the west is more accepting towards looks than desi people (those living in pakistan)
You have seen that happening, but you didnt see happening what they all do behind the back, because well... it happens behind the back.
Good and bad is everywhere. I live in the west too, and I see a lot of this nastyness happening here (done by goray). So it's definitely not a desi trait.
ofcourse, its a personality trait, not a desi trait, and it can be found in any individual...but it just happens to be that you see it more in desi people
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Are you kidding me?
Look at the countless arranged marriages where the most unseemly matches get made regularly!
You wouldn’t find that anywhere in the world! 
P.S. Lucky you! For the most part, school and what not is full of bullying; subtle or otherwise.
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name_105. Goras are no angels and no they're not in love with you if they're not picking on your physical appearance!!!!
What you are talking about is called political correctness and existence of anti racist laws in a multicultural society. We here in West cannot make fun or criticize people of other nationality without getting accused of being racist. Its a fact and thats the bottom line.
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well that’s the thing, its marriage, u are getting a spouse, not a new classmate…and anyone wishful of a successful marriage would not want to give a stick to their other half just bcoz of the way they look, there are things more bothersome than that in a marriage
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well that's the thing, its marriage, u are getting a spouse, not a new classmate...and anyone wishful of a successful marriage would not want to give a stick to their other half just bcoz of the way they look, there are things more bothersome than that in a marriage
-_-'
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I don't know...someone recently mentioned in other thread how Pakistanis have left reading books, that alone tells a lot about them.
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Its not just the Pakistanis that are going away from reading books.
I understand we might have lots of **** to work on but seriously people, you're saying the same kind of thing that Black, White, Yellow and Brown people everywhere say about their own races. Everyone has **** to sort out.
Y U NO LOVE URSELF?!
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name_105. Goras are no angels and no they're not in love with you if they're not picking on your physical appearance!!!!
What you are talking about is called political correctness and existence of anti racist laws in a multicultural society. We here in West cannot make fun or criticize people of other nationality without getting accused of being racist. Its a fact and thats a bottom line.
your post made me laugh
i wud rather have goras pick on me than love me, seriously
your point's right, i know that law too, thats why i mentioned you see it more in pakistan
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your post made me laugh
i** wud rather have goras pick on me than love me,** seriously
your point's right, i know that law too, thats why i mentioned you see it more in pakistan
Well then, I think your wish came true with Pakistanis. Now here's something to laugh about. :D
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i have got asked that too…“bahar toh larkiyan bhot advanced hoti hain, aut tum hijaab laiti hoti”
seriously, look how they even put it…so its backward to practice islam, they want us to end up in hell 