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of course, it's not her fault that someone victimized her. having known someone who unfortunately went through that, it's not so easy to "fake" that because it leaves emotional scars waghera, so I don't think there would be a major problem in doubting if the girl is just making up an abuse story to cover up for a wild past.

i think its really sad if a guy would reject a girl because of that.. us bechari ka kya kasoor? if she's a good girl and all then why not?

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^ :slight_smile:

:k:

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If she tell me b4 marrying and wanna move on then i don't think ke there will be any problem and even if she told me after marriage then ofcourse some discussion will be there and v have to compromise with each other for better life. can't live with pas forever

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I would not do so. Simply because the emotional trauma that the women suffered is something I do not wish to deal with.

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But then it isn't fair for society to leave them hanging.

How do I become mature?
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luv2moon :k:

CM - thats sad :bummer: poor paki girls who dont get given a chance

How do I become mature?
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it isnt and thats why you will always find people who will have no problem marrying her and thats why they say that diversed society is a blessing

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nice concluding argument decent chora... it makes me feel warm and fuzzy.. always a glimmer of hope

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Thanx lady_lama :hypo:

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I would make sure if she was raped first hand...now that is CONTROVERSIAL!

The answer is, No! Why should I!?!

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Why not? It makes no sense to hold that against her; she's a victim and it's not her fault, so it shouldn't be a negative point against her. Like I said earlier in the thread, if she's nice with good values, someone you get along with, etc. all the usual things you would look for, then it's unfair and pretty sad to "disqualify" her because of something that isn't even her fault.

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If she has the qualities i want in my wife, then i would.

They won’t say a single word. They know it’s my decision and most probably they will be fine with it and respect it.

If she sits down with me before marriage and tell me everything and that she was a victim of this…i wouldn’t really care about it and won’t hold it against her. As said above, if she has the qualities I expect in my wife and we both get along fine, then i don’t see why not?

I’ll get few ISI people to spy on her for few months just to make sure she is not cheating again.:hehe: Just kidding.

I’ll appreciate if she tells me all this before Shaadi…but i wouldn’t really mind id she tells me after marriage…everyone has had a past…if she is ready to put aside her past and moves on then i won’t have a problem with it. I wouldn’t get suspicious because she had the guts to tell me and shows she’s being honest. However, if i find this out from someone else i.e. from her close friend, ex.. then i will definately have a problem with it and will definately get suspicious. I will also get 2-3 people to Spy on her and find out what she’s upto behind my back.

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what i dont get is, why the family even comes into question here? i dont care how "accepting" or respectful etc the families of the guys here are, is their daughter-in-law's virginity status really any of their business?

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^^ Just shows the asian mentality......i am sure most 'educated' families won't even have an issue with it.

Only narrow & retard minded families have issues.....

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i'm not saying that they would have issues..but my point is, why they even have a right to know about any of this?

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they don’t have any right…it’s just those narrow & retard minded families who think they have a right to know…

seriously, i haven’t heard of or came across a single family who want to know whether their DIL is virgin or not:omg: :omg:

I guess only few such families exist…:hmmm:

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sara to be honest... ive only heard about the whole daughter in law being a virgin thing from arabs and then when i came to life 1... I had no idea myself that it was so widely practiced within paki's... and regarding your 'why do families have the right to know about the DIL's virginity' qn... personally i dont think its none of their business and to my knowledge its never happened in my relatives but you know there are some guys on here that cant take a toilet break without asking for mummy's permission...

On the other hand... some families, if they found out, may chose to make a girls life hell if she wasn't "pure" for their oh so pure sons.

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:k: good! =) and thats the way it shud be! thank god theres somewhat of a decent balance between the narrow minded and the normal minded guys!

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