thanks Pathani.
for sharing what you shared here.
intense but the thought of peace you have is that you are the honest one.
such people end up in ruins. and that is their choice to some extent.
they choose to be so.
same for anyone, if people were taking advantage of someone.
sounds difficult to accept, but an emotionally disturbed man can be forgiven when he realizes what he has done and that he has the strength to address his wrong doing.
but the sad thing is that some people in this world, are unable to accept their own flaws. they project on others and in reality, their emotions are suffocated that is why.
wish you thebest now.
:)
dushwari
Bhai DF, let us get things straight.
She knew he was about to get married with me. She was engaged to another man. He had a son from previous marriage. He came all the way from US along with family and son and she simply told him that she loved sum1 else. The arranged marriage was cancelled and she kept on dating meeting my ex in public. I think, I was more ashamed of her behaviour than herself. I played things straight and I dont give a d a m n about them both. They ruined selfesteem and got me to the point of wanting to end myself while being a new wed bride. I just couldnt see how I could tell my family what he was doing against me in a total foreign country. We were engaged for over 2 years. He had only known her as a new friend for six months.
Why should an emotional disturbed man be forgiven?
There is no forgiveness in my heart. He robbed me for all I had saved up
much more. Just a namard. A planned evil action as that, is not the sort
that should be forgiven. Ok, enough about this. Just thought to give u the right prospective.
IF I saw a new couple married and happy, even if the man had promissed me marriage, I would leave them alone. How many times, have I not been offered to become second wife and declined it? Becaz, what I cant do to others, I dont want it for myself either.
oh god.. I neva eva wud accept a souten .. i cud jus neva bear the thought him beein with someone new.. and besides all that ... no woman on this earth wud eva like to be " number 2 " ...
There is no such thing as number 2, it is all in your head.
If man has FIRST wife and then SECOND wife, the numbering would only be used to sketch a TIME LINE of the marriages and NOT to have a freaking competition.
yeah..i'll let him get married and i wont get divorce....but i wont be nice with him anymore.
Exactly as decent women from decent families would do. You can respect his choice, but it doesnt mean that he also deserved your feelings 100 %.
Some men learn the hard way, by loosing first wife and being a unwanted person in second wife's live..he stands no where. He will face the ugly fortune of growing old in bitterness.
Dear Pathani, I truly hope and pray that you find a man one day who has a heart of gold and an everlasting love for you. I never thought I'd find that but i did...later than I would have liked but heck, a happy ending is worth the wait yeah? May it happen for you too. You sound like a strong and decent person, one who deserves the love of a prince of a man. They ARE out there and they DO recognize good women who want nothing but the best for their families. One day your prince will come as disney says!
yeah..i'll let him get married and i wont get divorce....but i wont be nice with him anymore.
totally agree....i would probably stay away from him and keep myself busy so i don't have to think of it....but i would not accept him the same way as i would if he was just married to me.
yeah..i'll let him get married and i wont get divorce....but i wont be nice with him anymore.
Exactly as decent women from decent families would do. You can respect his choice, but it doesnt mean that he also deserved your feelings 100 %.
Some men learn the hard way, by loosing first wife and being a unwanted person in second wife's live..he stands no where. He will face the ugly fortune of growing old in bitterness.
totally agree....i would probably stay away from him and keep myself busy so i don't have to think of it....but i would not accept him the same way as i would if he was just married to me.
after reading the above replies ....i asked myself... then why would you want stay within the marriage? a marriage isnt a marriage if you have ill feelings towards your spouse or you arent giving him your 100% .....you are better off divorced then living a lie.
after reading the above replies ....i asked myself... then why would you want stay within the marriage? a marriage isnt a marriage if you have ill feelings towards your spouse or you arent giving him your 100% .....you are better off divorced then living a lie.
Angeleyes,
The thing is, for us living abroad, we can take out own decisions and most likely our families will support us in that.
However, for many women....how will they get by along with kids in Pakistan or other Asian countries? So it might be inconviniet, but its a matter of survival for others......
thanks Pathani.
for sharing what you shared here.
intense but the thought of peace you have is that you are the honest one.
such people end up in ruins. and that is their choice to some extent.
they choose to be so.
same for anyone, if people were taking advantage of someone.
sounds difficult to accept, but an emotionally disturbed man can be forgiven when he realizes what he has done and that he has the strength to address his wrong doing.
but the sad thing is that some people in this world, are unable to accept their own flaws. they project on others and in reality, their emotions are suffocated that is why.
wish you thebest now.
:)
dushwari
.same here .......pathani baji my prayers r with u ... wish you thebest for ur coming future ..:)
Angeleyes,
The thing is, for us living abroad, we can take out own decisions and most likely our families will support us in that.
However, for many women....how will they get by along with kids in Pakistan or other Asian countries? So it might be inconviniet, but its a matter of survival for others......
Dear Pathani, I truly hope and pray that you find a man one day who has a heart of gold and an everlasting love for you. I never thought I'd find that but i did...later than I would have liked but heck, a happy ending is worth the wait yeah? May it happen for you too. You sound like a strong and decent person, one who deserves the love of a prince of a man. They ARE out there and they DO recognize good women who want nothing but the best for their families. One day your prince will come as disney says!
In few words, may you have paradise on earth along with your beloved family, ameen. Thanks for such generous words and all the duas you sent out in the universe for me....surely Allahjee hears all, knows all.....ameen. So I will do my part and thats to keep my eyes open/options open. May Allahjee grant me whats better for my family and myself, ameen.
Im sorry to say it very bluntly, but in some jamaats it is more likely to be kept in niqah until death than other jamaats… Perhaps we need a new thread to look upon conditions of talaq and rights of women belonging to different jamaats? I think, its quiet interesting.
when som1 is nt living with u nor supports u financially …