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Nani nani hota hai her waqat
Lolz. I think there shud be a balance. Both maternal and paternal grandparents are important in a child's life.
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I even saw a lady asking paternal grand parents not to touch her kids....shouting them out of home :(
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If my in- laws are nice I will have no problems whatsoever living with them.
Having said that though I suppose my first preference would be to live separately...only because it imposes less restrictions/pressure on the marriage especially in the initial stages when the couple are just learning to live with one another.
However, a son owes his parents a responsibility to look after them and if I am married into a family where my hubby is the oldest/ only son I would most certainly encourage him to have his parents live with us.
Wow! That's a very grown up reply. I agree and understand exactly were your coming from! Thumbs up!
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I grew up in a joint-family system and absolutely love it. So I would like to live in a similar family system. I would actually be disappointed if he didn’t have parents. I think for me, having an elderly figure who can be there to guide with the children’s upbringing and instilling cultural values will be important. 
But then again I yet don’t have in-laws so never know what I would prefer. If my MIL is more like a monster in law then obviously I would prefer to live by myself. :hinna:
I think living with in-laws is mostly common amongst desis. I’ve seen amongst Arabs and Iranians they tend to live separately.
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Agreeing that life is indeed a tough and not fair. However, that does not mean women has to put up with it all. As you mentioned in earlier post that Islam is a logical religion and there for it states that its a wife’s right to ask for a separate quarter for herself and her kids. She is not required to live with his parents if she is not comfortable. It is recommended for a husband to give his wife a separate house close to his own parents home to make sure he is not neglecting them either. But its not “westernized thought” for any woman to ask her husband for personal space.
I agree with Shak that a women leaves her house after getting married its only fair that she should only have to put up with adjusting with her husband first. On another note, It’s not a wife’s responsibility to do “khidmat” of her in-laws. There mentalities have came from Hindu culture. The idea of moving in with in laws and then expecting wife to take care of in laws and forget about her own. Don’t forget that the wife has her own parents to look after as well. and just because she is married now doesn’t takes away from the faraiz she has towards her own parents.
Also, the perks that you mentioned that girl get. Please elaborate with factual information.
Here is a link to support the Islam indeed support the right of a wife to have her own house.
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1134297197872
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Lol first you say they all dont let their inlaws enter their homes…then you say not all but most…and then you say they dont actually refuse them to enter their home>>>decide what you are saying and stick to it, why are you changing your answer every little while?
Hearing ‘things’ around doesnt make em authentic, they could or could not be right
Its a very informative link with proper sources not just stuff ‘heard around’ do read it so ur less hurt 
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Check these links out:
http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=12&ID=4847&CATE=1
http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=1&ID=273&
http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=1&ID=7128&CATE=10
**You will not find any reputable Islamic source that encourages the joint family system the way desis practise it. **
Living with MIL + FIL who are genuinely ill or lonely is of course a totally different thing tho..
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Mam, I askd for Quranic reference not what a scholar says or interprets. Even then if you read the link carefuly u would understand the importance of serving the parents and it stresses on close by accomodation.
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Lol first you say they all dont let their inlaws enter their homes.......then you say not all but most........and then you say they dont actually refuse them to enter their home>>>decide what you are saying and stick to it, why are you changing your answer every little while?
Hearing 'things' around doesnt make em authentic, they could or could not be right
I corrected myself cuz i know most wouldnt be able to do that even if they so desire. Any harm in it? Atleast i corrected myself.
I never said what you hear is always authentic and if u had read my post u wud have noticed i didnt claim it was THE ultimate study or truth.
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^ if you're happy to move in with you're in laws then good for you, just know that its not an Islamic requirement, (if so provide Quranic references) hence there is no need to go on about it as if its a crime. Its a personal preferance for every woman, and it is the woman who should have a say on whether she wishes to give up on her marital right or not.
Also please let us know once you've actually married and moved in, we'll be looking forward to hear about your experiences. Until then, you are still living in an fantasy world.
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^ you said it very well and I agree.
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no me will want to live separately because me want to live independently
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^ if you're happy to move in with you're in laws then good for you, just know that its not an Islamic requirement, (if so provide Quranic references) hence there is no need to go on about it as if its a crime. Its a personal preferance for every woman, and it is the woman who should have a say on whether she wishes to give up on her marital right or not.
Also please let us know once you've actually married and moved in, we'll be looking forward to hear about your experiences. Until then, you are still living in an fantasy world.
theek hai. aap khush ho jao.
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and one shouldnt be ashamed to exercise their rights.
These days people have mixed traditions & culture into religious rights & duties which is wrong… no wonder weird views popping out in this thread!!
:k:
Shak are you a male?? Its so rare to see sensitive & understanding guys these days
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Shak is a male name 
Well, I am rare 
^
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haha no offence but she could have assumed it to be short for shakira 
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^lol
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i can never imagine living with inlaws. i think its unnatural for married couples to live with parents.
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A question for all the girls out there.. there seems to be so many threads on MIL/SIL issues. If you had the option would you live separately or still with your in-laws?
That depends on the character of the in-laws. If they're nice reasonable people not making a problem and fight out of everything and not telling their son to mistreat me and my children, then I wouldn't mind living with them.